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porcelaine -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 7:33:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: southernsultry

Question of the day...why do Doms send photos of themselves with other submissives? (Chained,  roped, masked..etc...?) Is that for their benefit or mine? I honestly hope to find a Dom that respects that the only person I want to see chained to him, well, is me:))


To give you a valid reason to say next... I mean seriously. Do you really have to explain this to someone? [:D]

~porcelaine




NymphetamineGirl -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 7:38:09 AM)

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ORIGINAL: adx

perhaps just showing them self's in there natural environment. I've never sent picture of my self to anyone ever. Absolutely no one Ive meet has been remotely close to interesting enough but if I did chose to they better be dam happy they got anything at all if they couldn't be happy getting to see me then they can move on I would have no further need of them I wouldn't send anything vulgar mind but if theirs a girl in it even on a leash so the fuck what it means nothing and as far as I can see it should affect nothing.  

not trying to sound aggressive though it might but I don't really care so... meh



Wow, charmed. [:'(]




realwhiteknight -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 7:39:08 AM)

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realwhi
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ORIGINAL: southernsultry

*Awesome answers from everyone....I was beginning to think it was "just me" but sending me pics of your former subs, cars, bikes, boats...)..major turnoff for me too. It's as if we are so shallow that all we are submissives for is because of material items or seeing how the were with another sub? Men are from Mars, we, Venus:) That simple, lol


oh yeah, the motorcycles and cars is another one!!! I'd much rather see a photo of the person than their car...why do I care what their car or bike looks like? I do NOT get it.




domiguy -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 7:45:01 AM)

You should be glad the do it. You know who to stay away from.

It's the same as women that post pics of their labia being stretched out like taffy, their faces covered in cum with dicks plundering every hole.

You can immediately place them in the appropriate category.

The "I gotta meet this girl, now!!!" category. lol.









porcelaine -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 9:09:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: realwhiteknight

oh yeah, the motorcycles and cars is another one!!! I'd much rather see a photo of the person than their car...why do I care what their car or bike looks like? I do NOT get it.


Perhaps that's the better looking model. [;)]

~porcelaine




realwhiteknight -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 9:39:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: realwhiteknight

oh yeah, the motorcycles and cars is another one!!! I'd much rather see a photo of the person than their car...why do I care what their car or bike looks like? I do NOT get it.


Perhaps that's the better looking model. [;)]



Oh I assume it is! And I always turn out to be right.  [:o]




realwhiteknight -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 9:50:53 AM)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

You should be glad the do it. You know who to stay away from.

It's the same as women that post pics of their labia being stretched out like taffy, their faces covered in cum with dicks plundering every hole.

You can immediately place them in the appropriate category.

The "I gotta meet this girl, now!!!" category. lol.








It'd be soooo awesome to be a man. Is that anti-feminist to say? I don't care. I hate being a woman. Luckily, I've stopped dating and went celibate.




porcelaine -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:06:34 AM)

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ORIGINAL: realwhiteknight

Oh I assume it is! And I always turn out to be right.  [:o]


I've noticed that women aren't generally as forthcoming about this subject as men are. I rarely encounter women that will admit their interest or preference for a handsome partner. I'm uncertain if this hinges on the idea of being perceived as shallow, but it would seem we're pretty tight lipped about it for the most part.

~porcelaine




realwhiteknight -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:14:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: porcelaine

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ORIGINAL: realwhiteknight

Oh I assume it is! And I always turn out to be right.  [:o]


I've noticed that women aren't generally as forthcoming about this subject as men are. I rarely encounter women that will admit their interest or preference for a handsome partner. I'm uncertain if this hinges on the idea of being perceived as shallow, but it would seem we're pretty tight lipped about it for the most part.

~porcelaine



You are SO awesome and totally right. *I* have noticed, and largely from male friends, that women can be quite rudely attacked over their stated preference for a handsome partner.

Yet, when do you *ever* hear a woman bitching at a man for being 'shallow'? lol It would be laughable, and she would be attacked over it!

It's another item that goes into my mental bag of reasons why the entire paradigm is fucked and I don't want any part of it.

I demand equality between men and women and notice people in general don't often seem to speak up for it, even when the situation calls for it.

