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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/16/2004 10:10:23 AM   
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Where we might not see eye to eye is our regard for competition and agressiveness.


Now, from all that I have said on these boards, wouldn't you think that I would expect that you and I would disagree about that? To go one step further, can you imagine that I might actually think that it is essential that you and I disagree about that? It takes both of us, being what we are. If your way of thinking, or mine, ever truly "won" we'd both be in trouble.

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IMO, dominance is not always the best route to human progress. Sure, aggression may lead to greater individual achievement, to winning wars, to daring exploration. But there are fields (like science) were finesse and imagination, patience and creativity, are more important.


To progress, maybe not, depending on how you define progress. To our overall health and wellbeing, and maybe even our survival as a species? I for one don't think I'm smart enough to know for sure. I understand (to a degree) the forces of nature that shaped us. I don't think that I, or anyone really, is smart enough to know what will happen if we turn our backs on them in favor of something that seems more rational to us.

With regard to science, I would say that I agree with you, but only in the area of scientific refinement and evolutionary change. Revolutionary advances and paradigm shifts are usually championed by folks who are agressive and competitive enough to advance ideas that are met with scorn and cries of heresy. Again, it takes both kinds.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/16/2004 5:21:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

I see, a nefarious plot, was it? Well, I certainly can't fault you for something that worked.

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We do have a past full of male domination. It's hard to say where genetics leaves off and traditions begin -- it could be that the genetics were gone by the dawn of history, but that the environment encouraged male dominance. Wherever it came from, we've had it for quite a while.


Apply Occam's Razor. a) There was a massive worldwide conspiracy among 99.9% of the peoples in the world to create male dominated traditions to slight females. We have no idea how these cultures communicated with each other, but somehow, they did.

There is a great corollary to this among the social scientists who debate the hot topic of matriarchal societies. The argument (from the anti-matriarchal side) goes like this: A researcher takes an initial glance at a society and says that it's hard on its women and treats them very unequally. The anti-matriarchal social scientist says that that's a bunch of claptrap... feminist propaganda to try to get people riled up. A later researcher studies the same people, and finds that the first researcher was mistaken, that women have something approximating equality. The anti-matriarchal social scientist says that the claims of female equality is a bunch of claptrap, feminist propaganda, because of course ALL societies have ALWAYS been dominated by men. This is exactly what has happened with studies of Australian Aborigines over the last few decades, and a number of other cultures as well.

I don't buy 99.9%, though. My family spent a few generations on Hawaii, where men did most of the work (including the agriculture and cooking), and where early explorers talked to women who said that they'd had over 40 husbands, often several at a time. As the saying of the era went, "moe aku, moe mai" ("sleep here, sleep there"). But they were not an isolated phenomenon, and such societies sometimes became powerful empires. As Herodotus said of the Egypt of the pharoahs, "it was ordained that the queen should have greater power and honour than the king and that among private persons the wife should enjoy authority over her husband." (Book I, 27) A short list of non-patriarchal societies would have to include at least the following:

Africa
(Pre-Islamic) Berbers
The Tuareg
The Bijagos Islanders
The Hausa, until recently
The Bedouins
(Pre-Islamic) Egyptians
The Meroë of Nubia

Europe
The Saami of Lapland
The Etruscans
Some would add the Celts

Asia
The Malabar, India
Lakshadvip Islanders, India
Minicoy, India
Khasi, India
Garo, India
The Tibetans
The Mosuo of Yunnan, China
The Minangkabau of Indonesia and Sumatra
The Okinawans, at least until Japanese annexation

Oceania
The Hawiians
The Samoans
The Tongans
The Marquesas Islanders

North America:
The Cherokee
The Zuni
The Hopi
The Iroquois
The Tehuantepec Zapotec
The Huron
The Pueblo
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b) Only a woman can be sure that the baby that she is carrying is hers. Until very recently there was no way to prove paternity. Evolution favors those who successfully reproduce themselves. Evolution favored men who could both keep sexual control over their mate, and warn off (or fight off, if need be) rivals. Males of our species evolved to be bigger, stronger, more naturally agressive, and with a stonger instinctual drive to assert dominance and control than females.

The most parsimonious explaination is?

Gorillas, orangutans and baboons have harems, and the males usually try to limit female sexual outlets. Their sexual dimorphism is 100%, i.e. the males are twice as big as the females. This makes sense, since the males must compete with each other to get and hoard the females. Most males of these species never have sex.

Gibbons are monogamous, and have no sexual dimorphism at all.

Chimpanzees are much closer to us genetically, and are promiscuous. Males sometimes try to limit female sexual opportunities to within their group, but are miserable failures at it. Best guestimates are that 20% of baby chimps are fathered by low status males, 25-30% by high status males within the group, and 50-55% by males who don't belong to their group at all, who the females met while cruising through the jungle on their own. Bonobos (our very closest relatives) are, if anything, female-dominated, and both genders are extremely promiscuous. Sexual dimorphism among chimps and bonobos is 6-30%.

