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My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:29:03 PM

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to find a female switch who wants a relationship and they seem nowhere to be found. i even did a search on here in our state and only three came up. Is there a shortage or is more men switches than women? thanks

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:32:40 PM

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Why don't you offer to switch for him ?

This way, you won't have to start a thread on why there are not more female switches and how does it feel for a sub to switch.

You would kill two threads with one stone.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:35:05 PM

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You could do it. Then you wouldn't have the time to follow me everywhere i go on the boards and post to all my threads.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:37:05 PM

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1. I am not a switch, never will be.

2. I don't follow you around, I post everywhere and anywhere I like.

3. I answered your question, what is the issue?

4. Try a sense of humor, that might help you.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:40:24 PM

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i think someone has a crush on me. :)

i don't mind you being here, you're very intelligent and when you're not being nasty i usually enjoy reading what you post.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:45:17 PM

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Well, you see, we are getting somewhere!!

I am not really nasty, the boards are all over the place, right? So one second you are trying to give advice to someone heartbroken, then a thread comes around asking the difference between a sub and slave, for the millionth time so people get snarky. No one really wants to be nasty; but everyone has a different sense of humor and patience level.

Also, remember, sometimes you read something that strikes you personally or someone you know personally and you take your mood out on the boards.

But I understand that everyone reacts differently to things written; none of us really know the person beyond the avatar, so no matter what we write, it might not be understood.

I am lucky that I have spoken to people from here on the phone and met in person, and everyone has been nicer in person and on the phone!!

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/8/2010 10:55:15 PM

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in my world if people are hurt by what i say or do. i don't do it. If it's one time or another it's not being nasty, but if it's all the time then it's meant to hurt and you can't expect people to like that.

i have always thought of you and Aquatic sub and some others as extremely intelligent strong women who have alot to say.

This is just a message board and i come on it to relax, i don't want to fight with anyone. i see how this board has grown smaller since i was last here and the new subjects are getting farther inbetween.

So many people are turned away and are afraid to post. I can't blame them.

Anyway, i hope your time off the boards is for something good and that everything is alright with you and your family.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 1:24:01 AM

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to find a female switch who wants a relationship and they seem nowhere to be found. i even did a search on here in our state and only three came up. Is there a shortage or is more men switches than women? thanks

I did a search for both male and female switches in your state, OP, and came up with a fairly equal amount of people identifying as such. I don't know your friend and what his wants for a partner are but maybe finding a woman to switch isn't the real problem.

Besides, not every kinky person belongs to an online site like CM...many just attend munches in order to meet others or simply mingle with the general population, polluting random 'nillas when they can.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 3:02:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

in my world if people are hurt by what i say or do. i don't do it. If it's one time or another it's not being nasty, but if it's all the time then it's meant to hurt and you can't expect people to like that.

i have always thought of you and Aquatic sub and some others as extremely intelligent strong women who have alot to say.

This is just a message board and i come on it to relax, i don't want to fight with anyone. i see how this board has grown smaller since i was last here and the new subjects are getting farther inbetween.

So many people are turned away and are afraid to post. I can't blame them.

Anyway, i hope your time off the boards is for something good and that everything is alright with you and your family.

*blinks* What the hell do I have to do with this?

Quite frankly, you like to talk about how some people are scared to post. And since I'm tired and you kinda brought me into this... To certain extent I have to ask: So what?

In any gathering of people, someone will be scared to voice their opinion. There is only so much the group can do to encourage others to talk. Frankly, I think this board does an amazing job of encouraging people to post intellegently without coddling.

There is only so much hand-holding I'm willing to do for adults.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:01:36 AM

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i was trying to compliment you on your intelligence and the fact that i liked readung your posts. i guess that's another thing i've done wrong.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:05:01 AM

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Thanks for doing that, when i looked there was only three (women, which is all he is looking for)that have actullaly been online in the last year. Some have been gone since 06. Thanks again for your help and advice.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:39:39 AM

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:42:01 AM

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:45:05 AM

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in my world if people are hurt by what i say or do. i don't do it. If it's one time or another it's not being nasty, but if it's all the time then it's meant to hurt and you can't expect people to like that.

