Quarry
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Yeah, I get this kind of crap too. Once, at a play party, someone said (to my face, mind you, completely unaware how rude they were bing) that, since I'm a switch, I'm not a "real submissive". So I called intot he next room to a woman who'd topped me and said, "Hey, am I submissive?" She yelled back "Yes!" Anyway, the key to your detractor's argument appears to be this sentence: " an authentic slave and an authentic Dom are mutually-exclusive, ontollogically, ritualistically, and practically." You should ask him how he knows this. Did he read it in a book? Did he hear it from a friend? Ask him whether he can produce a well-researched article that backs up this assertion. Of course I could just save him the trouble of hunting for one because I know that such a thing doesn't exist There's no Federal Department of Kinkiness that issues classifications of dom, sub, and switch. Nor is there any academic discipline which has ever spent more than five minutes considering these questions.There just are no definitive, objective definitions for these terms. Therefore, there's no wa Your friend seems to think that just because the terms slave and master are opposites, they're mutually exclusive. Nonsense. A person can be both a victim and a criminal, a sinner and a saint (Anyone remember St. Augustine?), a parent and a child. And yeah, one can also be both a slave and a master, a top and a bottom. What's to stop them (other than a lack of opportunity, I suppose)? And even within the BDSM community, the definitions for these terms are pretty fluid. They depend a hell of a lot on context. The point is this: the guy's argument comes down to his definitions of the terms "master," "slave," "switch," etc. Substitute *your* definitions - which are every bit as valid as his - and his argument disappears from the map. Finally, it should be noted that when science has studied sexuality, it has generally found that classifications such as "straight," "bi," "gay," "transgendered," etc tend not to be rigid catagories but, rather, points on a spectrum. So one guy might be bi-sexual, but the guy standing next to him might be even more bi-sexual. And so on. Further, sex roles seem to depend a lot on environment. Survey a hundred guys in prison, you'll find a lot of homosexuals. Survey the same hundred guys after they get out, not so much. We don't know whether BDSM classifications follow the same rules, but it wouldn't be surprising if they did. -Quarry
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