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winterrose77 -> RE: Fair Punishment (1/31/2010 9:28:25 PM)
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Your Dom (and yourself) needs to know your body and how much punishment you can take without it crossing the line. Different subs have different body types and different amounts of sensitivity and from spanking to physical abuse. If he's going to give you 200 light swats with a feather duster or his bare hand being gentle, sounds great! But if he's planning on using a crop or flogger or anything else, you might need to use your safeword way earlier than you would like, or else be left with really bad injuries that overstep the lines of safe, sane, and consensual.
This is one of those circumstances in which associative rules can't necessarily be kept in place. Sure, the general rule might be 10 lashes per infraction, but if that adds up to a lack of safety, some other kind of rule must be put in place to maintain the sanity of the relationship and still equal out to an adequate punishment. For instance, if the infractions add up to more than 80 lashes, you get those 80 and then have to sleep tied, while kneeling upright, to a wall (which is highly uncomfortable and will leave you sore and sorry in the morning, but will ease off with enough stretching and general good self-care so that you can service your Master well later that night ;) ).
Best of luck, and be sure that you always have open communication with your Dom. There should really never be any questions of whether a punishment is fair or safe; make sure everything is taken care of beforehand and you can just trust in your Dom to always do what's best for you both.
Or, better yet, just be good and never get punished. ;) But that'd get boring, wouldn't it?
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