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Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:20:35 PM

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I’ve always had a fantasy about an ‘instant-demand-Domme’. It’s simple. In a vanilla setting - say, in a bar or a restaurant, on a train, even on the street - I walk past a woman and without any preamble, she says, ‘Come here. Pick up my bags/call me a cab/get me a drink/’ . . . .

Wow - that would be so horny!

But . . . but . . . has any Domme got the nerve to do that? Hmmm? With much regret, reality imposed and I came to the conclusion that none would. She'd have to be super-uber-ultra-Dommely to have the front to do that. And there's the small matter of whether she'd even get a buzz out of doing that, anyway.

As a matter of interest, has any Domme here come anywhere near to doing something like that? Would you, ever, given the desire plus, perhaps, a certain 'stimulant'?

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:34:51 PM

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A truly random person? No - wouldn't happen. But at work it has happened before - someone that I've dealt with, and just have a "feel" that he'd take it ok ... yeah, I've done that.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:41:48 PM

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Excellent! Good for you, SD!

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:42:21 PM

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A truly random person? No - wouldn't happen. But at work it has happened before - someone that I've dealt with, and just have a "feel" that he'd take it ok ... yeah, I've done that.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:42:33 PM

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if it were a random person i'd be like "no, random person. do that yourself" and then proceed to walk away

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:47:03 PM

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Swoons with puppy dog eyes.

Wow, I'm not sure I've ever sparked that kind of response with a reply that short before LOL

Honestly, there are two guys - one that is still at work (one of the officers) and one that is no longer there (one of the offenders) - both of them ... I just realized one day that I was treating them as submissive. The officer - he realized it at the same time (as in, I realized it when he said "ooh, I like it when you use that tone with me") and the offender - he was one of the workers in health care so I dealt with him every day that I worked, and it just kind of ended up that I told him what to do, and he was obviously happy to do so.

Being Dominant is not always something that I can control. I have had guys take it badly - but mostly, I have had good luck with my instincts on this.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:51:46 PM

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Sweet Dommes, most submissive guys would absolutely fall for someone picking up on the signals. It would be a kind of nirvanha moment.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 4:54:15 PM

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oh, if the offender and I had met under different circumstances, he'd already be moved in LOL Unfortunately, life and the fates play nasty tricks on us ...

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 5:00:14 PM

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I would probably not do this to a completely random stranger, for the simple reason that I would consider it rude. When arrogant people have done it to me, I have never enjoyed it, or complied, and it has seriously lessened my opinion of them, and my desire to ever come within shouting range of them, and so I would not inflict it on an unwilling, and presumably vanilla stranger. Sadly, there are often consequences to unsolicited douchebaggery, particularly in a small town like Reno.

That said, there have been instances where there were enough hints given that the person in question would react positively to some unsolicited dominant action, that I have gone ahead and acted on my intuition. That has worked out reasonably well.

And of course I fantasize about a world where I can traipse around being a complete cunt and being adored for it. That's why I'm here. Looking for my little slice of heaven.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 8:40:13 PM

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Random strangers? Heavens no. Folks I do know? All the time, pretty much. Comes with the territory when you're a princess. ;)

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 8:53:13 PM

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It's not a question of nerve, it's a question of "why in the world would I want some random stranger up in my business?" Either scenario, if he obeys me or if he stomps off in a huff, would be a pain in the tuchkus. Not really interested in having to deal with the fallout in either direction.

I don't even care if he's hot. He might be a crashing bore, or a creepy stalker, or not very bright, or just an asshole, and no fun to be around for any length of time. And I have no way of knowing that about a stranger. Unless I already know someone well enough to actually want their company, I'm just not interested in having that kind of interaction, and I'd probably turn it down even if it was freely offered. I'm picky about who I am willing to accept submission from. It's not just anyone.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 8:54:47 PM

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if it were a random person i'd be like "no, random person. do that yourself" and then proceed to walk away

haha yeah exactly! only I wouldn't be that nice.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 8:58:02 PM

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Not a stranger. If it's someone that I know, and they are willing to give Me power, I'm going to take it.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/25/2010 9:18:34 PM

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In a vanilla setting with no preamble, nor eye contact, my response to this kind of a demand from a stranger would tend to be as follow:
"COME HERE"...Right here, right now...I think there are laws against that.
"PICK UP MY BAGS"...The bags under your eyes or those hanging of your butt (or chest if that seems more appropriate)?
or if that is inappropriate, then...."so you can call me a thief and have me arrested? I am not falling for that again."
"CALL ME A CAB"....Okay, You're a cab.
"GET ME A DRINK"...Give me a minute in the restroom and i will see if i can fill a glass for you, Do you want a head on it?

Trust me, at times a fantasy, no matter how exciting, is best left a fantasy.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/26/2010 1:31:14 AM

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Random strangers? Heavens no. Folks I do know? All the time, pretty much.

Peon, maybe you guys need to walk around with a purple wrist band all the time and not just on Domme Day.

