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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 3:06:50 PM

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Well, the impact would depend on the woman and her profile. I'm familiar with Akasha, but would be less comfortable sending a physical letter to, "a woman", with a typical profile. Scanning seems to be a good option... especially if one allows the respondent the option of using other programs to do something creative in the event they don't have access to a scanner.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 3:20:51 PM

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Well, the impact would depend on the woman and her profile. I'm familiar with Akasha, but would be less comfortable sending a physical letter to, "a woman", with a typical profile. Scanning seems to be a good option... especially if one allows the respondent the option of using other programs to do something creative in the event they don't have access to a scanner.

My brain just overloaded and blew up from all the different colors.

That just does not work for me. lol

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 3:23:16 PM

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Well, the impact would depend on the woman and her profile. I'm familiar with Akasha, but would be less comfortable sending a physical letter to, "a woman", with a typical profile. Scanning seems to be a good option... especially if one allows the respondent the option of using other programs to do something creative in the event they don't have access to a scanner.

My brain just overloaded and blew up from all the different colors.
That just does not work for me. lol

Was this intended for the ACID TRIP for DOMs thread?

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 4:15:25 PM

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This would eliminate the men who are cutting and pasting and those that haven't put any time or thought into it.

I doubt it. The cut and pasters by and large are not reading the profiles anyway. They'd likely never know of the requirement and I doubt it would cut down the numbers of emails from them. It's an interesting idea... I just don't see it having this one side effect.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 4:23:38 PM

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In principle, I find the idea quite romantic actually and it probably would weed out most of the form mail. Also, without going into deep analysis, a lot can be said about one's handwritting.

I have however come up with a pretty good system to find out if a letter was authentically typed up for me or not. For several reasons, those are the only ones I'm actually interested in.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 4:59:53 PM

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It's cute, and it might work for some, but it's really not My style.

I'm actually agreeing more with Whip on this one. Rather than invest the time in a hand written letter that could be scanned and so on, I'd honestly rather see the male put his time into getting to the munch that I'm attending and see if we're actually going to do something other than be pen pals.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 5:24:46 PM

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Sounds like a lot of work imo and would take way too much time by the time you write the letter, send it off, hope it doesn't get lost in the mail while you wait anywehre from two days to a week for the mail, another week or so for a response, etc...

I'll stick to email thanks. I kinda like new technology and I never seem to have a problem weeding idiots out.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 5:26:29 PM

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Sounds like a lot of work imo and would take way too much time by the time you write the letter, send it off, hope it doesn't get lost in the mail while you wait anywehre from two days to a week for the mail, another week or so for a response, etc...

I'll stick to email thanks. I kinda like new technology and I never seem to have a problem weeding idiots out.

Not only that, but all in the hopes that the "Uber Great One" who made such a demand will even have an interest in you and respond to your letter anyway.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 5:27:10 PM

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This would eliminate the men who are cutting and pasting and those that haven't put any time or thought into it

Umm, not to spoil the fun, but cutting and pasting isn't restricted to email. Goes by hand as well as using any other method.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 5:55:34 PM

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Actually I enjoy penmanship and calligraphy, and have from time to time made Kim some handpainted cards with mushy stuff inside (not strained peas, you knuckleheads, lovey dovey words!).

However, as others have pointed out, it is probably more appropriate for submissive men than Dominants.

Trust me, you really haven't seen "On your knees bitch!" until you have seen it on parchment in Gothic Old Style!

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 6:14:05 PM

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I think the idea is a bit one sided, it smacks of "prove you're good enough for me to consider you" rather than "hey, I'm looking for a partner too, let's see if we're compatible" and I personally would never have that requirement, either for a first contact or for any type of contact. But I've never been much for "testing someone's love" or "proving their commitment" or any of that stuff either, I'm a pretty simple woman, I just want to talk a bit, see if we like each other, then meet and go from there - placing a specific demand that goes beyond something like "please tell me your zodiac sign in the first email so I know you read the profile" is too much for me, and I believe it would be counterproductuve to anyone who is seriously looking for a relationship partner.

That being said I do love to write letters, and I think it is very romantic to send a love letter, but that's in the context of a relationship that has already begun.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 6:17:34 PM

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Well, the impact would depend on the woman and her profile. I'm familiar with Akasha, but would be less comfortable sending a physical letter to, "a woman", with a typical profile. Scanning seems to be a good option... especially if one allows the respondent the option of using other programs to do something creative in the event they don't have access to a scanner.

My brain just overloaded and blew up from all the different colors.
That just does not work for me. lol

Was this intended for the ACID TRIP for DOMs thread?

LOL someone said this in the 2nd post on this thread:

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And the sub should alternate between blue and red for each next character, so that it takes him several hours to write the letter.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 6:22:06 PM

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It sounds GREAT ! But the draw back would be (Like me), I write like Chicken Scratch. I even "WROTE" 2 novels, and had to keep asking Bunny Muffins (My Dear Wife), what I had written. I hope I don't have to give her a part of the profits, if they are ever published.

Seriously though, it would take them some time, to acturally write. And since they don't have Speel Chuck, they would have to think (OUCH, my head is hurting already). But still, guys can't write anything a female could understand. Another way, would be making them "PRINT", using all capital letters. This would take them some more time, making it more worth while, and also allow you to understand, what they wrote.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 7:17:39 PM

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Back when I was looking, I wouldn't have found this a useful idea. About 80-90% of the e-mail from Top/Dom/Master/switch men was articulate and interesting, with the remainder spam from people who clearly hadn't read my profile. So, putting in any requirements would have been an exercise in futility with them. For some reason, only about 30% of the submissive/slave men put any apparent thought into their e-mails, but again, if they can't be arsed to read through my profile, telling them to hand-write wouldn't have done any good.

