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How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:25:52 AM

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So I'm about to ask a bunch of complete strangers on the net to validate something I already know:

Person referrenced in this post:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_2993341/mpage_3/key_/tm.htm#3007449
sent me an email:

Hey You! translation- Give me a minute, I'll remember your name
How are you doing? translationReady, willing, and available I hope
Give me a call when you get a chance- meansI'm horny and your my best prosepct right now

Now, somebody tell me I'm right, and take away my phone and save me from myself.

RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:29:05 AM

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I do not understand the entire context here...

But I think you know the answer to the question you are asking... if it feels like shit don't do it. Futility is doing the same thing over and over again hoping for a different outcome from the last time you did it....

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:30:54 AM

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Futility is doing the same thing over and over again hoping for a different outcome from the last time you did it....

I thought that was insanity?

and OP if it's something you already know, then what is the point in me validating it?

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:31:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: afkarr

So I'm about to ask a bunch of complete strangers on the net to validate something I already know:

You might also get a lot of "WTF are you talking about ?" responses.

Validation is a stretch at this point.

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:34:58 AM

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Step outside this for a bit and look at it from my perspective. There's a very interesting contradiction here.

You sound really smart.
You act really stupid.

Why do you think that is?

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:37:53 AM

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Futility is doing the same thing over and over again hoping for a different outcome from the last time you did it....

I thought that was insanity?

Can confirm this.

You know your insanity.

Hey, that came out wrong, meh.

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:40:02 AM

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ORIGINAL: afkarr

So I'm about to ask a bunch of complete strangers on the net to validate something I already know:

Person referrenced in this post:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_2993341/mpage_3/key_/tm.htm#3007449
sent me an email:

Hey You! translation- Give me a minute, I'll remember your name
How are you doing? translationReady, willing, and available I hope
Give me a call when you get a chance- meansI'm horny and your my best prosepct right now

Now, somebody tell me I'm right, and take away my phone and save me from myself.

OMG you're right!!! If you call him, I will personally take away your phone priveleges for a month!! DON'T do it!!!!!

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:43:02 AM

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Step outside this for a bit and look at it from my perspective. There's a very interesting contradiction here.

You sound really smart.
You act really stupid.

Why do you think that is?

Because he has this way of fucking with my mind sometimes?

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:49:06 AM

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Because he has this way of fucking with my mind sometimes?

Do you realize that he appears as the only subject in this sentence, and you appear nowhere? Only your "mind" appears, as an inanimate object.

Does that seem healthy to you?

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 7:56:52 AM

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I must have missed your post in that thread.

That was a horrible way to dump you. If he's sniffing around again, don't give him the satisfaction.

I got over the Dom who dumped me and we talk, we're friends which is cool. But now, he's started asking me to come to his place, but he's blunt. He wants to get laid. My response? YOU decoded YOU didn't want ME anymore. Thanks, but no thanks.

Don't give him the time of day

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 8:19:13 AM

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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Futility is doing the same thing over and over again hoping for a different outcome from the last time you did it....

I thought that was insanity?

and OP if it's something you already know, then what is the point in me validating it?

Futility, insanity.. potato, potatoe...

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 8:21:14 AM

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ORIGINAL: afkarr

quote:

ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Step outside this for a bit and look at it from my perspective. There's a very interesting contradiction here.

You sound really smart.
You act really stupid.

Why do you think that is?

Because he has this way of fucking with my mind sometimes?

You allow it... take ownership of that... if you go back to be dumped on and treated like shit ..

Well the first time shame on him... you can finish the cliche yourself....

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 10:19:07 AM

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So I'm about to ask a bunch of complete strangers on the net to validate something I already know:

This made me smile.

You are right. Complete strangers on the net stand behind you in support. Don't respond to the fucker.

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 12:25:04 PM

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Ignore and delete when he sends you a message. You deserve better and you will find someone that treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Don't give him the satisfaction of responding to him.

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 12:31:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: afkarr

So I'm about to ask a bunch of complete strangers on the net to validate something I already know:

Person referrenced in this post:
http://www.collarchat.com/m_2993341/mpage_3/key_/tm.htm#3007449
sent me an email:

Hey You! translation- Give me a minute, I'll remember your name
How are you doing? translationReady, willing, and available I hope
Give me a call when you get a chance- meansI'm horny and your my best prosepct right now

Now, somebody tell me I'm right, and take away my phone and save me from myself.

You know, having gone through this myself, ie. trying to stay away from someone who fucks with your mind but you are still into, don't rely on strangers for this. You and I both know that you are going to do what you want to do, right?

Sometimes we have to go with our gut on this stuff. If someone hurt you and you still want to see them, you can compartmentalize what you are doing by using all sorts of rationalizations. You can say, hey I just want to get fucked, or I just feel lonely or I want to use him and make him see how much he lost, whatever it is.

To be blunt, if he calls and you feel like fucking him, do it. If he calls and you feel like not fucking him, tell him to fuck off.

All these threads where we ask what we should do...believe me, we all know what to do.

I am sure everyone will flame me for not giving you the PC reply. I often do the PC reply thing myself, but after reading so many of these types of threads recently, it got me thinking that bluntness is better than bull.

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 12:32:38 PM

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posted twice, sorry

< Message edited by sexyred1 -- 1/29/2010 12:33:09 PM >

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 2:44:06 PM

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Can you set it up so his emails go directly into junk mail? If so, do that.
Remove his number from your phone. Don't answer unidentified numbers.
Technology can work for you, let it.

You won't be tempted to be a booty call if his call doesn't go through.

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RE: How to handle a previosu Dom? - 1/29/2010 4:49:53 PM

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Because he has this way of fucking with my mind sometimes?

Just because someone has a way of fucking with my mind doesn't necessarily mean they get to fuck my body too.

Ya dig?

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