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ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage

You can, but are you? Studies show that you're not. I'm not gonna run around and try to force people to lose weight, and I don't think I'm being forced to be attracted to someone I'm not. However, I find it very disheartening when people that I am attracted to are far and few between because of this simple issue.

It seems to me that many men also prefer thin women. Shouldn't people try to emulate that which they desire? Then for someone like me, I get "whined at" because I'm not attracted to obese people.

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ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage

I've been overweight. I prefer to be thin. I've been thin most of my life.

The problem with there being so many obese people lies in the fact that over >30% of the US population is obese. It is NOT something to be proud of. My brother is obese and so is my mom, my sister is overweight. I refuse to look like that. And just because people are thin, doesn't necessarily mean that they are "shirt ripping Fabios", which I can't stand those, either. As a female, I prefer to be the pretty one. I also like to be healthy.

According to the CDC:
American society has become 'obesogenic,' characterized by environments that promote increased food intake, nonhealthful foods, and physical inactivity. Policy and environmental change initiatives that make healthy choices in nutrition and physical activity available, affordable, and easy will likely prove most effective in combating obesity.

Obesity is a risk factor for a variety of chronic conditions including diabetes, hypertension, high cholesterol, stroke, heart disease, certain cancers, and arthritis.26 Higher grades of obesity are associated with excess mortality, primarily from cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and certain cancers. 26-28 Trends in obesity-related health outcomes do not always parallel trends in the prevalence of obesity. Despite the increases in obesity prevalence, mortality rates and mortality from coronary heart disease and stroke have declined over several decades,29 possibly due to improvements in public health and medical care (IMO, due to technological advances in medical care, public health improvements most likely refers to public education and response times. I wanted to clarify this before someone went off spouting off how great US health care already is. Yeah, it's great if you have tons of money.) and in other cardiovascular risk factors30; however, hypertension appears to be increasing.31 Of these obesity-related conditions, diabetes may be most closely linked to obesity, and the increasing incidence of diabetes worldwide is of considerable concern.32
Prevalence and Trends in Obesity Among US Adults, 1999 - 2008

Because of the increased need for medical care caused by obesity, obesity becomes a disease burden to society at large, much the same as drug addiction or smoking.

Basically, what I hear the OP saying is that if we're thin or prefer thin people, then we shouldn't be into BDSM because it's heavily populated with obese people.

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ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage

Basically, what I hear the OP saying is that if we're thin or prefer thin people, then we shouldn't be into BDSM because it's heavily populated with obese people.

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I read what he wrote totally differently-I thought he was saying that us plumper people shouldn't get so het up when people start threads pointing out that we exist in all our glory...:P

I didn't read it as an attack on people who prefer skinnies at all.

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
The horse is dead, rotted and has been beaten so far into the ground that he has fallen out on the other side of the world.

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ORIGINAL: DarlingSavage

You can, but are you? Studies show that you're not. I'm not gonna run around and try to force people to lose weight, and I don't think I'm being forced to be attracted to someone I'm not. However, I find it very disheartening when people that I am attracted to are far and few between because of this simple issue.

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ORIGINAL: thornhappy

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ORIGINAL: windchymes
The horse is dead, rotted and has been beaten so far into the ground that he has fallen out on the other side of the world.

Fallen, hell!  It's gone into orbit!

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ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

All I have to do is to reduce carb intake and excercise more. I lost 30 pounds three years ago by doing this, I can do it again. And will.

Knowing this,I have little sympathy for people who CHOOSE not to follow suit.

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ORIGINAL: Level

Yes, the Kwasinner-bons are the killers!

Smutmonger, you hit the nail on the head; drop the carbs, and drop the pounds. At least for men.

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ORIGINAL: heartcream

Carbs, good carbs, good carbs are full of vitamin B that help make you grounded and feel stable. Carbs are your friends. Crappy carbs taste good a lot of times but they are not really body friendly.

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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

But is Ron being blown?.... isn't that the real question?

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ORIGINAL: SweetNika

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ORIGINAL: Smutmonger

All I have to do is to reduce carb intake and excercise more. I lost 30 pounds three years ago by doing this, I can do it again. And will.

Knowing this,I have little sympathy for people who CHOOSE not to follow suit.

This is a narrow minded statement. It's not that easy nor is it that easy for other people myself included. For me it's a battle of fighting effects of medication that are required for my long term health. It doesn't matter what I eat or how much I work out it is always a struggle to simply maintain. The ONLY reason I have an issue with threads on weight are the same reason others have pointed out, people tend to be narrow minded and judgemental and rarely do the discussions stay productive.