As for my answer, it's the same as the one above with rare exceptions. Some "vanilla" guys get a certain look on their face, kinda like expectantly waiting to be told to do something and sometimes I can't resist. I've never been wrong about seeing that look so far, and the guys have done what I've asked and referred to me as Ma'am. This happens more often when I have a sub in my life already, so I must be giving of some kind of signals I'm unaware of. Sometimes it's while I am with my son or my friend and I am telling them to do something. I see that *look* on other men's faces, and I am watched for a while, lol.

I've also had a friend for over 17 years now that I have guided, and he comes to my home once per month on average and stays for the weekend (I moved away to a larger town after the two national disasters in our old town). Other people make too many demands on him and he reaches the end of his rope, and a weekend at my home (often sleeping on a blanket on my hardwood floor) sets his world to rights. He sleeps better and is more relaxed after being in my company a while and fetching things for me. I have trained him to open doors and hold them open for me, carry all of my packages, and bring me something I want...like some tea or my umbrella or even my purse. He has come a long way. He's just a friend though, part of my extended family.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/26/2010 4:37:09 AM

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I have to agree with others here. Random strangers, in a total vanilla setting.. no. Though.. At Ren Faires.. that is another story. Or with people that have already given me a certain amount of control and power.. Hells yes. I have done things like that. And yes, it can be a rush.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/26/2010 5:49:58 AM

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I have known a couple of ladies who used moves like that. Often works. Turns me on big time too, Peon.

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/26/2010 6:20:56 AM

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As a submissive my response to a total stranger with such demands would definitely not be what they desired. I'll have to admit that in some ways I'm very superficial. If the woman was plain, average, or downright fugly my response would probably be to tell them what they could do themselves in varying terms depending on the exact circumstances. And on the other hand if they had supermodel good looks I'd probably do the same because I despise people that think the world revolves around them simply because of how they were blessed by nature.

If it were someone I knew or at least knew about it would depend on the individual person. There are dommes on CM that I wouldn't give the time of day to, let alone help them with anything. Just because they are "dommes" doesn't mean I'm automatically their slave.

BUT, if it were someone that I liked or at least had respect for then yes, it could definitely be HOT!

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/26/2010 7:41:25 AM

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Like most others... to me its not a question of nerve.. but rather about what's appropriate in what setting... if I were at an event.. and needed that kind of service.. I'd ask.. however, the idea that 'picking up on signals' is hot works both ways... if someone were to see I had bags at my feet (my toybag and trick bag for example) and wasn't going to pick them up and asked if I wanted help.. or someone to carry them.. is HOT

I have had it happen more than once.. "carry your bags, Ma'am?" will get me every time.. and likely get my attention, in more ways than one.. when people ask how to get a Domme's attention... I'd say "carry your bags... " or whatever seems appropriate will work. I'd also suggest that completing your task, asking if there is something more you can do... and then.. THIS IS IMPORTANT... moving on, not lingering... showing that you did it purely to be of service.. would really make me notice...

My thoughts on this odd day...

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RE: Would you have the nerve? - 7/26/2010 9:02:52 AM

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Well, I'm pretty encouraged by the replies so far. Obviously, not all Dommes can be as Dommely as SweetDommes and being the realist that I am, I wouldn't expect them to be. Perish the thought. (But - SD - I'll say it again - Phwoargh! Yowzer! Hubbah! [Etc.])
　
Sadly, some subs have commented that they'd not take kindly to an unknown woman suddenly giving them a direct order. Boo! You could be ruining the fun of subs like Polite, Kal and myself. The Dommes here who are not quite so confident about their Dommeliness - like DragonNPhoenix, Ladies Hib and Pact, Madame4a and Voodali - will be that much more timid in the future. Shame on you, Igor and atursvcMaam!

All right, being serious, now: I'm intrigued to see that I'm not the only one who has the same fantasy. PS and Kal - isn't just the horniest? But this subject strikes at the core of the whole question of BDSM - that of mutual consent (as some of the best D/s fantasies often do). In this fantasy a sub hasn't consented before being given the order. The Domme doesn't even know that the 'target' is a sub. I'm encouraged to see that some Dommes place varying levels of faith in their ability to see the sub-nature in a stranger. Good!

But I think we need more. I'm going to go for CynthiaWVirginia's solution. I like the idea of a purple wristband as a sub-identifier. Maybe even with some design on it really to spell it out. That might at least solve the problem of a Domme identifying those individuals who are, in fact, subs. (CWV, I'm going to set about designing a band. Maybe I'll post a pic here to see what everyone thinks . . . .)

As for whether the D/s chemistry is there between Domme and 'target' - that's something else again. I guess we don't get to demand that a given Domme is just, somehow, able to 'see' that a given sub feels submissive towards her.

But I'll say this: if I didn't feel submissive towards a particular Domme, there'd be twice the likelihood that I would feel that way after she'd given 'that order'.

(Especially if she were to be wearing a hat at the time. Hats do it for me. However, that's probably a subject for another thread.)

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