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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/10/2010 11:29:17 PM

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A question came to mind from another thread, and i didn't want to hijack it. Please, let me apologize for my typing and spelling more so today then normal, i am in having a very painful, fibromyalgia day. But enquiring mind needed to know, so i will ask.

Do you as a Dom/mee feel you can learn anything from your s-type? Do you see your s-type of value in learning other things in life that might be of interest to you? Or,do you see the s-type as helpless and has nothing of worth to offer you in the growth as a human being, including the dominant side of you? Do you feel the s-type is a child with out any knowing? If so is this part of more of a Daddy/child relationship or Mommy/child? Or is this beyond that type of relationship?

I believe there are many valuable lessons a Dom can give their s-type, yet i wonder if value in seen in the s-type mind.?This has been on my mind for awhile, since i am not use to this type of thinking, and was wondering if it is a main theme with Doms. Thank you for your replies.

wisdomtogive

(CNJDom says:) I most certainly learn from my submissive as they learn from me. It's a part of the process to learn not only about each other, but the likes and dislikes, fears and desires, and such. I also learn a great deal from her on non-BDSM subjects and value her opinions. I think everyone should have an open-mind and the will to accept that they don't know everything...how can you learn anything if you already know everything? Anything less would be a sign of ignorance and narrow-mindedness in my opinion.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 6:18:41 AM

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the first thing you want to learn is their cc number and pin

Was that comment directed to LP, osf? If so, care to explain it?

Oh, I think it was just an attempt at a personal attack. I know it's really difficult for those who have so little to offer that they believe everyone is paying someone just to spend time with them, but there really are women interested in BDSM just for the sake of the play and the dynamics.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 6:21:53 AM

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You know, I didn't get that at all.... sometimes I am so naive..... oh well.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 7:42:15 AM

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

A question came to mind from another thread, and i didn't want to hijack it. Please, let me apologize for my typing and spelling more so today then normal, i am in having a very painful, fibromyalgia day. But enquiring mind needed to know, so i will ask.

Do you as a Dom/mee feel you can learn anything from your s-type? Do you see your s-type of value in learning other things in life that might be of interest to you? Or,do you see the s-type as helpless and has nothing of worth to offer you in the growth as a human being, including the dominant side of you? Do you feel the s-type is a child with out any knowing? If so is this part of more of a Daddy/child relationship or Mommy/child? Or is this beyond that type of relationship?

I believe there are many valuable lessons a Dom can give their s-type, yet i wonder if value in seen in the s-type mind.?This has been on my mind for awhile, since i am not use to this type of thinking, and was wondering if it is a main theme with Doms. Thank you for your replies.

wisdomtogive

I was lucky enough in my early days and whilst still part of the Gorean Lifestyle to spend quite some time with a number of my Gorean Mentors in the US and learned a great deal from kajiri. I continue to learn from both subs and slaves who I know socially. But then again I am of the opinion I can learning something from every single person I meet if i am so inclined (Which I mostly am).

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 7:52:21 AM

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the first thing you want to learn is their cc number and pin

MANY MANY Of us have our own funds...from years of hard work and investments IN fact...from 1993-2000 a sub got $33,000 out of MY ACCOUNTS..
and do I go on and on about it..?? nope
Petty assed BS remarks like this serve NO PURPOSE...

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 8:18:15 AM

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Thanks to everyone who responded.In my opinion if an Dom/mee could not find value to learn from their s-type, then they really are the fool. If they feel the need to pursue this path so be it...since they would never have the opportunity to be in my world, for me it doesn't matter.

I have a speciality pie i make for those type...feeding them humble pie and of course a healthy dose would be served to them.

I been fortunate to have men in my life who can lead and also want to learn what others, including me can teach them. To me they aren't trying to prove their dominance, they just are. Good to see the majority of answers here felt the same way.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 5:03:48 PM

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I believe it's an AC Cobra.

I also think it's his real hair..... don't want to kick a guy when he is down........

