AAkasha
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ORIGINAL: MzMinx Akasha can chime in for herself.. its well known her partner gave up career/earning to submit full time in their relationship ... I am someone who has and would consider a submissive who did not earn or earned significantly less than I .... if he was not working outside the relationship at all ... he would need to be doing things I considered worthwhile and what taht was would change at different times .... I work contract work and enjoy taking significantly long holidays ... say 3 to 4 mths at a time every year or so... so controling if, how and when a submissive worked is something I would enjoy above and beyond the D/s elements and service levels .. I earn enough money to keep a boy ... although my prefernce is someone in a similar position to me ... who can take limited length contracts not all the time but when I desire them to . ... Legally I can have his contractual wages paid into my company and determine how much if any is paid to him at the time.. so in effect he would earn only what I desired him to earn within some minimum wage limits In australia medical coverage and retirement superanuation is a simpler/ cheaper concept to set up than in many other countries ... and the benifits of haveing the right submissives energies and skills at my beck and call has more advantages than money so yes .... in short there are some Dominanant woman who would quite happily 'keep'a boy ... but I think it always depends on many factors ... ETA ... although none of the above is what I would call 'buying' anything ... its about authority ... its about commitment ...and many other things ... but its not a purchase While I am the breadwinner in my relationship and I don't want my husband/manbitch having a career outside of the home, I consider our relationship to be nothing like what the OP is talking about - which to me is a male fantasy and pretty unrealistic. While it's true that finding a woman who is able to support the man financially is a bit of a challenge, the bigger hurdle in his idea is the mindset he's trying to create. Any time a relationship is built entirely on an erotically-charged fantasy (ie, the total objectification of the man and use of power over him because he's got no earning power on his own), it's full of holes. More importantly, I don't want my man living on motivation that's based on a sexually charged ideal. Especially if he's a financial drain on me. I don't want to know his wheels are kept turning because he's a "kept boy" and I "own his ass." We may toy with those erotically charged ideas from time to time, but the only way I'd ever consider supporting a man financially is if he pulls his weight in the household as a hard working, motivated and self sufficient man. The image of a male prostitute, just because I make the money, is way too cheesy for me. It also implies that he's worthless and useless outside of my cashflow, which is another image that doesn't rest well with me *when it comes to the man I share my life with* (I find this kept boy scenario to be VERY hot for a fleeting fling with a man I maybe will see a couple times and that's all, but not someone who lives with me and shares my life with me). The reality is that your "life partner" is often also your soul mate, if you intend to make it work for the long haul. I could never be in love with a man that I knew would be totally helpless if I tossed him out on his ass. Even though I support him, he's got all the capability to do fine on his own if he had to earn a living, and I wouldn't be attracted to him if he wasn't. He also is required to bring that capability into my house on a domestic level and also as a business partner, as needed, with my company - he just doesn't sit around and look pretty or provide sexual relief for me. Even though that's part of his role also. Akasha
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