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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 2:25:20 AM   
WinsomeDefiance


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't do it to be conceited.  I'd do it to get mail!  cuz its MAIL!!!   Ok, I wouldn't do it at all, because I have enough creepy guys stalking my profile, if they started hanging around the domicile I'd be a bit squicked, but still...

MAIL!!!!!  I like mail! 

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 2:59:06 AM   
Whiplashsmile4


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Status: offline 		AAkasha,

Personally I would not waste my time doing this. Not for a complete stranger, not somebody I'm not involved with. Only Good girls that I'm involved with or already established some form of relationship will ever get a hand written letter. If they are my girl, they will get cards and such. (the normal traditional manner).

In terms of this whole online madness. I'll engage in somebody with emails, then perhaps move it to IM's or voice. Seriously, I ain't into fucking around spending hours hand writting letters like this.

I apply the Real Time, Real World Concepts to online. Engage somebody in conversation. If there ain't some form of interest spark screw it and get on with life.

If anybody really wants to know the secret to meeting women, it's not about trying to pick them up. It's about simply engaging them in conversation. Me, I try to strike up conversations as opposed to Troll or pick somebody up. It's ironic that some guys just don't get it.

The truth is, somebody might snag your attention. However, are they somebody you really want to truely pick up anyways? Is it somebody you truely want to fuck, somebody you want to engage in Kinky Play, Somebody you really want to have as your girlfriend, wife, submissive, slave or your Domme/Mistress of the dark?

The truth of the matter is this... HELL, if you really know. So don't put the added pressure of trying to pick them up.

The first step or goal, is to engage and start a conversation. Perhaps do a little flirting. Go with the flow or vibe of things. Don't try to push or force things along. This process is a hell of a lot easier for me personally offline compared to online. Some of us DOMs are reaction junkies when it comes to body language, facial expressions, and tones of voice. Most of all be polite and simply relax.

Frack if I'm gonna spend an hour or two, writting a hand letter, going through the hand cramps for some piece of ass I don't know, and not certain if I want anything at all to do with. Cause I just might find out that it will be my natural instinct to RUN like HELL.. after I get a response back from them.

Not all us GUYS are desperate as women like to believe we are.

I sort of screen for things such as...


  • Is she as dumb as a box full of rocks?
  • Is her personality as excieting as Dryer Lint?
  • Is she a Jaded spiteful hateful bitch with anger management issues?
  • ... well you get the idea.


Just because us guys email you women first, does not mean we ain't going to be doing any Screening. The biggest mistake a women can make is thinking, he's a guy, he's desparate, he's lonely... how the hell could he ever be possible screening me. No guy in is right mind would walk away from my pussy, ass and tits. (WRONG!).

If anything, Look for those really short and simple emails that are not rude, nor stupid.. those are the ones you women should be paying attention to. (In my not so humble opinion).

Why drag things out and make things more complex with more hoops to jump through?

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 3:26:57 AM   
LadyAngelika


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Not all us GUYS are desperate as women like to believe we are.


I actually don't think that the gems in this world are all that common. What is the expression? A hard man is good to find? Oh no wait... that is a good man is hard to find.

I know one of my best man friends has a line up of girls who'd love to date him. He's single now and I see all these women throwing themselves at him. He really isn't all that desperate at all.

In fact, the more I think of this idea, the more I think it has the potential of eliminating the good ones.

As I mentioned earlier before, much like you, I have developed over time techniques on how to screen. What always gets me is when I send them back a polite reply saying "I thank you for our well written note but I do not feel we are a match" and I get back the super counter attack insult accusing me of being a fake, a man, 300lbs, etc. Then that is an excellent confirmation that my system is working perfectly! ;-)

- LA

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 8:35:07 AM   
NuevaVida


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LOL my mother says this about men

As for the OP, I would not do bother hand writing, then mailing, a letter to someone I didn't know, just for the possible maybe that he might consider looking at me.  The man who owns me found me noticeable enough to contact me, first, and that worked out just fine.

However, for a fun little spin on the OP's premise, before he & I actually met in person, and when he still lived 2 hours away, he suggested I send him a post card in the mail.  I suppose it was his way of giving me his home address (no PO box) and letting me know I could write whatever I wanted on it because he lived alone and was not pretending not to be married.  He also had me call him at random in the middle of the night.  I never did the post card but I thought it was clever.  Instead, I just invited myself over.  :)


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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 1:12:30 PM   
pyroaquatic


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I made an assumption and I was to write 200 times "I will not make generalizations." to appease the good Lady.

I would love this, honestly. The thoughts flow onto the paper like water to the ocean. Excellent Idea for the Electronic but not Electronic Letter.


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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/9/2010 4:40:03 PM   
LafayetteLady


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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

However, for a fun little spin on the OP's premise, before he & I actually met in person, and when he still lived 2 hours away, he suggested I send him a post card in the mail.  I suppose it was his way of giving me his home address (no PO box) and letting me know I could write whatever I wanted on it because he lived alone and was not pretending not to be married.  He also had me call him at random in the middle of the night.  I never did the post card but I thought it was clever.  Instead, I just invited myself over.  :)




Now THAT is a sweet story....

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RE: What if you required a hand written letter instead ... - 2/10/2010 9:01:50 AM   
MissBeautiful2U


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Status: offline 		Akasha, I love your idea! '

Would really help you know who was sincere and who was just looking for a few minutes of chat.

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