Human sexual dimorphism is 6-23%, averaging 15%. If we followed the gorilla model of sexuality, the average American male should be about 6'7" and 270 pounds. Instead, we appear to be like those slutty little chimps.
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It's really a little more complex than that, but not much. There are competing reproductive strategies. Less dominant males have always been able to get sex (to a degree) by sucking up to women. Women have two competing priorities when it comes to men. They want to mate with the "champion", but they often can't keep that guy around to care for their young unless they are an "alpha female" type (read beautiful, and smart). He'll fuck them willingly enough, but that's about all they'll get from him. Then there is the male that they can keep around. The one that will provide for their young. Think that this is "frozen science"? In my state 10-20% of babies born were fathered by a man other than their mother's husband or the man who thinks he's the father. It's against the law here, by the way, for the hospital to tell hubby he's not the dad (which they often discover when they do routine newborn blood-tests). The only study that I've ever seen done on this showed (shockingly to everyone but someone like me, probably) that the dad was fairly consistantly someone of higher socio-economic status than hubby. The study didn't show it, but he was probably stronger and better looking too. He's the champion that the woman instinctively desires, but also instinctively knows that she probably won't convince to stick around.

Most of the studies I've seen reach similar conclusions, I've heard 10% of UK babies aren't the husband's, and that in the US it's closer to 20%. Studies which showed that women didn't sleep around were found to be inaccurate, because the women would understate their sexual activity. Studies on men found that men exaggerated their sexual activity. The conclusions now being reached are that women and men both sleep around quite a lot. It would be roughly a draw, but prostitution skews the numbers enough to give women a bit of an edge.

As for status-related issues, I haven't seen any formal study on that subject, and examples I can think of from my own experience seem too random to show a clear trend. So I'll take a "pass" on that issue.
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As a historian, you might recognize this pattern, though, as far as I know, Sparta was the only culture where men actually thought it was a good thing for their wife to fuck the "champion". It made for a stronger Sparta. A man would be proud to raise the son of the best sprinter, or the hero in war.

The Spartans were a very interesting bunch. Dorian traditions, in Sparta and Crete, strongly suppressed the importance of the individual in favor or the society and the state. Customs and laws enforced a great deal of equality between citizens, and much greater equality between the sexes than seen in neighboring states. But if you were a Spartan, male or female, you were, in many regards, no more free than the tens of thousands of slaves who worked Sparta's fields. At the age of 6, boys (who had not been killed at birth as seemingly weak or inferior) were taken from their mothers and put into what amounted to the world's strictest military academy, where they stayed for 14 years. After that, they were essentially soldiers for life, eating and sleeping in a sort of barracks. The women were raised to be extremely fit and healthy, with the intention that they keep the ever-sagging Spartan population up. Both sexes regularly exercized outdoors, in the nude -- so anyone who was out of shape would be mocked by their neighbors. In essence, everyone was the property of the community, and had virtually no personal life as we understand it.

There are also endless debates about Spartan sexuality. Not over the bisexuality of the women, that's undisputed. But it was expected that a Spartan man, as he entered his 20s, would select a boy of 12 or 13 to form a special relationship with. (Men were allowed to marry at age 30, when they would usually go through a mock abduction of their bride from her house -- this same ritual was performed by Cretan men when they would choose their boy, but in Sparta it was done differently since no Spartan boys remained at home.) He would then act as the boy's mentor in many regards, was expected to love the boy and develop a lifelong relationship with him, and in many cases it is quite certain that they were having sex. While the sexual part of the relationship eventually became officially forbidden (after one Spartan king was betrayed by his boy love), it is very clear that the Spartans (and other Dorians) were very sexually conflicted. Apollodorus credited Prince Hyacinthus of Sparta with being the first mortal male to engage in gay sex, and at times Spartan men might be mocked for having heterosexual sex. After the man was 30 and might marry, he was required to resort to having sex with his wife on the sly -- she would have her hair cut off, would put on men's clothing, and would slip into his barracks where she would wait for him in a dark room. After they had sex, she would sneak back home. It was said that sometimes Spartan men went without seeing their wives in daylight between their wedding and the birth of their first child. Supposedly this sexual ritual was to make the rendezvous more exciting, but one cannot escape the impression that (1) they were somewhat ashamed of heterosexual encounters, and (2) they weren't so squeamish about it when the woman looked like a man. One contemporary writer claimed that the Spartan version of courtship was for the women to beat their choice of husband about the head until he was subdued, then to bodily drag him around the altar. Because Sparta was constantly struggling to keep their population up, they tried to encourage reproduction by methods like parading all bachelors, naked, through the marketplace in the dead of Winter, where they were forced to sing a song about how they had broken the law and were being justly punished. Even so, the number of Spartan citizens rarely hit the 10,000 mark.

There is no doubt that a Spartan man might sometimes share his wife with a man who he respected, and that Spartan men would sometimes approach the husband of a woman who he fancied, and ask permission to try to father a child with her. There is also evidence that Spartan women would sometimes take lovers on their own. Because marriages were not necessarily love matches, the participants not necessarily heterosexual or living together, and because the duty to the state (including reproduction) overcame all other considerations, I don't think Spartan custom at all surprising. If an adult saw a child misbehaving, it was his or her duty to beat the child, as they were considered more a child of Sparta than of any individuals in particular. Marriage and family structure, as we know them, barely existed. Spartan hoplites rarely declined suicide missions, why should Spartans mind sharing spouses? Everyone belonged to the state from the time they, as newborns, were brought before the government inspectors, who would decide whether they should be allowed to live or left out to die.

