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LadyHugs -> RE: Removing a collar as punishment.... (5/5/2006 8:43:09 PM)
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Dear MyCaptain'sPet, Ladies and Gentlemen;
Unfortunately, people see collars as different things now days. So, I'm sure answers will vary.
However, I'm of the time where collars were earned, in stages from training through the final slave collar and all of them in between. The collar represents both the slave and Master. Slave behavior is a direct reflection on him. In saying Master, it can also apply to female Masters/Mistresses/Dominants, et. al.
I've sadly seen all to often "velcro" collars, to which if there is any dispute or ripple in what is their relationship, the collar is used as a weapon/threat by Masters/Mistresses and slaves. So, when this happens, it has lost it's meaning in my eyes.
Certainly, the collar is a visible symbol of the M/s and or D/s relationship however, like a wedding band, even if it is removed or loss--the relationship remains if it has value or worth.
This is why if the collar is removed by a slave's request and or a Master's request --it is the end of the union period. It is no different than a divorce.
Sometimes the removal of the collar is no choice. All remedies and or options have been exhausted and or the disobedience was so horrible, that forgiveness would be out of the question. However, I would have to look in my mirror and look at myself, and know should I remove a collar, I exhausted all remedies/options and did my best to keep the relationship afloat. However, there are times when no matter what party is doing the work in keeping things alive--it is just a delay of what will come.
I am sure that many of the posters have witnessed slaves/submissives go through collars like underwear. They figure it is easy lost, easy to find another one. Some even wear collars they buy themselves.
I am sure, as a dominant when a slave/submissive removes their collar, especially when they are being disobedient and having a temper; understand that act alone, the submissive/slave ends the relationship. When a dominant other than the owner removes the collar on a slave and or submissive, while not acting as an agent of the owner--it is a slap in disrespect of what the collar represents.
As for me--the collar is my property, when it is removed it returns to me and I will dispose of it as I will. The collar is a mere symbol of what was, that is no more. To loose a collar is dismissal from my contract, bond and or responsibility to the slave period. No earning it back. Gone forever.
Respectfully submitted,
Lady Hugs
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