AQuietSimpleMan
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Where as I don't exactly like where this thread is going I figure why ignore the elephant in the living room. laurell3, I have to disagree with you, in a way, the pack/clique mentality that can be found on these boards are part of th charm that some people are seeking. I see people come here and will blindly agree with anyone who is part of that pack/clique. There was a thread that was about a girl having an issue with her current place in relationship that was designed to imply that she was not equal to other people in that relationship. None of what her issue was had anything to do with any other thing than that she we having an internal struggle and didn't know how to sort it out. In her attempt to define the relationship she informed the boards that there was a 31 year difference in their ages, the thread snowballed into a post about age, responsibility of a Dominant, and how at a certain age it is irresponsible to date someone of another certain age. I held the Very unpopular opinion that there was nothing wrong with the decision she made, I saw it as something that had the ability to last for as long as it needed but that eventualy the difference in age would become an issue but for now there was no harm, the guy checked out and wasn't spoken of poorly in his community and all things considered this girl had made a pretty good choice in Dominants, even though there were 31 years seperating them. I won't say I was Flamed but I will tell you that I was certainly not agreed with. Now to the point - I got like 6 e-mails from people saying that they were happy I was speaking up because they agreed with me. They all spoke of how the "In-Crowd" will get on to something and then make such a loud responce that people with the unpopular opinion do not see any value in replying, they feel in doing so they will not be heard because their voice will be over powered by the voices of those looking to have the Popular opinion. I think this is part of the issue, some people think that cannot speak up. I will argue a point that at times doesn't even apply to me, I will argue the point of Equality and Independence in the dating scene and will argue the idea that expecting the male to pay is sexist and works to show a hypocracy in the Equality world. I made my personal point of view made, I believe I made it clearly enough that I perfer to pay that it is how I am wired, but that I think anyone having the expectation that I should pay is not being equal or independant. Somehow this eventually came to be argued that I think women who want me to pay for a cup of coffee are whores. Because I held the unpopular opinion that a woman wanting equality and to call herself independant should be equally as interested in paying a check as I am, I became someone who was attackable. So Attackable that these judgements against me have shown up in OTHER threads, ones that have nothing to do with the original thread. In most cases what I had actually said was Ignored, Snippits of what I had said were taken and blown so far out of porportion that I was accused to saying that woman aren't worthy of being considered equal, that I did not think women could do certain things, Every possible way that I could be attacked from was taken by someone, people that usually do just that, find something they don't like and then attack the hell out of it hoping that it will go away. But I don't back down from my views. I don't mind not having the unpopular opinion. I don't mind having people call me mean and nasty names or implying that I believe mean and nasty things. I know how I feel, I can only express it so well, and in the end I have the ability to share my opinion anywhere I like on this site. I find it funny how many times I get e-mails that say.... "I don't always agree with you, but I like how you stand up for youtr beliefs" and in the end that is what I don't see enough of on the internet. I don't see new people getting to see the fact that things can be done differently, that people can speak up for the unpopular oppinion, because there is an "In-Crowd" and there isn't anything wrong with that, but it would be nice if they were universally aware of the influence they have on the new and the uneducated and start presenting their views as Opinions, not as absolutes..... even when they think all they are doing is backing an opinion remembering to allow for other views to be valid options. I don't agree with a LOT in the BDSM world, Much of certain views trun my stomach, I think this is why I identify as I do, but I try very hard never to put down someones view in such a way as to state that there is NO redeaming quality in it, and I try to always say when I have presented things in a My own personal way kinda way, that it is my opinion only. QSM
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