A few other places allowed their King or other top officials great liberties, which might be regarded as a similar practice. While the droit de seigneur/jus primae noctis may have been almost entirely fictitious in Europe (sorry, Braveheart fans), it did exist in Uruk. "So Enkidu came then to know of Gilgamesh who harshly ruled and was not loved by those men whose girls he often played with all night long... And Enkidu stood before the gate where new lovers go and stopped Gilgamesh from coming with nighttime girls." (Epic of Gilgamesh, tablet 2)
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That our higher, "rational" minds govern what we do sexually is largely an illusion. We're still obeying what we are (as best we can).

I never claimed to act rationally when it came to my sexuality, only my social conduct. The only rationality to my sexual conduct is in observing the local age of consent.
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Human teachings about good and evil conduct have varied a lot over the centuries, as a result of changes in conditions and technology. In 1000 BC, it made sense to tell people that eating pork was a sin, because people didn't always cook it well and they got trichinosis.

As a historian, you are surprisingly off base about these traditions. Even the most learned rabbi will tell you that he has no idea why the dietary laws (kashrut) exist. It doesn't have anything to do with trichinosis. Land animals have to both have cloven hooves and chew the cud to be kosher, and they have to be slaughtered in a specific way. Horses aren't any more kosher than pigs, though their meat is no less healthful than beef when cooked similarly. Aquatic animals have to have both fins and scales. Sharks aren't kosher and neither are catfish, though again, their meat isn't any less heathful than that of a salmon or halibut (which are kosher).

I'd be the last one to say that all religious rules make sense. I was merely pointing out that some of them make sense in the context of their time and place. And in that case, I happened to be thinking both of kosher and halal rules. If slaughtered in the allowed manner, all land animals are halal except for carnivores, reptiles and pigs. All fish and non-carniverous birds are halal if slaughtered properly. I do think it noteworthy that both systems ban pork.
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Adam and eve were told to be fruitful and multiply in the bible, but that isn't where the prohibition against birth control comes from. It comes from a passage where a man "spilling his seed on the ground" after fucking a woman was displeasing to god. A fundamentalist reads that passage and proscribes all birth control. An ethicist like me looks at it and sees it (I think) for what it is. At the time, baring an important man's child was the ticket to higher status for a woman. Fucking her and "spilling your seed on the ground" was, in effect, cheating her. God, from the quotes acribed to him, seems to think that cheating is uncool fairly consistantly.

Interesting. I see it as denying her offspring, you see it as denying her the status of her offspring. Personally, I find the whole thing a bit confusing. She seems to have wanted offspring, but the fact that she later prostituted herself to her father in law in order to conceive makes me doubtful that she was doing it to increase her status.
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... and in Western religions they were forbidden from leading or teaching

Shakyamuni (the historical Buddha) also forbade women from teaching, even though one of his earliest and most devout followers was a woman. It isn't just western traditions. When you see something repeated over and over in widely different cultures, NorCal, it is a good idea to look for a common (and parsimonious) cause.

If I remember correctly, what you're referring to went like this:
The Buddha's aunt approached him and asked to become a nun. Tradition in India had been for many centuries that only men be clergy, so he refused her fairly revolutionary request, saying that the time was not yet right for allowing female clergy. She returned with 50 other women, all of whom wanted to become nuns. He relented and compromised with them, allowing them to be nuns but putting a number of restrictions on them, one of which was a prohibition against teaching. In even compromising with them, he would have been considered a fairly radical feminist, and I doubt that he wanted to start complete social upheaval by treating the sexes identically. So I do not think you should attribute that rule to the Buddha, but rather to 900 years of Indo-European restrictions on the role of women in religion.
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as well as being incapable of making contracts due to their deceitfulness, being almost invariably slutty.... [snip] “Who can find a virtuous woman?”

See the 10%-20% of babies statistic above. Since we were "dragging our knuckles" we have been selected to be suspicious of the sexual motivations of our mates, and not without reason. Traditions don't form in a vacuum, NorCal.

The statistics also show that the sexes are approximately equal in their promiscuity, and Diogenes never found any honest men, either.
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I see the human race as having huge challenges ahead of it, and I am very fond of the hope that our species might survive. Great ideas may come from individuals, but great works are the result of the skills of many.

I too hope that our species survives, but I'm not overly optimistic. I don't trust intellect to save us as much as you do. I simply don't think that we are wise enough to abandon the evolutionary forces that shaped us. These processes may well be too complex for us to comprehend fully. Our ethical notion of what is right, and good, has evolved to be honoring the desires and heroically defending the welfare of each and every individual. What if this way of thinking is a disaster that will destroy our species in the end? Through heroic (and costly) interventions, children survive to adulthood and reproduce today that would have died in infancy just a couple of generations ago. As a species, we're getting fat, and soft, and in many ways fragile. Maladies are common today that were rare in my grandfather's time. Like you, most trust our intellect and technology to save us in the end. What if it can't? What if the ugly, irreducable truth is that for a species to survive there have to be winners and losers? What if it can't be fair for everyone, and when you meddle and try to make it so, you do so at the peril of your species as a whole?

OK, we differ on what may improve the race's chances of survival. I can live with that.
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So, while male domination might or might not be natural to our species, I don't think we can afford to perpetuate it any longer

And I think it's quite possible that we can't afford not to. See above.

