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RE: Cuckolding - 7/29/2010 5:04:31 PM

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That locating & permanently uniting with a lifelong cuckoldress is FAR MORE DIFFICULT, challenging, taxing, resource consuming, & discouraging than locating a VANILLA BRIDE says something about the true nature of cuckolding, does it not?

STAYING ON TOPIC HERE...

Is it not true that MOST cuckold marriages BEGAN AS VANILLA? I don't know, but that's my presumption.

Slowly & steadily drawing the unsuspecting VANILLA HUSBAND into the inescapable web of FemDom & cuckoldry is the generally accepted protocol, is it not?

I've been doing this thing BACKWARDS!

DOH!

I BEGAN PESUMING FEMDOM, and quickly extrapolated into cuckoldry, supposing that truth, and a DIRECT APPROACH would be best...

WRONG ANSWER, thanks for playing...

It seems that one must pursue vanilla, and then HOPE that one's bride is somehow magically led into exercising her dominant feminine wiles.

The DIRECT APPROACH is a failure.

And I thought that TRUTH WOULD BE BEST...

99.95% of the Domme postings that I've viewed are seeking a mindless ATM.

"If you got the money, honey, we got the time..."

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/29/2010 5:10:12 PM

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I could not disagree more. Dating and marrying vanilla is a big mistake. If you do not meet your Mistress on a site like this or at a fetish event, then the semi direct approach is best. Deception and possible cheating is never a good idea. I met my Mistress at a fetish event. Her desire/need to be a cuckoldress emerged over time.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 5:09:23 AM

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We agree - the dominant feminine oftentimes proclivity is subtle, needs encouragement, reassurance, trust acceptance, and appreciation.

While I live in a large city, the conservative midwest doesn't cater to "fetish events", as best I now understand.

Meeting on-line seems to largely be a complete waste of time, given the deeit that flies around on the 'Net.

Wow, who'd have think that meeting a lady with a ravenous sexual appetite, and oipen to expressing her dominant nature, would have been so difficult?

"Beauty os to men as money is to women" - Marilyn Monroe

And ALL God's people said: AMEN

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 7:01:58 AM

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I live in the Midwest. These days, there are sometimes more fetish events than I can attend.
Meeting on the net has drawbacks, but I have met Mistresses online, and I know others who have as well.
I recommend doing everything you can, using every means to meet a Mistress.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 7:03:15 AM

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They may have a bunch where you live kal, but they are scarce around me.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 7:40:21 AM

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I believe that Sharina Nicole hosts parties in your state. Fetish events is one way to find a Mistress, but there are many others. You have to use them all.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 8:18:24 AM

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After a lifetime of searching for a lifelong HOT Wife, I'm becoming discouraged.

Anticipating a MOST PASSIONATE sexual relationship, I earlier believed that cuckoldry was an answer.

But the lion's share of related interest female postings are control freaks in search of marrying an inexhaustible ATM.

Paying for sex is prostitution.

Paying for NO SEX is marriage.

Either way, the man pays, and pays, and pays...

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 10:18:25 AM

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My opinion of people who complain that they can't people who don't want to use them, is that they must have a personality flaw that those buzzards pick up on and they begin to circle. If you stink, they'll start to swarm.

Instead of complaining so much, take a real hard look at yourself and change whatever is attracting them. Change your search parameters. MOVE if you have to. If you want something bad enough, you'll fight to get to where you need to be to get that.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 10:26:11 AM

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Completely agreed, SomethingCatchy.

I seriously get a kick out of folks who have every excuse in the book of reasons why they 'can't' do this and they 'can't' do that. Nine times out of ten, it has everything to do with 'won't'.

If somebody doesn't want to go the extra mile in finding what they seek, that's completely up to them. At the same time, I think it's prudent to remember that somebody else will.

Btw, this has absolutely nothing to do with the original first post. It is completely reflective on the side track that this thread has taken which is way off from the OP.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 11:22:12 AM

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I know it can be done. I am with a fantastic Mistress/cuckoldress now. And she is not my first. The guys who can't find the Mistress they desire are probably doing something, perhaps many things wrong. Great Mistresses don't grow on trees, but they do exist.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 11:57:48 AM

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It does becme more difficult as we age. Even vanilla dating seems to be hard to find compatibility now.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 4:07:13 PM

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It does becme more difficult as we age. Even vanilla dating seems to be hard to find compatibility now.

Psssh, it's not easy for youngsters either!

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 4:47:23 PM

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So it takes some effort? It can still be done. I am mid forties now. And I know guys older than me who have Mistresses. You can't complain about how hard it is. You have to just get up and do it. Some young dommes prefer their slaves to be older.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 4:49:36 PM

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You can't make folks put forth effort if they don't want to. It's okay, though, it makes the rest of the men look that much better for having the cojones to go after what they want!

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 5:23:52 PM

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Is not "cuckold headspace" directly related to the sub feeling ashamed, embarassed, inadequate, and humiliated?

The Mistress flaunts her Dominant sexual nature in front of the cuck, teasing the cuck for being so far from able to please her.

Taking that emotional power play for what it's worth, being a cuckold is a ticket into close-up live porn, is it not?

That works for me.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 5:36:48 PM

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I think that SlaveKal is more than able to please MsM. She just likes her strange. And there's nothing wrong with that!

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 6:55:00 PM

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From previous posts, there are many more submissive men than dominant women. So now matter what the effort, some will be disappointed. There are many more younger dominant women, since when I was young This lifestyle was very limited, and women were still being programmed to think they should submit to the man.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 7:01:30 PM

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I've been in the lifestyle since I was young, and I was not alone. There are lots of men who THINK they are submissive, that I will agree with.

Compatibility is always going to be an issue. Being kinky adds that one more layer of difficulty.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 8:15:20 PM

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All this whining! Ratios don't even matter. Let's say there are ten sub males for every dominant woman. So what? Five of them will be married and sneaking around. Three will make initial contact and never get up the guts to show up for a coffee meeting. One will weigh 400 pounds and have the hygiene of a warthog. Just be that tenth guy. Shower, exercise once in a while, brush and floss. And show up for the first meeting. Dominant women exist. But they aren't going to come over and knock down your door.

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RE: Cuckolding - 7/30/2010 8:48:21 PM

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Is not "cuckold headspace" directly related to the sub feeling ashamed, embarassed, inadequate, and humiliated?

The Mistress flaunts her Dominant sexual nature in front of the cuck, teasing the cuck for being so far from able to please her.

Taking that emotional power play for what it's worth, being a cuckold is a ticket into close-up live porn, is it not?

That works for me.

Maybe for you, it does. For me, it's the ultimate in selfless dedication. A male, who's able to set aside his ego and will make arrangements to see to it personally that I'm pleasured beyond belief is what appeals to me. I could quite frankly give two shits about your "embarrassment or humiliation".

You see swingers do it all the time. The husband runs the camera, checks in the guy(s), gets her going, sets the guys in line, holds her hand and checks on her, making sure she's ok, sees the guys out, cleans her up, cuddles with her and calms her down and they settle in for a much needed rest. THIS, to me, is what cuckolding is all about, not the skanky foul-mouthed screeching howler monkeys you see in the "cuckholding" porn.

For me, it has very LITTLE to do with you, and everything to do with me. That's as it SHOULD be.

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