TheShadows
Posts: 403
Joined: 9/16/2004 From: Southern Illinois Status: offline
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Being a "young Dom", 24 next week, with 5 years of real time experience, I can really identify with what you're feeling. The patronizing attitudes of the older, more experienced players may get you down at times. Acting like a high-schooler will only lend credence to their false ideas about what young Dominants are all about. I'm proud that you're handling those types of people like the adult that you are. As jezzabelle said, she wishes she would have found out about this lifestyle at our age. Use that to your highest advantage by educating yourself and doing some deep soul-searching for who you are, and what you want, as early as possible. That education/self awareness will serve you well in the long run, coupled with a good reputation in the community, which will take time for you to build. I believe finding yourself a Mentor can be a great way to explore. They can act as a sounding boarding for your questions. Finding yourself a sub/slave close to your own age and experience may work well, also. Learning, sharing, and growing together is a great way to bond. As Celeste said, we badly need an influx of younger folks in this lifestyle. Without new ideas, and ways of implementing those ideas, what we do would whither and die. This, too, shall pass. Whatever you do, try to never lose sight of how you started out, and the mountains you climbed to be your authentic self. One day, we'll be the "older Doms". I just hope we retain the hindsight to greet the "young ones" a bit better than we were greeted. Good luck in your journey!
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"The reason the mainstream is thought of as a stream is because of it's shallowness." - George Carlin "Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most..." - Ozzy Osbourne
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