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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:31:20 AM

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GraciousLady .... I'm no spring chicken and I've talked with more men than I can enumerate, have met even fewer than that. The bottom line is, these Dom types want young slim women. I fit neither bill.

I had to bold that last part. You are doing yourself a great injustice and may want to work on your self-esteem. I'm older than you and I'm not slim. I've met quite a number of Doms online and in real life who didn't consider these things to be an issue. The ones that did; well, you know...that's their right.

As much as I hate to type this last bit, mainly because I'm not active in community events, but have you attended munches, etc.?

Edited to add; are you coming off as needy or wanting to immediately receive a commitment? That can send quite a few folks running. I hope you don't feel my response is rude or offensive because that certainly isn't my intent.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:32:26 AM

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Well if you can't fuck your friends who can you fuck? (special saying from a good friend of mine).

Secondly, you know not all relationships occur according to some rule books, sometimes a relationship happens with friendship first and then love, some happen where love comes first and then the friendship evolves, sometimes the sex comes first then the friendship then the love.

Perhaps you need to stop trying to go by a rule book and simply try and go with the flow. Life and especially relationships are not about rules but many times about BREAKING the rules.

In the end, you will get what you put into it. SOOO logically, if you give up -- you won't get anything. If you simply go with the flow, you may find that love and relationship sometimes come out of the most unexpected situations or simply because two people sync.

Whining about how you can't find someone to "do it your way" and claiming you are going to take your ball and go home -- don't be surprised when people say --- don't let the door hit ya.

SEX IS AN IMPORTANT PART OF LIFE!! I know many people try and put it in the oh its not that big of a deal but it really is, many times it is within a relationship a core piece of glue BECAUSE its a reaffirmation of so many things -- sharing each other, enjoying each other, being a part of each other etc. SOmetimes its a stress reliever, and anger releaser, a celebration etc.

Seriously, if you are that desperate to have the friendship first then don't be surprised when you don't get men biting -- Men are capable of making their own friends, while i am sure the will form a friendship with you in a relationship, they want a relationship. If you keep expressing friendship to them and not relationship -- i am not surprised they don't stick around. They have friends and are capable of making their own without the pretense of relationship.

Things like i need to be friends with someone i am in a relationship with utterly amazes me, I would say pretty much all of my friends guys and women are not people i would maintain a relationship with in the romantic/love sense which is why i m not in a relationship with any of them. I have had sex with some of them and damn good sex, but not relationships of a romantic/love concept of which i believe you are speaking. OUr friendship will sustain but hell, when i am in a relationship, i don't want the "friendship" to be the core, i want the RELATIONSHIP with -- the thing we don't have with anyone else and our connection on THAT aspect to be the core. I want sex to be a huge piece of the glue. I have friends i have fucked friends, but in the end, the relationship with a Man i want more than the friend.

Perhaps your priorities are off.

angel

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:33:06 AM

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vaguely curious... my profile says I want friendship first and then build to more. I really don't think that is such a shocking thing to wish for. Unlike most who think bed olympics come before the emotional connection.

Your own words:

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The fact that mere "friendship" is not possible with these people further solidifies my decision. I get so tired of mens' profiles saying 'I'm looking for friends' but still they can't be bothered to respond to my messages.

You aren't looking for friendship-you are looking for friendship with massive future strings attached.

Men who are 'looking for friends' aren't looking for those strings, hon. If the position was reversed, and you were the one looking for friends only, but you were continually being messaged by guys talking about 'friendship' but looking for more, how would you feel?

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:33:13 AM

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RULE! You are a trip! Thanks for making me laugh! You seem to think there is a "shop for a man" store outside my door?

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:35:36 AM

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I read once that it takes a guy less than ten seconds the first time he sees you to decide whether or not he'd fuck you. I doubt 'being your friend' occurs anywhere in there. They're thinking either, "Want to Fuck" or "Don't Want to Fuck- ignore". To have a friendship with a guy, you have to get past that part first and then charm him with your wit and sweetness. Above all, if you are looking to fall in love you have to act like you don't really care either way. A needy woman chases men away as fast as an ugly woman. In fact, a cool ugly woman has a better future in the love/friendship department than a gorgeous needy one. I'm not saying YOU are any of those things, just saying.

I think this net would catch a large percentage. However, I am stupidly picky and consider, this person I wanna fuck, is she someone I want to put up with for the rest of my life. So I tend to get to know women before the panties hit the floor.

YMMV

Addendum: Except on Saturdays and holidays.... or she is really hot... or if she is a red head... fuck-a-diddle... disregard all that crap above this.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:35:55 AM

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vaguely curious, you're not getting me ...

I talk with all men on equal footing, not as lovers but to see if we even LIKE each other to have a conversation. If we don't, no harm no foul. But the fact that they will not even talk to me, not even to say thanks! if I pay them a small compliment --- hell I even write and say thanks to men who take the time to read my profile. And it is genuine thanks. Out of all the men I have thanked, only one responded back and said he appreciated the thanks. It made me think that's the first time anyo woman ever did.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:36:15 AM

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FukinTroll ... you're a fucking troll what do you know? *Laughs I couldn't help it!*

He has that effect on people. Just wait until he slurps you.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:37:21 AM

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are Trolls picky? *surprised*

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:37:40 AM

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Are you still telling people your a cockwhore after a conversation or two? That could be why people aren't taking the friendship first seriously.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:37:54 AM

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FukinTroll ... you're a fucking troll what do you know? *Laughs I couldn't help it!*

He has that effect on people. Just wait until he slurps you.

There ya go, tell'en muh secrets.

SLURP!

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:38:10 AM

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There is always Ron... you know he is a strait up kinda guy. (I stopped right there because I think we all know where Ron will take the "Strait Up" Part.)

I'm not completely sure where he will take it, but I've narrowed it down to three possibilities.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:38:44 AM

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Rule ... ewww! I don't like getting slurped!

Icarys ... ummmm no

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:39:17 AM

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Rule ... ewww! I don't like getting slurped!

Icarys ... ummmm no

Right

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:39:28 AM

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Are you still telling people your a cockwhore after a conversation or two? That could be why people aren't taking the friendship first seriously.

I didn't know she was a cockwhore! That changes everything...

Dear warmwoman,

Wut's yer sign baby?

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:40:07 AM

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Icarys .. excuse me? do I know you? Have we talked? and where in my profile does it state I am a cockwhore?

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:41:29 AM

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Seriously ... why are you people being so mean to me? I'm not a bad woman. I'm not...

There is an advantage to not being face to face -- you can't see how much you hurt people with your words.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:41:58 AM

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What saddened me most about your post was the fact you give up on yourself, if you give up on searching for something that you know will bring you happiness and fulfillment in your life.

Perhaps you are discouraged.
We all get that way after kissing so many frogs, or trying to fit that elusive glass slipper on the wrong foot.

In the mean time,
take a nice bubble bath, read a good book and blow off some steam.
A little time away and focus more on self - contentment.

Then get back in the game of life, never give up.

I read this bumper sticker,

Seek peace and pursue it !
Good Luck.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:43:25 AM

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Icarys .. excuse me? do I know you? Have we talked? and where in my profile does it state I am a cockwhore?

Yes we do know one another. I've actually talked to you on the phone.

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:43:29 AM

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*swipes away tears*

thank you for being nice, candisa

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RE: Giving up - 3/6/2010 9:43:41 AM

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I read this bumper sticker,

Seek a piece and pursue it !
Good Luck.

I WANT THAT BUMPER STICKER!

LE SLURPO!

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