LafayetteLady
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Joined: 5/2/2007 From: Northern New Jersey Status: offline
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Is this online only? Or do you have face to face time as well? You haven't said how long you have been together, but you are young, so it couldn't have been very long. Even though it shouldn't make a difference whether it is online or RL, it does. After all, if it is online only, it is easy to just disappear when you don't want to deal with someone else's emotions, or for any reason. I know how you feel. After 14 years with my partner, he is only now starting to get the concept of letting me know he doesn't have time. He doesn't particularly care for the phone, so more often than not we text when apart. It would make me crazy when he couldn't text a couple of sentences. He doesn't do that anymore (thankfully), but he has a really hectic schedule and sometimes would just get overly busy and then fall asleep. If it is online only and he is ignoring you, it might be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Don't focus on what's wrong with YOU that made this happen if it is online only, because chances are, it has nothing to do with you. If it is RL and you just talk on yahoo when apart, you need to really sit down and try to make him understand your needs and see if he is willing to meet you halfway. How you tell him is simply explaining it like you did here. You tell him that you are going through some very difficult stuff in your life, and even though he isn't responsible for that stuff, you need the comfort of being able to talk with him, even if the talking isn't about that stuff (or if you need it to be about that stuff, then say so). Let him know that when he ignores you like that, without telling you he won't be available when you are expecting him to be or when he usually was, it is something that you were so looking forward to and the disappointment is upsetting you.
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