laurell3
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My first experience switching was very similar to the one that you describe generally. I did it merely because my partner wanted me to, however, at the time, I only identified as submissive, which is still my primary and with most people preferred and identified role. I didn't attempt to dominate him, I made no demands on myself to be anything other than what I was, I did top him, ie: the physical activites were there, but the mental was not. In my experience, lo and behold, I discovered that in addition to being a masochist I had a sadistic streak, seeing him in pain turned me on immensely. From there on an occasional switch was born, but I do have to tell you that the way I work (which certainly isn't the same for everyone of course), if I don't identify with someone as them being submissive, I cannot dominate them. Top them, yes, but not the whole package and I personally cannot switch with men I have been submissive to with the rare exception of an occasional switch that I can identify with in both roles. Be honest with yourself and with him and give it a try, don't put pressure on yourself to be anything other than what you are and just play and see how it goes.
< Message edited by laurell3 -- 5/2/2010 9:18:39 PM >
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