See above.
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What of forbidding women from leading?

What of it? I'm not any more for it than you are. What I am vehemently against is "toning down" men so that women have a better shot at it. For the reasons that I stated above, I think that men are evolved to be more interested in asserting dominance than women are. It's just how we are built, and for good reason. We should encourage both our men and our women to express what they are, fully, and with pride. I don't think that men have to forbid women from doing anything that they can do. I think that in an environment that celebrated the differences between men and women, rather than treating them with distain as part of our unworthy "simian" past women leaders would be rare. They would exist, but they wouldn't be the rule. Male leaders are the rule today. Women leaders are the exception, our social agendas not withstanding. I think it's just part of our inate humanity to look to strong men to lead. Many people think it's some repressive cultural conspiracy. That is the basic difference between us.

You are arguing that by excluding (or even failing to encorage and prefer) women as leaders you would lose whatever contribution that they would make. It's not so. Though women lead relatively rarely, they have always been the confidants and and counsel of strong men. Even some men are spectacular councelers, but would never be accepted as a leader. Henry Kissenger is the best example that comes to mind. He would never have been elected president, and he knew it, but he made a tremendous contribution nonetheless.

Just an OT aside, I loathe Henry Kissinger. He played a major role in the deaths of hundreds of thousands of civilians in various parts of the globe, and I hope that the foreign courts that are trying to extradite him succeed. May we never have a woman leader who is that bad.

Time for me to get out of the office, so I'll have to pick this topic back up later.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 2:34:38 AM   
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Hey NorCal. Damn good post.

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A short list of non-patriarchal societies would have to include at least the following:


I can see we're going to have to arrive at some kind of common definition of a matriarchy here. Are we talking about property rights? Royal succession? Who "wears the pants" in the typical household in the culture in question, or what?

I have first hand experience with Bedouins, Cherokee, and Tibetans. I don't think any of the three would qualify as a matriarchy on all three of the above criteria based on what I have seen. I didn't think we knew enough about Etruscans to really know for sure. Their civilization was in ruins before the classical era. Cook found chiefs on Hawaii, not queens, did he not? All that aside, you think that list accounts or more than 1 in 1000 people who were ever rattling around? I don't think it would even be close. So I'll stand pat with my 99.9% figure. I could be off a few tenths, but we're still talking about a pretty overwhelming majority.

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Human sexual dimorphism is 6-23%, averaging 15%. If we followed the gorilla model of sexuality, the average American male should be about 6'7" and 270 pounds. Instead, we appear to be like those slutty little chimps.


Hmmm... Maybe this is where the problem lies. At just a shade under 6'6" and about 240, maybe I'm more gorilla like. That would explain a lot. Seriously though, the diaphorism of human beings can't really be compared apples-to-apples with those other species. Our females aren't just physically smaller versions of us, as is more the case with the great apes. They are very different in terms of their strength and agressive potential. My last slave was just damn near exactly half my body weight (gorilla like), but in every measure of strength that we checked (bench press, dead lift, squat, seated row, curl, etc.) I was between 3 and 4 times as strong as she was. The typical difference between men and women is something a little in excess of 2X. In terms of body weight we're more like the chimps, but in terms of actual strength and agressive potential, we're up there with the orangutans and gorillas.

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Chimpanzees are much closer to us genetically, and are promiscuous. Males sometimes try to limit female sexual opportunities to within their group, but are miserable failures at it.


Yes, this does sound like us, though I think that our behavior (or our behavior as it would be if we were unfettered by traditional social contracts) would be somewhere in the middle. Powerful men would keep, and have kept, harems given the opportunity, but there is also a strong "freeloader" promiscusious side to our nature that moves us to fuck-and-run when we can too.

Polygynous marriage institutionalized the harem. Monogamous marriage strikes a compromise. It's a "harem of one" if you will. Probably a decent compromise that kept the men inside the walls thinking about the men outside the walls instead of fighting each other to get and maintain hegemony over multiple desirable women.

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As for status-related issues, I haven't seen any formal study on that subject, and examples I can think of from my own experience seem too random to show a clear trend. So I'll take a "pass" on that issue.


"The Red Queen" by Mark Ridley is a good "popular" read on the subject. If you want the actual journal articles, they're in the bibleo.

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The Spartans were a very interesting bunch. Dorian traditions....


I've studied their culture extensively. Theirs seemed to me to be an honor cluture taken to the extreme. Honor and duty above all. As for the homosexuality part. A lot gets made of this, and it gives a very false impression because people try to relate it to what they know. Say homosexual and many in our culture think of a queen from the castro. Spartan men may have fucked each other from time to time, but it probably wasn't really homosexuality as we know it in most cases. Rather, it was more like the "dominant male topping" that you talked about in earlier posts. A poor but ready analogy from our experience would be prison. Somebody is going to be the bitch. A man might "top" and fuck other men in prison but when he gets out, never even look at a man sexually. Is that really homosexuality, or sodomy as an expression of dominance?

Years ago, I was slated to do some training with Turkish special forces troops. Part of the cultural "heads up" that we got was that it was entirely possible that a sargent of theirs might well be fucking one of the fuzz-faced recruits. Similar things go on in Afganistan and other places that I have some knowledge of where sex with women isn't readily available or proscribed by religion. I don't think its homosexuality in the way that we think of it.

