LaTigresse
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Geoff, I am 48 which means I have experienced some shitty stuff in relationships. Of course those things left their mark on me but it is MY CHOICE as to what kind of mark, and how I carry those marks. For me it isn't a case of projecting the cause forward, fearing or expecting the next person will do the same things, not at all. For me, those marks are growth. I know better now what I want for myself, out of a relationship, and in another person that I might have a relationship with. It's important to me to look at why I chose that person, what lessons I needed to learn from that relationship, and if I have or if I am bound to repeat the same shit. I REFUSE to cast blame on the other person. Absolutely refuse. I was equal party to the relationship and I allowed, or maybe even created, some of the shit. For every negative I can find at least two positives. That is really pretty awesome when I think about it. That means that the people in my life now, and future, reap the rewards of past shit right along with me. I really do encourage self introspection. I am not saying blame because that will lead to more negativity both projected outward to others and inward to yourself. And you will not learn from it. Just a more analytical observation. As though it was a situation of someone you, only slightly knew. Someone you had no real emotional ties to. And LadyHib, I agree with you totally. I think it must suck at times to be a submissive or owned slave. But, that is what they signed up for. If they don't like it, and it isn't going to change, they should not only rethink what they want and agreed to, or move on.
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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one! Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!
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