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long distance Dom - 3/19/2004 6:10:16 PM

wildpony

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i am completely devoted to my Master, even though he is 225 miles away from me. W/we are in constant phone and email contact; W/we see each other when W/we can. my question is, how can i show Him the depth of my devotion from so far away? i need real ideas, so i am respectfully asking, please tell me how to worship Him from afar.

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RE: long distance Dom - 3/19/2004 7:41:40 PM

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In all seriousness wildpony, it seems to me you already are.

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RE: long distance Dom - 3/19/2004 7:43:00 PM

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thank You. but please, tell me how You can tell that?

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RE: long distance Dom - 3/19/2004 8:51:10 PM

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There is only so much you can do in a long distance relationship. The best thing you can do is always be there for him. Show him your devotion in that manner. Make him see that your focus is always on him. Let him see that nothing else is as important. That is my advice. And as I said, it seems as if you are already doing that. Good luck.

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RE: long distance Dom - 3/19/2004 10:27:15 PM

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I have a cumslut in the UK and This One is in New Zealand, yes thats half way around the world. We char weekly now as work was being affected. From my experience, my trust in her has been diluted by her use of a digital camera. My suggestion to you is not what to do, but what not to do. So far, I have seen three different head boards in pics she has emailed MAster, so, in essence, she is seeking out usa that is unauthorised and not directed byMAster. Where there is little trust, there is nothing. Consiquencly, she will be released from obligations tomorrow.

Always be honest with your MAster and he will find no inconsistancies in your demeanur, and as such, his trust will only become stronger.
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RE: long distance Dom - 3/20/2004 11:01:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: wildpony

i am completely devoted to my Master, even though he is 225 miles away from me. W/we are in constant phone and email contact; W/we see each other when W/we can. my question is, how can i show Him the depth of my devotion from so far away? i need real ideas, so i am respectfully asking, please tell me how to worship Him from afar.

First of all, allow me to share a brief bit of background information. I was submissive to my ex-husband for two years before we were married, and we were married for one year. Let me say from the onset that the failure of our marriage had nothing to do with the BDSM relationship directly. It was strictly a trust issue and me being unable to believe many of the things he told me - even after a long "courtship".

Anyway, he lived in Quebec, Canada for the first two years while I lived in Dallas, Texas. I believe that he felt I showed him my submission in many ways. We too, stayed in close phone, email and chat contact.

First of all, when we were chatting (usually in chat rooms) I would always show him extreme respect. It may seem a little superficial to do, but it says a lot to the person. I also did as he asked me to do - if he felt I wasn't getting enough rest, I would succumb to a bedtime if he demanded it.

I sent him email cards often and when were were together, we always started our visit with a scene to get me into the head space of being actively submissive, since I have to be Dominant in my "normal life" because of my job, kids, etc. I always prepared a surprise for him on his arrival to my house. For instance, I once did an elaborate tea ceremony, wherein I offered him three types of teas and gave him three gifts with each tea. I actually planned it out, wrote a script for it, and pretty much memorized what I was going to say. This probably was one of the most touching things I did for him.

The first time we met, I decorated the hotel room with all kinds of candles and flowers, and waited in the bedroom part of the room (it was a suite) on my knees in a very sexy little outfit...grins. He had told me that he once dreamed of finding me like that and so I made the dream actually happen. He was impressed.

My suggestion is to take that first block of time when he is with you to plan something very special as your "welcome home" type activity. I never told him what I was planning - it was one secret I was allowed to keep from him because he enjoyed it so much. Your Master will see the planning you did and it will certainly endear you to him even more. Remember even the tiniest, smallest details...those are the ones that are often most noticed.

I have the script for the tea ceremony somewhere - if you would like to have it...let me know.

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RE: long distance Dom - 3/20/2004 10:06:52 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Estring

There is only so much you can do in a long distance relationship. The best thing you can do is always be there for him. Show him your devotion in that manner...

wildpony, I totally agree. My master and I have been in a bi-coastal relationship for almost four years now. We are able to be together every couple of months, but the most important element in managing our away time and proving my devotion has been insuring that he has instant access to me when he wishes, and that my life is completely open to him. So he gets my schedule daily, and I have a constantly-on cell phone with unlimited minutes.

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RE: long distance Dom - 3/21/2004 1:25:41 PM

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i want to thank all of You (and you) for the replies.

i love the idea of planning something for the first part of O/our time together. After that, as MistressKiss said, He has choreographed O/our scene. i think He would like it if i put some thought and effort into it too. i would love to see the tea service.

and danae, i always tell Him where i will be and i always have my cell phone on, but i always worried that maybe i was giving Him more information than He wanted. now i see that He probably likes knowing where i'll be and what i'll be doing. thank you.

estring, just reading that You can see my devotion through the few words i wrote really affected me.

and Sir-Colin, if You don't mind me speaking my mind for a minute, maybe Your slave just needs more of Your time. i couldn't exist just speaking to my Master once a week. if there is love between You, perhaps You shouldn't be so quick to give it up.

thank You everyone.
wildpony
p.s. i have a story in the creative writing section, it's old now so buried fairly deep. the title is "guitar god." except for that W/w met here on collarme and not in a bar, everything else is true. have a look if you have the time.

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