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becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 12:17:38 PM

boymichaelobeys

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My life lacks focus. I am fat, I am broke, I am working a job that is going nowhere. I am not getting any younger and I won't make change on my own.

I--with the help of Masters and interested parties--am going to set up rules to live by and I am going to report honestly and fully and I am going to have consequences if I fail.

I need to get in shape.

I need discipline. I need order, I need to remake my life into something of value to myself and someone else.

Please check out the blog at betterboyblog.blogspot.com

Thank you.

RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 12:42:55 PM

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i wish you the best of luck,but selling yourself short in that manner might not get you a dominant. In the meantime, read up on being a submissive. ~ jewels

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 12:48:56 PM

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quote:

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i wish you the best of luck,but selling yourself short in that manner might not get you a dominant. In the meantime, read up on being a submissive. ~ jewels

apart from that being said...who do you expect to want you when you don't even seem to be bothered to look after yourself

as weight loss and move into a better job are aspects which can be achieved by yourself...no need for a Dom for that...gosh I would be nowhere with your approach

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 12:54:08 PM

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I actually do better with someone who can help me prioritize and focus, someone to answer to. I understand the OP's idea.
What you should do in the meantime OP, is to come up with the kind of rules you believe a good and reasonable master would give to you, and start living them.
Do not advertise yourself as fat, lazy or any of that. You, as we all are, are a work in progress. Focus on the positives and work on the negatives. Become the "boy" any master would be proud to have.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 1:11:32 PM

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What blushy said.

That said, welcome OP.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 1:12:40 PM

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You sound like a lot of work.

What are your good points and strengths?

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 1:14:53 PM

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quote:

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i wish you the best of luck,but selling yourself short in that manner might not get you a dominant. In the meantime, read up on being a submissive. ~ jewels

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Get Jack Rinella's book - "Becoming A Slave - The Theory & Practice of Voluntary Servitude."

Report back here when you have it in hand. Also report your aquisition to me via CMAIL.

Report your end-of-chapter exercises to me via CMail, each exercise separately. Helps me keep 'em all straight.

Folks, that sounds pretty simple, right? Gave same order to a slave-wanna quite a while ago. He wrote back, "I will start as soon as you send me the book, Sir."

We went no further, as you can well imagine. LOL!

<edited for gooder grammer>

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 5:24:02 PM

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Gave same order to a slave-wanna quite a while ago. He wrote back, "I will start as soon as you send me the book, Sir."
We went no further, as you can well imagine. LOL!

I see, so you don't value a smart slave

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 5:56:49 PM

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OP We are all works in progress. If you focus on the negative that is all people will see you as and IMO that isn't very appealing.

Good luck on your journey and may you find peace within yourself.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 6:41:44 PM

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i like your style Sir~ jewels

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 6:55:26 PM

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quote:

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quote:

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Gave same order to a slave-wanna quite a while ago. He wrote back, "I will start as soon as you send me the book, Sir."
We went no further, as you can well imagine. LOL!

I see, so you don't value a smart slave

Actually, I do! The smarter, the better! Seeing it the way you put it, I guess the context didn't transfer very well. We'd been through: "I will do exactly what you tell me to," "I can relocate when you tell me to," and other similar points and posts. He seemed to be willing to do anything on-line. First R/L command....?.... BLAM! He blows me off. (And not in a very good way.)

By the way, I do not do cyber-sex, on-line chat, sexting, or use any other technological miracle. Occasionally phone-sex, but only if we've done it a few times and we want it, but the logistics are just not there. Best? In person..... CMails are okay, but just. LOL!

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 6:59:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LanceHughes

quote:

ORIGINAL: PeanutTigerinBox

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ORIGINAL: LanceHughes
Gave same order to a slave-wanna quite a while ago. He wrote back, "I will start as soon as you send me the book, Sir."
We went no further, as you can well imagine. LOL!

I see, so you don't value a smart slave

Actually I do! The smarter, the better! Seeing it the way you put it, I guess the context didn't transfer very well.

Sorry Lance...it just made me really laugh that smart answer, so I couldn't help my temptation to see it that way

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 8:06:49 PM

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PeanutTigerinBox: We're kewl..... Wonder where the OP went? Note that I did NOT say, "Do not post until you have it in hand." Assumptions, assumptions..... :::sigh::: "Yes, Sir. I'll look for it right away," would have been more to my liking.

boymichaelobeys: Did I scare you off?

Damn! Didn't get a chance to give him my first "general order," much less the second one which applies in this instance.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 8:09:00 PM

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i like your style Sir~ jewels

Thanks, jewels (or is it jewel?) Avatar name is SirsJewel (singular) but you signed post above as jewels (pural.)

Third General Order is: Consistency

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/9/2010 10:28:49 PM

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Hell, I want to become a better boy with the way you talk, Lance... and I'm not even a boy!

Welcome OP.... good luck,
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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/10/2010 7:36:18 AM

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Thank you. Right now I am not looking for a DOM to serve, I am looking to improve myself so that I will be worth the time and talents of a good Master.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/10/2010 7:38:22 AM

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I have some good points. But focusing on what I am good at, do well and such have not gotten me to improve on the things I know I need to improve upon to become the boy I want to be.

I think my initial introduction may have given the wrong impression, but I am working on improving myself so that I am worthy to offer myself to a Master.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/10/2010 7:40:30 AM

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Knowing your strengths and your weaknesses puts you ahead of most.
Working on your weaknesses while building your strengths will put you wayyy ahead. (after a lot of hard work of course!)

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/10/2010 7:41:39 AM

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OP... My Daddy recently told me "If I can't accept you at your worst I dont deserve you at your best". Think about that.

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RE: becoming a better boy - 7/10/2010 7:54:43 AM

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Michael.....If you approached me with your attitude, i would tell you in no uncertain terms, you are a mess.

You are ignoring your strengths to focus on your weaknesses. It may work for you, but while your focus is on what you profess to need help changing, your strong points are becoming stagnant.

Perhaps i might suggest you focus on and build on your positive points with limited focus on the negatives. In doing so, you may find that your negatives have tagged along and gained improvement as you bettered yourself through a positive attitude.

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