I *do* think it would be a bit of a sweet idea when I can't see my Master for a week or two, or just as a random "thinking of you" though.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 8:27:33 PM

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Bah! one would probably get "text speak" in handwritten form, too. :( Thank you but it's annoying enough in type.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 8:39:22 PM

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I was wondering what the impact would be for a woman (who is swamped with emails) to request a hand written letter in response to her collarme profile, nothing electronic. This would eliminate the men who are cutting and pasting and those that haven't put any time or thought into it, and really promote those that are careful about their responses and willing to devote *time* (and the cost of a postage stamp). It also requires a degree of patience, since the men have to wait for a response thanks to the US Postal service having to deliver the letter. So that eliminates any man who is just momentarily horny and had the great idea of spamming kinky women online.

Unfortunately, there's the issue of privacy and safety, and giving out a postal address; not everyone has a PO Box.

I was thinking an alternative would be to have a man hand write a letter and then scan it and send it as a PDF. It sounds ridiculously clunky, but the point is the same - the time it takes to hand write a letter shows a real degree of sincerity. I think it's a nice touch.

Anyone considered something like this, or am I just too old school?

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Hmmm what makes you think your that interstresting that anyone would take the time to jump thru all those hoops without even knowing the first thing about you? Girls are like buses one comes along every few minutes. Your the one being to lazy to read thru the emails comon you need to put forth some effort.

But you could turn off your email and make your hand written request and let me how it works out for you. Im thinking not so much.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 9:06:36 PM

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Hmmm what makes you think your that interstresting that anyone would take the time to jump thru all those hoops without even knowing the first thing about you? Girls are like buses one comes along every few minutes. Your the one being to lazy to read thru the emails comon you need to put forth some effort.

But you could turn off your email and make your hand written request and let me how it works out for you. Im thinking not so much.

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Exactly my point there BadOne. It screams conceit and "are you worthy enough" as an introductory type of thing. I think once compatibility is established and two people start to believe that they might like to embark on a relationship, it might be a cute romantic thing to send a love letter of sorts. Until then though, it is not much different than the male dominants who ask subs to "apply." It is one thing to be the leader of a relationship, but it would seem some dominants (male and female) need to check their ego a bit when it comes to getting to know someone.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/8/2010 9:20:13 PM

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Interesting suggestion. But it would rule out at least 2 people i know as their handwriting is atrocious. But hell what would anybody do with a date with my doctor and my CEO after all the last one is only a self made multimillionare. But it wasn't his handwriting he made his money on

Actually the same CEO was looking trough a whole lot of CV's for a position in the company and a few of them was written in the hand. He dumped them straigth in the wastebucket with the comment, that he wasn't going to employ anybody who could sit and waste time on writing in longhand.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 12:10:35 AM

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ROFL Whip!

Way back in the late seventies I used to say I would rather a man walk up and ask me to fuck than to play the part of someone I might want to fuck. I can respect that to some degree because it is honest. But... I got old or jaded around here. lol Now, every day even if they are trying to smooth talk, they are asking... what will you do to me? Can't even get a guy who just wants to give a good fuck! lol At least in the seventies, some wanted to give you a good one! Now they want a fuck, but for you to do all the work!

But having said that... there are some who will either play the game well or really mean it.

I've literally seen something go down within 60 seconds... In fact it stunned me and I still can't believe it happened.

I was at a local bar socializing and bullshit. I love to talk to all kinds of people and make my social rounds. Anyways, I ended up engaging this hottie (girl) in conversation. Anyways, at times I'll make sexual jokes or remarks that are not vulgar per se, but none the less I'll make little comments and such. I Love and enjoy to flirt. Anyways, it was painfully clear that this girl was into something more. So, just after I clarified to her that I was not trying to pick her up. A friend of mine came walking up with a drink and shot he bought me. Anyways, I introduced her to him. "Meet (insert name), does'nt she have a beautiful hot a doable body"... he said something along the lines of "Oh Hell yeah, I'd do her in a heartbeat"..., she perked up and said "Really? Are you single"... Something along the lines of "Yes" he fired back, with a question of "Why? would you really let me do you"... Then they quickly figured out who lived the closest to the bar. He only lived down the street a little ways... OFF THE WENT OUT THE DOOR.. I swear it literally only took about 60 seconds. I ended up having vouch and personally verify to another Mutual Friend that this really happened and he was not full of Bullshit. Then again, he's pretty in shape and a good looking dude.

This girls eyes light up like Christmas Tree lights, when he said that he really would do her. LOL.. I sincerely was trying to pass her off to him. Because I knew she was more less looking for a hook up. Still none the less, I was amazed at how fast things went. GONE IN 60 Seconds has become a bit of a Joke now....

In all my years, this was the first time ever... this was the fastest Hook-up I've ever personally witnessed. I knew what I more less trying to do, in setting these two up, but Damn... I'm still stunned.

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 2:14:41 AM

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Hmmm what makes you think your that interstresting that anyone would take the time to jump thru all those hoops without even knowing the first thing about you? Girls are like buses one comes along every few minutes. Your the one being to lazy to read thru the emails comon you need to put forth some effort.

But you could turn off your email and make your hand written request and let me how it works out for you. Im thinking not so much.

Motown BadOne

Exactly my point there BadOne. It screams conceit and "are you worthy enough" as an introductory type of thing. I think once compatibility is established and two people start to believe that they might like to embark on a relationship, it might be a cute romantic thing to send a love letter of sorts. Until then though, it is not much different than the male dominants who ask subs to "apply." It is one thing to be the leader of a relationship, but it would seem some dominants (male and female) need to check their ego a bit when it comes to getting to know someone.

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