PeonForHer
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I think it's simple, really, Steelslilbit. The idea of 'forced' - [insert 'feminisation', 'bi', 'service', whatever] - in BDSM involves ambivalence - contradictory feelings, contradictory thoughts. The confusion only arises because people take it for granted that contradictory feelings and thoughts shouldn't - or even can't - exist. They 'shouldn't exist' because this seems 'unreasonable' and 'illogical'. But, since when has anything been involved in sexual desires been reasonable and logical? They 'can't exist' because this is somehow how the human mind is assumed to work. But the human mind is the most complicated thing in the known universe. How the hell did that assumption - of the mind being like a machine whose ultimately reasonable purpose must be knowable and definable - arise? Take the usual sub's story. He wants to take control of his life, control over his buzz and what turns him on. So he comes here, to CM, to find someone to, er, control him? Irrational. BDSM is full of contradictions, right to the very core. We can't get resolve them all, so we might just as well have fun with those that we can't. My own little tip for a start towards getting to that position is to look at those on CM who are saying to you, 'Your kink is unreasonable', and say, 'Yeah right. Look who's talking'.
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