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Not over the bisexuality of the women, that's undisputed.


Not unique to Sparta. Typical whenever women have lots of time on their hands apart from men. Remember the requirement that cucumbers be cut and that the lights be left on in the Ottoman harems?

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But it was expected that a Spartan man, as he entered his 20s, would select a boy of 12 or 13 to form a special relationship with.


I know that this is widely debated. Nobody really knows for sure. The answer probably is that there was some fucking going on, as with the Turks above, but that it wasn't really meant to be an institutionalized homosexual situation.

It happened (and still happens) in traditional cultures, and there were many examples of it from classical history (Hadrian comes to mind). Again, I'm not sure that much of this is homosexuality as we know it, meaning that these men fucking each other is not indicative of what their sexual orientation might be.

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In even compromising with them, he would have been considered a fairly radical feminist, and I doubt that he wanted to start complete social upheaval by treating the sexes identically. So I do not think you should attribute that rule to the Buddha, but rather to 900 years of Indo-European restrictions on the role of women in religion.


What I have read lead me to believe that he was personally against it. I don't have any basis to think that he wouldn't say that something was right if he thought so. But it doesn't really matter. Early Christians probably felt similarly tradition bound when they excluded women from the clergy. I was simply pointing out that it was not something unique to the west, as you had said.

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The statistics also show that the sexes are approximately equal in their promiscuity, and Diogenes never found any honest men, either.


This is interesting in that it betrays your need to make everything equal and balanced. Men are (or would like to be), in fact, more promiscious than women, no doubt, and for good reason. However, men have (from an evolutionary standpoint) a greater motivation to prevent promiscuity in their mate. Whether a woman bears a child fathered by her mate, or someone else, her genes still make it. She is not disadvantaged (in the evolutionary sense) by her promiscuity. Her mate is. Men who are controlling and suspicious of the sexual motivations of their mates are advantaged (again, in the evolutionary sense) over those who don't care. I'm not making value judgements here, I'm showing you how inate drives translate into conscious attitudes and ultimately get codified into traditions.

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Just an OT aside, I loathe Henry Kissinger. He played a major role in the deaths of hundreds of thousands of civilians in various parts of the globe, and I hope that the foreign courts that are trying to extradite him succeed. May we never have a woman leader who is that bad.


Well, again, he wasn't really a leader. He was a councelor. I think Kissenger's big contribution was pushing Nixon to re-engage with China at a time when that was not popular. I think that people underestimate how that helped to end the cold war, and we don't even fully know yet how it may influence our economic destiny in the next 100 years. I'm sure that he did get some folks killed. It's very difficult not to when you are at or near the helm of a nation that considers its interests to be global, and threatened. We're quick to judge men like that without ever having had to face the choices that they did ourselves. I think that he might have done more good on balance, which is sometimes as good as it gets.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 6:20:43 AM   
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My Gawd Leonidas, you have met your match!! Are you and NoCal related? I love reading both of your writings. Keep them coming!!

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 7:34:05 AM   
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No actually instead of defining Matriarchal societies, getting hard ons from sparring with one another, we could actually stay with the original question. Why is it ok for neadrathal, knuckle draggings oaffs to make another member of our society feel unwelcomed, when the abusive parties have no claim or interest in their ownership or right to enjoy their kink. The answer is that no one has the right to be a pompous insecure ass to those who are not into the same kink. Now boys, carry on stroking one another as some of it is very good.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 7:39:23 AM   
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Pleased to hear that you are enjoying yourself. Don't be over optimistic that you're going to see a whole lot of this. Conversations like this are really a misfit in a BDSM forum. They're boring to many, offensive to some, and so probably best conducted elsewhere rather than taking up public bandwidth here, as evidenced by Prankster's post above.

Yes, I do have a lot of fun batting ideas around with NorCal. He keeps me from being lazy.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 8:01:42 AM   
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The answer should be self-evident to you. Its for the same reason that it's OK for a strident young woman such as yourself to classify people who hold opinions that she doesn't like as knuckle-draggers, in effect attacking the holder of the opinion, rather than the opinion itself, and insinuate that a debate between men is somehow homo-erotic because she's not the center of attention. Because they, and you, can. You are well adapted. Your behavior would get most men to pay attention to you and bend to your will, rather than being an ape, a latent homosexual, or otherwise displeasing to you. I'm paying attention to you for a moment here, but not for long. Your behavior, and your original post, aren't particularly interesting to me. You can hold your breath waiting for me to change my behavior to suit you, but if you do, you'll turn blue and fall down.

Your assertion notwithstanding, people do have the right to hold whatever opinion they like, and even express it if they want to. You have the right to form your own opinions about them based on what they say, and even put on your bitch-shoes and express those opinions as abrasively as you can muster. On the other hand you can remain secure in your own convictions, and simply choose not to associate with them. Probably not the answer that you were soliciting, but it's all you're going to get from me.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 8:18:38 AM   
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You so can't help yourself can you Leonidas? I find your views to be from a scared man who must try and discount and tear apart views that are not your own. The reply you sent and then erased by some random stroke of clarity was beyond rude, overreactive and sad. As far as the knuckle dragging goes, those are not my own words. Keep your facts straight. As far as keeping your attention, you can go about your day knowing your views give me a bit of comic relief, and that is all.

