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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/4/2006 12:01:26 AM

LaMalinche

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Why?

Why not?

Best,

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/4/2006 4:36:53 AM

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why? Because they can!
why not? Because we can't make them go away!

Ya just gotta love them crazy kids!

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/14/2006 11:56:49 AM

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My thrill is the pleasure of a lady. If she wants to take control I will gladly be her sub/slave. If she want me to take control I will tell her exactly what to do. That is why i sometimes consider myself a switch.

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/14/2006 6:11:29 PM

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Take me, for example. I have inert needs to satisfy on both ends of the control spectrum. For one, I've had a very hard life, and therefore I have a strong need to feel in control. On the other hand, I've spent so much time and effort taking control of my life without the aid of anyone else that I also have a need to let things go and be controlled. I submit that it is similar for most switches.

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I couldnt agree with this more if I had said it myself!

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/14/2006 6:33:59 PM

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On another note I dont think switches exist to add insanity to the Dom/sub world I think we provide a reality that there is a middle ground where some enjoy the control just as much as the giving, and in our own way have the best of everything because we can fully give and take within the power exchange.

However I do feel that for switches finding a mate that is also a switch is the best row to hoe. Unless you are in a poly relationship and seek a poly life in which case have a lot of fun and enjoy it! *heh* I have done the relationships with Doms, the relationships with subs, but in the end I always end up feeling like there is something missing. Not to mine but to me. Its like being confined in a little bottle and not being able to stretch your wings. After a long time in these relationships it tends to take the inner fire and dull it from a full roar to just a single flame. For that reason I sometimes wish I could just pick one side of the fence so that I could find that one person that would not only be soft enough to follow when I lead but strong enough to keep my ass in line. Untill that point I have always and will always enjoy each person I come across and will continue learning and growing for myself, so that when the time comes I can say woo hoo and not have to worry about which robe I'll wear that day, and can just wander around nekkid!

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/14/2006 7:16:13 PM

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She looks at me and says with a smile, "I'm more of a man then you'll ever be and more of a woman then you'll ever get, I'm a switch!"

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/14/2006 7:59:49 PM

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ORIGINAL: WyrdRich

Why do we have strawberry ice cream? Aren't chocolate and vanilla enough? Why aren't slaves the same as subs and subs the same as bottoms? Why is the sky blue and how come calico cats are always female.

The sky is blue because is blue because molecules in the air scatter light from the high (blue) end of the spectrum. When we look towards the sun at sunset, we see red and orange because the blue light has been scattered out and away from the line of sight.

Male cats are rarely calico because they only have one X chromosome. Whatever color gene is present on this X chromosome will determine the color of the cat. The genes for orange and black coats are located on the X chromosome, of which females have two. Males can be calico or tortoiseshell only if they are born with 2 X-chromosomes and a Y (XXY), allowing one X to be inactivated. This genetic defect (XXY) is very rare.

Okay...now you can throw me over the lab counter and spank me with a micropipette.

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RE: WHY do switches exist? - 5/14/2006 8:49:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: bbbadbbboy

In another discussion, the question was raised, "Do they exist?". Now, I'm inviting a discussion about WHY they exist.

To the extent we understand how someone becomes a Dom or a sub, how do we explain switches. Confused? Wanna-be? Not able to commit to one or the other? Versitile? Best Doms have experienced subbing (and some never fully switch over)? What is your explaination?

A doctor I know says that two out of every one patient of his has a split personality. Maybe that explains it

badboy

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(I'm a bi-switch: confusing and irritating everyone...) :)

I don't have a split personality. I see a shrink and he and I both know that I don't have such issues.

And yes I am versitile.

I've recently rethought the origins of my switch nature.

For me I suspect it's because I grew up in an environment with a very dominant parent. I had to simultaneously be submissive so as not to get in trouble, but at the same time if I got in shit I needed to be able to stand my ground and fight for my rights.

I don't tend to respect authority unless I can see that it is truly a good thing. False displays of power or abuse of it are just the sort of thing that makes me not take it seriously or out right hate the person weilding it.

I will never be able to be only submissive to someone who is only Dominant. But sometimes
I like to let someone else take control and lead me to a special place.
It's in my nature to be switch.

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