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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 7:04:49 AM

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very lovely legs indeed . . i would worship them always . . sub michael

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 7:10:25 AM

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See?? ;-)

Thanks SexSubMichaelB - you are sweet.

Now remember boys, there is a fine line between flirting and trolling ;-)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 7:14:49 AM

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Fast Reply -

For me it doesn't matter Dom/sub, what is important is the content and intelligence :).

Me too. That's why I'm so good at flirting with my computer. I know exactly which buttons to press in order for it to give me just the right content for some quality sausage time. Woah!

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 7:34:47 AM

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Fast Reply -

For me it doesn't matter Dom/sub, what is important is the content and intelligence :).

Me too. That's why I'm so good at flirting with my computer. I know exactly which buttons to press in order for it to give me just the right content for some quality sausage time. Woah!

Here is Peon's quality sausage time... ;-)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 10:47:27 AM

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That sausage and mashed looks disgustingly good right now.

I love to flirt when I KNOW the person I am flirting with isn't going to perceive my flirting incorrectly. I felt like shit when a male sub I adored, that used to haunt these forums, misunderstood. I thought I had been very clear in only being interested in women, yet somehow the wires got crossed. I felt awful that I may have hurt him.

I have also offended women in my flirting. Yes I know they are straight but I still enjoy their company. Just because I flirt does not mean I want to jump your bones. It just means I like you. Not everyone gets that. Hell, one of my favourite flirt partners, a dear friend of mine, is a very gay man. It's fun, harmless, makes us feel good.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 10:53:31 AM

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June?... just for the record. I know you are never actually gonna DO me. I still think you are cool as HELL!

Kinda a shame... except for the Dominant lez thing, we are almost perfect...:)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 11:16:40 AM

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Ward,

I am still sick. Please bring me some of those bangers and mashed.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 11:22:05 AM

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I think she's weakening, Jeff!

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 11:22:57 AM

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And bacon soup!

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 11:23:28 AM

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Level, don't get his hopes up. It's just a bad head cold.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 11:27:12 AM

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a dear friend of mine, is a very gay man. It's fun, harmless, makes us feel good.

I did not realize that Jeff was a "very gay man".

Also, similar flirting exists between male subs and female submissives, sometimes we realize we have more in common than orientation and labels.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 11:52:30 AM

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I think, Steven, that often when submissive men around here flirt with Dommes, they are flirting with the idea of a dominant woman. Or a pretty picture, or a body part, or a fetish that can be fulfilled. (There are exceptions, of course.) When you flirt, you flirt with us. You'll be hard-pressed to find someone who doesn't enjoy being seen as a person, and thought attractive because of it.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 12:20:37 PM

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I think, Steven, that often when submissive men around here flirt with Dommes, they are flirting with the idea of a dominant woman. Or a pretty picture, or a body part, or a fetish that can be fulfilled. (There are exceptions, of course.) When you flirt, you flirt with us. You'll be hard-pressed to find someone who doesn't enjoy being seen as a person, and thought attractive because of it.

I actually disagree with that comment 100% because the exact opposite is true.

I have been flirted with by Dominant men who have reduced me to a woman, simply, any woman, tits and ass.

I also have developed online interraction with submissive men here who flirt with me on a personal level because I'm me.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 12:22:44 PM

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I love to flirt when I KNOW the person I am flirting with isn't going to perceive my flirting incorrectly. I felt like shit when a male sub I adored, that used to haunt these forums, misunderstood. I thought I had been very clear in only being interested in women, yet somehow the wires got crossed. I felt awful that I may have hurt him.

I've had that happen before too. I will stand firmly that I did tell the individual that I wasn't interested in being more than friends, but I inadvertantly hurt her. The thing she didn't realise was that my flirting was truly sincere. The sad part is that I lost a very good friend.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 12:26:23 PM

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Just because I flirt does not mean I want to jump your bones. It just means I like you.

She's talking about all you wimmins! She means it when she flirts with me.

I'm booking mah ticket to Iowa right now!

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 12:28:00 PM

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Just because I flirt does not mean I want to jump your bones. It just means I like you.

She's talking about all you wimmins! She means it when she flirts with me.
I'm booking mah ticket to Iowa right now!

I didn't say that... but could have... ;-)

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 1:21:46 PM

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Sometimes I think we flirt with people that we know it's not going anywhere, either because of role or gender or availability, and maybe we feel some freedom in that because we know it isn't going to lead to anything beyond innocent flirtation. You know, the boy at the coffeeshop, the gas station attendant, long time friends with whom you've established a strictly friendship based relationship with..

I do wonder about opening "pandora's box" though? What if either one of you does begin to take it seriously and gets hurt? What if the person you are flirting with has a significant other who might take it seriously and feel hurt by it? I guess an important message here is that flirting is fun as long as no one is getting hurt, and if that potential is there, just don't do it.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 2:04:13 PM

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"Is it that the pressure is off when a Dom flirts with them? "
I admit, there is some validity to the pressure idea, but for me, sub or Dom doesn't matter - distance does, respect does, etc. I am absolutely the crazy magnet - if someone in the room is crazy or weird or just pushy and rude, I'm the one they almost immediately graviate to.
Most of the people that think they are trying to flirt with me are really just testing the waters to get something, in an unsulbtle way, and there really is a difference. The majority of men that make contact are completely ignoring the fact that I have someone, which disrespects him, (like one guy who walked right up to us when we were sitting together on a date and started talking to me and actually tried to sit down next to me - extreme example, but pretty much a perfect example of the mindset.) It seems that most of the time, I can't even be polite to someone anymore without their taking it as an excuse to be pushy and start listing what they want. Saying 'thank you' to a compliment isn't even safe anymore, so... if I don't use a sledgehammer and beat them with a cold harsh response, it is an invitation to lots of hassles.
If someone is local, I often don't feel safe to even respond to a hello unless DB is standing right there and I can say "and THIS is MY MAN!" Hell, sometimes that doens't even get the hint across. Heh... I spend more time pushing how great he is than anything else, when I first meet anyone that is potentially expressing interest.
I guess that's the answer for me - it's not a sub or Dom thing. It's just not safe to flirt at all unless the person is WAY too far away to be a concern, or that they immedially acknowledge my prior commitment and respect it without my having to make an issue of it. Needless to say, I'm often found by men to be very chilly via email, and hair trigger tempered in person.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 2:29:40 PM

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I've never given any consideration to distance at all. I flirt with Subtee all the time and she is not far away at all.

For me, online, a woman is going to have to flat out tell me they are interested in something more, otherwise I will just assume it is friendly flirting and treat it as such.

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RE: A curious question for the Dommes. - 2/7/2010 2:39:29 PM

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I see the opposite. I am usually fairly spot on in my analysis. Too many of the Dommes simply refuse to "lighten up." Maybe they are complete bitches. Maybe they feel that making them "flirtable" would be perceived as being weak.

It's all sooo sad.

I might be hosting another "Great Dom Off"...I will win Lat's vagina one way or the other.

She will submit...It would probably be tolerable if you would like to bring some of your sub females to the gala.

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