The fact that so many people actually take your thoughts seriously shows just how lost some are out there. You take your obviously well rounded book smarts, including the fantasy gorean novels, and turn it into a sad excuse for dominance. Now, stop hijacking my thread with your contempt. Unless you are unable to start your own without a woman's help.

Truly dominant men shake their heads at your attempt to appear dominant. There are those with true power, and those with witty sarcastic remarks used to further their superiority complex. Happy hunting. By the way you've personally attacked me in posts here and erased, I have to wonder if you aren't the Uber Wanna Be Dom of past chat rooms who has thrown numerous fits and been banned. Most likely.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 8:43:13 AM   
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i personally find Leonidas' posts very thought provoking and i don't feel like i am lost at all. i am also enjoying the exchanging of opinions between Leonidas and NoCal. i think when someone makes a post that is an obvious putdown of male Dominants You have to expect some kind of backlash from it. Go at it and challenge them with Your own intellect and not with putdowns.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 9:30:37 AM   
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well I have met a few Doms that feel FemDoms are far from real...well here I am!!!! and will go toe to toe with any male Dom.....the problem seems to be .....a lacking some where....or can it be some male Doms are just worried we will take their subbies? hummmmmm????

thats not very open minded if ya ask me

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 11:00:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: PranksterBitch
No actually instead of defining Matriarchal societies, getting hard ons from sparring with one another, we could actually stay with the original question.
Why is it ok for neadrathal, knuckle draggings oaffs to make another member of our society feel unwelcomed, when the abusive parties have no claim or interest in their ownership or right to enjoy their kink.

The original question was:
"Stone Aged: the belief that FemDommes and male submissives are abhorrant, freaks or do not exist.

It's usually male Dominants telling their submissives these things .. so what is with this way of thinking? "

We've been on-topic all along, as our discussion has focused on why some are skeptical of female domination, and between us we've looked at arguments in both directions. Since you feel that your thread has been "hijacked," however, I will make a point of avoiding any thread you start in the future, and will not again annoy you by trying to support your position. In return, please show me the same courtesy.
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The answer is that no one has the right to be a pompous insecure ass to those who are not into the same kink.

I agree with that statement, but I do not think that we are the ones who are demonstrating that attitude right now. And if you felt that you knew the answer, why ask the question, particularly when other peoples' discussion of the topic is unacceptable to you?
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Now boys, carry on stroking one another as some of it is very good.

"...no one has the right to be a pompous insecure ass..."

Oh, wait, that wasn't pompous, that was more like snide and condescending. Never mind.

Leonidas: see you in other threads.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/17/2004 12:01:12 PM   
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It's been a pleasure as always, NoCal.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/18/2004 6:32:48 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

I'd like one where if Suzy gets backed down in a meeting, she either takes it like a grown up, or decides that she can't really compete with the boys afterall, and finds something in an environment where agressiveness and competitiveness among high-powered people isn't highly valued, instead of threatening an EEOC action.


This is really a problem with the legal system (andl people's inability to accept who they are and their own ability in the work place) and the ability to place specious arguments before the courts and (my opinion) weighted and biased arms of the government.

I have been a part of (more than) several actions and lawsuits involving myself or others where this interaction (declamation due to action) was utilized as a rejoinder and punishment for someone's hurt sensitbilities.

Whether it was due to a termination, a write up, a confrontation (and, most were of a professional nature) or simply because someone is vieing for higher a 'rung n the ladder' - they are often pressed for personal gain.

Reformation of the laws that would allow for counter suit and recompense of lost monies for this sort of frivolous law suit are likely to come. However, it is a weapon (legitimate because it is legally allowed?) in today's modern buisness place and used quite often.

It is a sad statement that this is the action of last resort for people who do not have the morals and the personal vision to realize that this is something that (usually) hurts their careers more than it supports their positions (winning a battle, losing a war).

But, then we digress from the discussion, which stemmed about whether "Male Dominantion" is more realistic, 'natural' (genetically and societally), and morally acceptable than female domination.

The fact is:

It is what it is, and decrying or supporting that position is not going to change it - and, the reality is that nothing changes easily - although with a few more law suits, a few more males might be scared into thinking it has.

To whit:
Society is what it is - whether from genetics, specialization/inheretance, or through socialization - it is a realtiy that is not easily changed or going to go away. And, people screaming that it is "unfair" is a rather silly thing to do.

"Poor, little girl - whoever told you that life was supposed to be fair?" - David Bowie "Labyrinth"

As far as lawsuits in persuit of The pendulum swings..... and, it swings both ways. The lawsuits are 'fun' while they last, but they generally negatively affect both the plaintiff and the defendant in the long run.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/18/2004 12:23:50 PM   
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ORIGINAL: PranksterBitch

Stone Aged: the belief that FemDommes and male submissives are abhorrant, freaks or do not exist.

It's usually male Dominants telling their submissives these things .. so what is with this way of thinking?