Aint this the kicker of a statement and the reason why there is a bone of contention with you and some posters. In YOUR world? You say you don't try to hurt people? YEa right. You don't realize how passive aggressive you are? You think snarking someone and putting a smiley at the end of the sentence makes it better too?

i have always thought of you and Aquatic sub and some others as extremely intelligent strong women who have alot to say.

This is just a message board and i come on it to relax, i don't want to fight with anyone. i see how this board has grown smaller since i was last here and the new subjects are getting farther inbetween.

So many people are turned away and are afraid to post. I can't blame them.

You dont speak for everyone. You dont have your finger on the pulse of the minds of the people. People have a lot more choices then to post here. If someone is afraid, they should go away. Did you go away because you were scared or because you were forced because of inappropriate passive aggressive posts, name calling and verbally abusive c-mails?

Anyway, i hope your time off the boards is for something good and that everything is alright with you and your family.

I highly doubt you really care whats going on with sexyred. She has cause to worry . But she has friends here who bolster her when she needs it. I think she can see the difference between sincere and insincere.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:46:35 AM

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ORIGINAL: ForeverOwned

in my world if people are hurt by what i say or do. i don't do it. If it's one time or another it's not being nasty, but if it's all the time then it's meant to hurt and you can't expect people to like that.

Aint this the kicker of a statement and the reason why there is a bone of contention with you and some posters. In YOUR world? You say you don't try to hurt people? YEa right. You don't realize how passive aggressive you are? You think snarking someone and putting a smiley at the end of the sentence makes it better too?

i have always thought of you and Aquatic sub and some others as extremely intelligent strong women who have alot to say.

This is just a message board and i come on it to relax, i don't want to fight with anyone. i see how this board has grown smaller since i was last here and the new subjects are getting farther inbetween.

So many people are turned away and are afraid to post. I can't blame them.

You dont speak for everyone. You dont have your finger on the pulse of the minds of the people. People have a lot more choices then to post here. If someone is afraid, they should go away. Did you go away because you were scared or because you were forced because of inappropriate passive aggressive posts, name calling and verbally abusive c-mails?

Anyway, i hope your time off the boards is for something good and that everything is alright with you and your family.

I highly doubt you really care whats going on with sexyred. She has cause to worry . But she has friends here who bolster her when she needs it. I think she can see the difference between sincere and insincere.

Thanks, Lushy. You got my back, girl!!

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:50:24 AM

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Congratulations! i hope that you are very happy there. It's exciting starting a new job. i wish you lots of luck.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 6:58:28 AM

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Thanks.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 7:02:41 AM

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What does he want with a "switch"? I haven't known anyone I considered to be a real switch... I've known some that were Dom/mes that would switch, and some that were subs that switched. Either way, they had a primary orientation.

Ask him what kind of switch he wants. If he gives you the glassy eyed stare, he needs to quit fantasizing and just meet people.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 10:15:36 AM

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Very good advice, thanks. He does go to Munches and play parties, but there are very few singles there, and the single ladies that there are; are just submissives and don't want to switch.

i guess it;s hard for alot of singles these days.

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RE: My male friend has been trying for years - 2/9/2010 10:43:18 AM

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i was trying to compliment you on your intelligence and the fact that i liked readung your posts. i guess that's another thing i've done wrong.

To be perfectly blunt... I don't believe you.

When I am complimenting someone who has nothing to do with the subject at hand, I don't do it in the context of "Gee this board has gotten so nasty and people are scared to post and BTW you and so and so are so smart!". It comes across as "I'm thinking of nasty, mean people and YOUR name came to mind".

I don't say things with the intention of hurting anyone. I attempt to be nice at all times because I don't enjoy hurting people. Sometimes tough love is called for and that friggin' sucks to dish out. Regardless of if you believe me or not, I don't come on the boards going "AWESOME! Let's make people scared to post!". If people are scared to post cause I'm a mean ol' intelligent lady... I can't do anything about that. They are adults. They have to learn to either speak up for themselves or find a forum where they are comfortable doing so.

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