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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:08:08 PM

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Never flirted with me

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:09:57 PM

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I do a lot of flirting with the Dominas here, and my general impression is that they seem very receptive to it, more so than sub women. And aside from my own experience, I've watched the flirtation between Jeff and LaT, aka June and Ward.

Is it that the pressure is off when a Dom flirts with them? Is it that they are so tired of mail from sub men that a flirtatious one from a Dom is a welcome relief? Or is there no difference except in my perception?

No, silly! Its because you're yummy.

*bats eyelashes demurely*

I am not available, so I'm more likely to flirt with someone who I think really gets that about me. Its just harmless flirting, not meant to be taken as the kind of flirting that is going to lead to anything more. So I don't want to do it with anyone who might misunderstand.

what she said...especially the yummy part

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:17:39 PM

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Ha, so now if I tell someone they are gorgeous, they will think Im not serious.

BTW.....you are gorgeous.

I do love me some politesub, he so James Bond with that coffee cup (wink wink flirt flirt) droooooool.....

oh and thank you by the way....I needed that

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 6:39:33 PM

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James Bond ? .......More like Brooke Bond, not everybodys cup of tea.

Now, if you had said James Bondage...... Sighs.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 7:12:24 PM

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Dark Steven, I read what was written here, yet I believe you are right, it is all about pressure.

Most Sub men can’t flirt with Dommes … for a reason … a little flirtation inevitably gets the pressure cooking.

And flirtation can only be done consistently well … from a light, breezy, I could care less type attitude.

In real life, I am a marvelous flirt, when I do not care; and an absolute train wreck, when I do.

So I buy into your thought about pressure … one cannot try to flirt, it just happens, spur of the moment like.

And Flirtation is marvelous when you FEEL you can afford to laugh, walk away and keep moving in Your life without a second thought about the other person.

But the moment you think twice about the other person … it becomes impossible to flirt ... consistently well ...

Just too much pressure …

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 7:19:05 PM

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James Bond ? .......More like Brooke Bond, not everybodys cup of tea.

Now, if you had said James Bondage...... Sighs.

oh stop, all you need is a tux.....lol

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 8:06:48 PM

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No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

- LA

Thank you for that 'adept' LA - but I was fully and roundly informed earlier this week by a long-standing Domme friend that I'm actually rubbish at flirting.

It has to be said: if I was that slick with the old tongue, I'd probably not be posting here at 1.25 am on a Saturday night . . .

Well you just tell her that Lady Angelika disagrees. ;-)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 8:08:58 PM

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No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

- LA

Moi ? A flirt ? Sacre Blue !

( smirks a tad )

Yeah you, and your mate.... and I forgot another few... Rochsub, seeksOwnertoo, Panda sometimes when he's in the mood ;-)

Come to think of it, a good lot of you are bunch of flirty pants!!

- LA

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 8:11:10 PM

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I'll echo what a few other the other women have said. Unfortunately not many sub men flirt, or feel it is appropriate to flirt, or they falsely believe that flirtation = dominance.

I think it takes them more time to flirt. A dominant man will come right out and flirt whereas a submissive man will often test the waters to see if it ok to flirt first. Once they find the waters are friendly, watch out! They can get quite adept at it...

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 8:26:14 PM

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For me it's not because they are Dom, sub or whatever, the ones I play around with are the ones that I know, or at least know of.

When you see someone that post all the time you kind of get a handle on their sense of humor and you know they are not serious and they know you are not serious so we can relax and have fun,.

Well that's the way it is for me any way cookie monster....lol

My thoughts exactly.
Flirting is always fun. It's a nice ego boost sometimes too!

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 10:14:59 PM

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Thank You Lady A … it is nice to see You recognize we subs are not all afraid to flirt ….

Now, about that trip to Hawaii … ;-)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/6/2010 11:21:22 PM

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Fast Reply -

For me it doesn't matter Dom/sub, what is important is the content and intelligence :).

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 4:43:48 AM

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James Bond ? .......More like Brooke Bond, not everybodys cup of tea.

Now, if you had said James Bondage...... Sighs.

oh stop, all you need is a tux.....lol

A tummy tux more like.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 4:48:02 AM

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"In real life, I am a marvelous flirt, when I do not care; and an absolute train wreck, when I do."

Seeking, I understand this all too well. Maybe its to do with fear of rejection, or on a deeper level, acceptance.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 6:17:35 AM

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You have a great way of saying things in just a few words, PS.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 6:40:52 AM

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No, it's because it's nice to have a man flirt with us. Very few submissive men are adept in the art of flirting. I mean we have a few... Peon, Elan, Pyro, PS53 come to mind, but not many.

- LA

Amen to that. I enjoy flirting, and do so shamelessly when I have someone to flirt with who is also comfortable with it ... It always makes me happy when a boy is outgoing enough to flirt without being rude.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 6:48:58 AM

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It always makes me happy when a boy is outgoing enough to flirt without being rude.

You know, I've given this even more though this morning. I think that some submissive men might find it hard to flirt with some Dommes as they are more unapproachable. I'm also a big flirt myself and I am the first to admit it.

I consider myself to be quite approachable and therefore, I actually have quite a few men, male, sub, swtich, here and in RL flirt with me. Even quite a few women too :-)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 6:50:50 AM

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I consider myself to be quite approachable and therefore, I actually have quite a few men, male, sub, swtich, here and in RL flirt with me. Even quite a few women too :-)

- LA

Oh. BOY! I get to be the first DOM to flirt with you, then!!!!

/Flirtflirtflirtflirt/

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 6:51:11 AM

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"In real life, I am a marvelous flirt, when I do not care; and an absolute train wreck, when I do."

Seeking, I understand this all too well. Maybe its to do with fear of rejection, or on a deeper level, acceptance.

And that might be sO2's perception that he is a train wreck. The thing is, the sort of tongue tied man who wants to flirt but is nervous can be very endearing. Vulnerability is a great turn on.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 6:53:46 AM

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I consider myself to be quite approachable and therefore, I actually have quite a few men, male, sub, swtich, here and in RL flirt with me. Even quite a few women too :-)

- LA

Oh. BOY! I get to be the first DOM to flirt with you, then!!!!

/Flirtflirtflirtflirt/

Hardly the first... you missed the day I changed the avatar to the legs ;-) I got my own little Dom fan club that day and some pretty hot erotica from RS on the boards!

That said, I'll never turn down some good flirting, hot stuff ;-)

- LA

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