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sjskuared -> RE: Boys... Speak up and tell us what is it that you want!, Take 2 (5/24/2010 9:41:00 PM)
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I appreciate this question and the way it was asked and the manner the responses are being taken. It is more serious than usual and I think it it important to answer as best as I can, hopefully, so women will have more of an insight.
What motivates you to be submissive? I was born that way.
Why do you identify yourself that way? I don't like to be identified as a submissive in public, I am this way and society looks down on it.
What are you searching for in a Domme? First I am seeking a love relationship together with a D/s relationship. If I had to just choose one it would be love but it would be difficult to live without dominance. For me without sex there would be no point, it is sexual to me but it is other things as well. I wouldn't submit to a friend or do the things I would do for a domme without that attraction. I don't get chastity for the same reason, if I don't want to have sex I can do that alone. Next, the same compatibility has to be there as with any other relationship but in addition there has to be a fit in terms of D/s.
What are the qualities and attributes that you look for in a Domme? The same qualities I look for in anyone I would want to be in a relationship with, for me that is intelligence, honesty, similar interests, similar goals and background. In D/s terms I am seeking someone who enjoys having power over a man she is attracted to and using that power for her pleasure within my limits.
What is the hardest part of being a male sub? The hardest part for me is that I am in the closet. Straight men as well as even many dominant women look down on male submissives. YES, admit it that a lot of you do. Many women say they want a powerful man who will only submit to them. What exactly does that mean and why should a man submit to you? Do you want someone you are attracted to and has all the traditional masculine qualities, handsome, good looking, high income, be honest.
The second hardest thing is the number of prodommes to what I will call lifestyle dommes. Most of the profiles from dominant women are from those who are pros or who are already in a relationship.
What kind of challenges do you face when attempting to approach a Domme? The biggest challenge is whether or not I will be outed. Other than that I would be more open to approaching women, going to munches or sending my pictures out.
What are you biggest fears when meeting a Domme? I think the same fear that any dating situation presents except that sometimes the male is in the position of not being safe instead of the female.
What do you believe to be your best strengths and attributes? And do you feel they are often overlooked? I would say my strengths are often overlooked. I see women with men who mistreat them all the time and don't get it. I am not good at "picking up women" or flirting. Seriously I think women are more into appearances than they admit. I think I am average looking or better looking than a lot of other men, I am shorter which I think is my main problem in meeting women including dominant women. I also think that a lot of women are over estimating their worth when they are looking for a corporate executive and are unemployed or from a totally different background.
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