What i see here is more of a subjective statement than the general rule. In this life there will always be good and bad in all kinds of people, and people do not always agree.
Personally i could care less what title one holds, i value people for who they are and how they behave. To rant is fine and dandy, to get honest answers from people i find polite questions work best.
Having read the entire thread, what i have seen is a lively and interesting debate between two men. What they have said has caused me to think and learn. Thank You both for that.
What i find most disturbing is name calling, tamtrums and above all the war cry about hijacking a thread. Seems to me no one person owns a thread, they are for each and every person here to discuss. If someone does not like what they read, they can respond without being negitive.
Personally i have never had a Master tell me how to think reguarding another humans way of life. He may offer His opinion, but values me, along with my ability to reason, and knows i am intelligent enough to form my own opinions.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/20/2004 9:07:47 PM   
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What a great thread. Hijacked? Please!

So much going on... (been too busy with school and play)

Chimpanzee females often have sex with all the males in their troupe. A common interpretation is that this prevents the males from being certain the babies are theirs and thus discourages violence against the youngsters. Some have said the dominant males sire more offspring in proportion to the amount of sex they get meaning either they are more potent (good possibility due to hormonal influences, some studies show that being dominant leads to higher sperm count) or the females somehow have some control over which couplings lead to pregnancy.

Definining matriachy is problematic at best. I don't think you really can define it in a way that is useful to this discussion. Matrilineal is easy, as are property rights, but those things often have very little to do with the actual day-to-day distribution of power in a society or a family. Something else that I think gets overlooked is compartmentalization of power. What I mean by that is that often females are in control in a certain context while males are in control in another. In the achetypal traditional American family we have this. The male is seen as "dominant" and usually makes most finnancial decisions as well as other decisions related to the world outside. On the other hand, the female usually controls the day-to-day management of the home and the children. This has not traditionally been openly acknowledged. The same is true in chimp society. The males are often motivated to harm the young for various reasons but are quite effectively kept in check (controlled) in this aspect by the females.

I agree with Leonidas that sex with man does not necessarily denote homosexuality, however it seems clear that homosexuality was prominent in Sparta. Reports are not only of sex between males but of love. You might argue "brotherly love" or that of companions-in-arms, but it looks to me a lot more like romantic love. This makes sense since the society exhalted all that was male and since early sexual experiences necessarily revolved around men (as a behaviorist, I espouse the idea that if all the boys masturbate around and with other males and go through puberty with all physical experiences being with mlaes, most will grow up being aroused by males--so much for biological determinism)There is an axiom in military theory that says a soldier does not risk his life and perform heroic feats on the battlefield for his country, or his god, or his family, but for the other soldiers he trains with and bunks with. That's not sexual (usually). But more than one military science professor has proclaimed that the extreme bonds between the Spartan soldiers, including sexual bonds, was one of the keys to their success.

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Years ago, I was slated to do some training with Turkish special forces troops. Part of the cultural "heads up" that we got was that it was entirely possible that a sargent of theirs might well be fucking one of the fuzz-faced recruits. Similar things go on in Afganistan and other places that I have some knowledge of where sex with women isn't readily available or proscribed by religion. I don't think its homosexuality in the way that we think of it.


Perhaps it's not homosexuality in the way YOU think of it. I don't wish to put words in your mouth but your idea of homosexuality seems to imply some aspect of feminity or sissiness, concious or unconcious. I think that might be part of your difficulty with Spartan homosexuality.

PranksterBitch, please don't provide any more support for Leonidas's worldview with your behavior. It really undermines my arguments.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/20/2004 10:40:13 PM   
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I agree with Leonidas that sex with man does not necessarily denote homosexuality, however it seems clear that homosexuality was prominent in Sparta. Reports are not only of sex between males but of love.


There were "reports" of it throughout greek history, and roman history too, for that matter. What have you read that lead you to believe that homosexuality was rampant in Sparta? I never got that impression, and I'd be interested in reading why the author that you read thought so. If you are predisposed to find examples of homosexuality, you can certainly interpret things like the mentoring relationship that NoCal described as institutionalized homosexuality. If you walk around with a hammer, you see a lot of nails.

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You might argue "brotherly love" or that of companions-in-arms, but it looks to me a lot more like romantic love.


Well, again, looks that way to whom? There is absolutely no doubt that it occured. A certain percentage of any group of men is going to be homosexual.

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I espouse the idea that if all the boys masturbate around and with other males and go through puberty with all physical experiences being with mlaes, most will grow up being aroused by males--so much for biological determinism)


Again, I'd love to know why you think so. Have you read anything that leads you to believe, for example, that boys who are in single sex educational settings in middle and highschool (like military academies, parochial schools, or yeshivas) are more predisposed to homosexuality and bisexuality than boys in general? Part of my curiosity has to do with the fact that both of my boys are being educated in a single-sex environment. My experience around their classmates wouldn't lead me to believe that they are more curious about each other, and less so about girls, than other boys their age. In fact, my experience has been the opposite.

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But more than one military science professor has proclaimed that the extreme bonds between the Spartan soldiers, including sexual bonds, was one of the keys to their success.


These military science professors need to get out of their classroom and go have a stab (no pun intended) at phalanx warfare sometime. The strongest men with the best discipline and most endurance win. The spartans were successful at it because they practiced selective breeding (and infanticide of weak or deformed young) and drilled their men for physical strength, endurance, and perfect disciplne from a very young age. That their success stemmed from fucking each other is pretty far fetched.

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Perhaps it's not homosexuality in the way YOU think of it. I don't wish to put words in your mouth but your idea of homosexuality seems to imply some aspect of feminity or sissiness, concious or unconcious. I think that might be part of your difficulty with Spartan homosexuality.


