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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/7/2011 10:45:52 AM

needlesandpins

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i identify on here as switch in my profile as it's the closest thing to me i guess. but as a rule i just think i'm very kinky and perverted. in recent play i have found that i can totally give myself over in a submissive role, but still feel in control within that play. just as i can take the lead and know what i want, but still feel subbie at moments.

it, for me, all comes down to the person i'm with. with my ex i would have always said that i was domme because i didn't trust him enough so give him the submissive self that i held in me. in the last couple of years i have been able to hand myself over to someone else and tell him i am his to do with as he pleases. in turn, that has given him ground to also explore a side of himself that he hadn't before.

therefore i think i am nothing, but everything all at the same time. why be bound by lables when you can be greedy and have it all.

needles

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/13/2011 11:06:43 AM

cactustree

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...As with 'needles', I can be either, simultaneously.... or so it feels.

I can, have, and wish to put myself in a position that might ordinarily be considered submissive, but I feel and act as I am the one who makes the demands... HAS to have the attention in a manner that might also satisfy my toy's dominant leanings.

I like to be 'used', but also have to 'force' the manner in which I am used.

I can 'take', and 'hurt', and control, though I am being led into the position of the 'taker'.

inetersting times.

Cactus

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/23/2011 12:27:57 PM

Sunny27

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I'm probably more a sub/slave as I have a relationship with my Master. Its like I'm 75% slave/sub and 25%Domme!

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/27/2011 12:40:04 AM

HannahLynHeather

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Sadist
100%
Masochist
79%
Switch
79%
Experimental
75%
Dominant
71%
Bondage
71%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur
68%
Submissive
32%
Vanilla
25%
Degradation Lover
21%

i'm a bit suprised at my vanilla rating...

hannah lynn

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/27/2011 1:37:27 AM

HeatherMcLeather

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Submissive        100%
Experimental     82%
Bondage        68%
Degradation Lover        68%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur    57%
Masochist        50%
Switch        29%
Sadist        18%
Vanilla       14%
Dominant        4%
Hanners is more 'nilla than me!! neener neener neener

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/29/2011 11:08:38 PM

mummyman321

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Submissive 96%
Experimental 82%
Masochist 75%
Bondage 71%
Sadist 54%
Switch 39%
Degradation Lover 39%
Exhibitionist / Voyeur 29%
Dominant 4%
Vanilla 0%

I am suprised about the vanilla. I know I have some in me :)

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/30/2011 5:51:10 PM

DeviantMan

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Personally, I will not identify someone as a Domme/Dom or sub by what they enjoy doing, or receiving, in the physical meaning, as much as their lean towards ordering, or being ordered. In De Sade's novels, that have inspired a great deal of what we now see as BDSM, the Dominant figures were not sadists by default. In fact, there are several scenes within the books, where they order their servants to whip, or even rape them. Yet, they remain the Dominant figures, even when they are at the receiving end.
In short, I am a Switch, not only because I can enjoy certain levels of pain and humiliation, in both the providing, and receiving ends, but mostly because I enjoy giving orders as much as I enjoy taking orders during a scene.
Is that a 50-50 balance? There is no such thing as measured balance formula. I want to believe, for myself, that I am in that "Golden line" of balance, though I'm pretty sure I'm constantly jumping on each side's 75%, depending on my momentary impulse, and my current partner.

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RE: is a switch 50 50 or more one way than the other - 5/31/2011 7:12:25 AM

orchid77

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I am more dominant than submissive but know myself to understand that I wouldn't be happy remaining dominant for long periods of time. I would get bored! So for me it isn't about percentages. It is about where I am in that moment. I do my best to stay in the here and now. I am aware many are in the past or future...or past, present, future...and so they are constantly shifting.

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