Actualy... thats kinda what I do... still...... looks like real hair.

Jeff

Yeah, that's what it is; don't know if it's a kit, the one pic has him with it, in a group, probably weal.

And he's got a 'vette.

And a boat.

Geez, look at the one pic, he's even got a pair of knockers.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 9:40:12 PM

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Do you as a Dom/mee feel you can learn anything from your s-type?

This is not a question about Doms/Dommes or subs. This is a question about human relationships. In ANY relationship, each person can learn something from the other.

This is true of EVERYONE. You know things that i don't know. i know things that you don't know. Each person has different areas of knowledge. Different life experiences. Thus, EVERYONE knows something that others don't.

IMHO, any D-type who doesn't understand this is either too self-absorbed or too stupid to even take on the title of "Dom/Domme".

Just because someone relates to the role of Dom/Domme in their relationships does not mean that they are omniscient. Nor does relating to the role of submissive make one an imbecile.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/11/2010 9:46:54 PM

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This is absolutely nut. The purpose of the Sub/Slave is to serve the Dom/me and should he/she should function as a depository and as meat with a heart-beat.

Ummmmmmm...........................................(You've left me speechless, and that's pretty hard to do).

i am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you were attempting to add a bit of levity to this discussion. If you weren't being facetious, then i recommend therapy. Years and years of therapy.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/12/2010 8:45:42 AM

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I am open to learn... who the teacher is less important than the learning to me. I have learned much from my girls as they have from me. I have learned a thing or two from the fool just as I have learn a thing or two from the sage. I try to place no expetation of who I will learn from and who I will not learn from... I just try to place an expectation on myself to learn!

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/12/2010 10:48:37 AM

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Do you as a Dom/mee feel you can learn anything from your s-type? Do you see your s-type of value in learning other things in life that might be of interest to you?
wisdomtogive

I've learned quite a few things, over the years, from servants in our household. I've also learned quite a few things from my offspring and our dogs and snakes. Being open to life-lessons, wherever they come from, makes living an adventure, regardless of which side of the kneel one is on.

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/15/2010 7:51:10 AM

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of course i do. i value my slaves knowledge and input in many areas of our daily life. the self defeated, worthless, self loathing sub is of no use to me at all.

not only do people mistake confidence for arrogance, but people also mistake arrogance as their own self confidence. kindness mistaken for weakness, etc, etc. just because my slave submits to me as its master does not mean my slave is this spineless coward. quite the opposite really, i think it takes a lot of courage to submit to someone. i find it hard not to admire that courage.

if you think you are to smart to learn something, you probably arent that smart to begin with

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/15/2010 8:40:20 AM

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I have been very priveledged to have known people who are/were confident without a hint of arrogance. These people knew what they believed in and stood by it without insulting another. They learned from everything and everyone for all things in life teach. I have been fortunate, just sad there are not a lot of them in the world. Maybe that is what makes this type even more special.?

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RE: Dom/mee do you learn from you s-types? - 1/18/2010 3:21:47 PM

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Of course!

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ORIGINAL: wisdomtogive

A question came to mind from another thread, and i didn't want to hijack it. Please, let me apologize for my typing and spelling more so today then normal, i am in having a very painful, fibromyalgia day. But enquiring mind needed to know, so i will ask.

Do you as a Dom/mee feel you can learn anything from your s-type? Do you see your s-type of value in learning other things in life that might be of interest to you? Or,do you see the s-type as helpless and has nothing of worth to offer you in the growth as a human being, including the dominant side of you? Do you feel the s-type is a child with out any knowing? If so is this part of more of a Daddy/child relationship or Mommy/child? Or is this beyond that type of relationship?

I believe there are many valuable lessons a Dom can give their s-type, yet i wonder if value in seen in the s-type mind.?This has been on my mind for awhile, since i am not use to this type of thinking, and was wondering if it is a main theme with Doms. Thank you for your replies.

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