DesFIP
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Joined: 11/25/2007 From: Apple County NY Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: AAkasha I pay for all the toys in any relationship I am in, so the first point isn't relevant to me. And yes, that includes replacing anything he may have from a previous relationship. I don't think it's weird for a sub to obtain toys in the process of self exploration, self play or in the course of meeting partners. But a strapon harness is something meant to be worn by a woman, for *her* control and pleasure. I think it's pretentious for a sub to buy a strapon harness for a girlfriend he's in a relationship with because he's assuming he knows what she wants and likes, and that she wants one at all. I think it's *creepy* for a man to buy one without even having a girlfriend. Akasha I was assuming he bought not just the harness but the plastic penis. And that's an insertable. Which to me means it is something he should own to make sure it is only used on him. Don't the dildos match the harness? Now if you can put any dildo into any harness, then yes, I agree. But if they aren't, then it isn't out of line for him to own one since this way he knows the only ass it's been in is his. For me, it's a health issue solely. And again. If he's dreamed of being flogged and bought one of those, but the dominant doesn't like floggers, she doesn't have to use it. I don't see it as a demand, just a hope. I own stuff he's never used on me. It doesn't bother him to use only what he likes.
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