I thought that I was fairly explicit about what I think constitutes homosexuality. Let me be even more explicit, just for you. If a man prefers men even when women are as accessible and available, he's a homosexual. If he will as readily fuck a man as a woman, all things being equal, he's bisexual. If he will fuck a man if no women are available (such as in a prison or single-sex only environment such as an extended military deployment) he may be neither. It depends on whether he loses interest in men when women are again available to him. We (in the US) don't see that kind of behavior much outside of prison. It's more common in some of the traditional cultures that I mentioned. It's reasonable to think that it was more common in Sparta than it is in our experience (again, in the US) too, given the structure of their society. I don't think I have much "difficulty" with Spartan sexuality unless your definition of difficulty is not agreeing with you.

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PranksterBitch, please don't provide any more support for Leonidas's worldview with your behavior. It really undermines my arguments.


Friend, if women behaving that way undermines your argument, you are on very thin ice. It's becoming an increasingly popular attitude.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/21/2004 1:01:46 AM   
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Very though provoking posts, but the basic questions still have remained unanswered.
Do Domme's exist? Yes they do..
Is a Domme some how less than a Dominant Male? No, not at all.
Is Domination some how Gender Specific? Not in the least...
For all who have made previous posts I hope these statements do not ruffle anyone's feathers, but they are all R/L fact.

Now for PranksterBitch, and her original Question on Old Guard. What you are refering to as the Old Guard is just handfuls that have grabbed an established Moniker and claimed it for there own. I know R/L Old Guard, and they have no predetermined ideals that every woman is just a slave waiting to be tamed. That is a Gorism. Many that claim to be Old Guard haven't even the faintest idea what the Old Guard truly is.

The Old Guard deal with Tradition and Traditional roles. The Master has a traditional role, as does the slave. They gather and meet in gatherings that move along the guidelines of the Traditional roles. It has nothing to do with the the predetermination that every woman is a slave.

(Wonders how many toes I have stepped on.)

Now as for Online Monikers, Many claim to be Old Guard, just as many Trolls claim to have Mastery of more then, ON YOUR KNEES BITCH... Just because they claim to be it doesn't make it so... Many Role Players from the fantasy world of Gor have adopted the Moniker of Old Guard, as a form of Credence to their claims. No matter what you say or think of them, they will always be there.

On one final word I would like to say one thing. The lifestyle is based on Respect, Respect of your self, Respect of the sanctity of the relationship, and Respect to others that are in the lifestyle. It is as basic as Safe, Sane, and Concentual. So if an ONLINE, Masterful, Manly, Old World Dominant claims that you are a Fantasy. Why do you really care. In the words of the Immortal Philosipher... Opinions are like assholes, we all got one, and they all stink...

I thank you all for your time, and know that these are only my views, and that is all I have ever claimed them to be. I wish you all a wonderous day.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/21/2004 5:58:40 AM   
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For all who have made previous posts I hope these statements do not ruffle anyone's feathers, but they are all R/L fact.


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(Wonders how many toes I have stepped on.)


It sounds like you flatter yourself somewhat that your statements would ruffle anyone's feathers just because you say so. I'm afraid you'll have to raise your game a little to ruffle the feathers of any of the men that have posted on this thread. Just declaring that you have the "facts", in case you haven't noticed, isn't quite good enough. You don't have the facts. You have your opinions. Tell us why you think that way, and one of us might find it interesting enough to discuss with you.

Just an FYI, Ronin, folks who talk a lot about how things are in "R/L" are often taken for online role-players. People whose experince is primarily "R/L" don't usually say "R/L" very much.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/21/2004 7:49:01 PM   
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The "military science professors" never intended that the relational dynamic between the Spartan military members was about sex; but, about a bond of commonality and 'brotherly' love that allowed them to fight more fiercely.

Modern military fosters a similar thing by allowing unit cohesion through common experience and longevity.

Until the time of the Spartans, it was allowable in the Greek city states (depending on type of service, and, mainly for those of some parentage of note) for someone to simply state 'I have had enough - I am taking my ball and going home'.

Along comes the Spartans and they are cleaved to one aother in as many ways as is possible between and amongst men.

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ORIGINAL: Leonidas

These military science professors need to get out of their classroom and go have a stab (no pun intended) at phalanx warfare sometime.

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RE: Forget Old Guard .. More Like Stone Age - 9/22/2004 6:45:15 AM   
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I don't really buy into the whole idea that men today are genetically destined for dominance based on historical accounts of us being the tribal leaders/hunter/gatherers of old. A vast majority of us who have been raised through the christian faith (Using christianity here simply because most of the laws that govern the western world and most of Europe were created by christian men.) were taught that women should be subservant to men. These beliefs have stuck with our society for generations and still continue to exist within our society today. I believe that there are more dominant men out there than dominant women due to the environment in which we were raised. (Remember, I'm a Jungist...)

We are still a male-dominated society and no matter how many Equal-opportunity laws are passed, we will continue to be a male dominated society as long as christianity continues to exert its influence over our personal belief systems.

Do I believe in FemDoms and male submissives? You betcha. I believe that these are people who have overcome a lot of social programming to be able to live in the manner that they have chosen.

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