Just my bitchy 2c.




porcelaine -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:28:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: realwhiteknight

You are SO awesome and totally right. *I* have noticed, and largely from male friends, that women can be quite rudely attacked over their stated preference for a handsome partner.

Yet, when do you *ever* hear a woman bitching at a man for being 'shallow'? lol It would be laughable, and she would be attacked over it!


Thank you for the compliment. :)

A friend of mine chides me about my prospects teasingly. I remind her that I have never found ruggedness attractive and prefer handsome metrosexual men. Guess who I entertain? The differences between she and I is that I admit it and pay no attention to those that find it offensive. That's their problem not mine. We all have preferences. Such is life.

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It's another item that goes into my mental bag of reasons why the entire paradigm is fucked and I don't want any part of it.

I demand equality between men and women and notice people in general don't often seem to speak up for it, even when the situation calls for it.


One can play the game or augment the rules to suit yourself instead. I like what I like and make no apology for such. Oftentimes the biggest decries are from other women rather than the opposite sex. We're quick to label someone as shallow or money grubbing when we're silently coveting the same.

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Just my bitchy 2c.


*slips you a $10 for a latte and biscotti* Cause you're worth it. [;)]

~porcelaine




Bobanna -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:35:12 AM)

Because there is a very good chance that you are dealing with a beta in sheeps clothes.




SoulPiercer -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:43:40 AM)


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ORIGINAL: southernsultry

Question of the day...why do Doms send photos of themselves with other submissives? (Chained,  roped, masked..etc...?) Is that for their benefit or mine? I honestly hope to find a Dom that respects that the only person I want to see chained to him, well, is me:))
Respectfully,
Sultry

PS. Any advice would be awesome:))



Because a picture is worth a thousand words. We men will jump through hoops to woo a woman. If we get it in our heads that the only way to impress you is to prove we are experienced at tying people to crosses, then voila.. we will produce a picture of ourselves tying someone to cross.

Of course there is also the added element of planting the seed in your mind ... "see .. this could be you".




porcelaine -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:53:52 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer

Because a picture is worth a thousand words. We men will jump through hoops to woo a woman. If we get it in our heads that the only way to impress you is to prove we are experienced at tying people to crosses, then voila.. we will produce a picture of ourselves tying someone to cross.

Of course there is also the added element of planting the seed in your mind ... "see .. this could be you".


Planting a seed in a garden you haven't been selected to manage. I would think the latter would be secured before mental impressions were applied to a possibility rather than a guarantee.

~porcelaine




realwhiteknight -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 10:54:55 AM)

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The differences between she and I is that I admit it and pay no attention to those that find it offensive. That's their problem not mine. We all have preferences. Such is life.


lol Yes, I always stick to my guns no matter what, but still get angry when people try to throw out the double standard to me. [:@][:@][:)]

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One can play the game or augment the rules to suit yourself instead. I like what I like and make no apology for such. Oftentimes the biggest decries are from other women rather than the opposite sex. We're quick to label someone as shallow or money grubbing when we're silently coveting the same.


Yes this is true, in the end you just have to play by your own rules, not other people's.

Thanks for the latte and biscotti. [:)] I hope it's pistacchio and chocolate-covered..we can share [:)]





lizi -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 11:10:08 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer
Because a picture is worth a thousand words. We men will jump through hoops to woo a woman. If we get it in our heads that the only way to impress you is to prove we are experienced at tying people to crosses, then voila.. we will produce a picture of ourselves tying someone to cross.

Of course there is also the added element of planting the seed in your mind ... "see .. this could be you".


While I understand this, it doesn't work that way for a woman. So the question turns out to be more of why do men use tactics for getting a woman that aren't based on what women respond to? Why do men persist in looking at things through the eye of the pursuer (themselves) and not the prey (women)? If a man isn't looking for another man I'd say he'd do better and be more successful if he'd think more of what entices a woman...not himself.




AquaticSub -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 11:12:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: southernsultry

Question of the day...why do Doms send photos of themselves with other submissives? (Chained,  roped, masked..etc...?) Is that for their benefit or mine? I honestly hope to find a Dom that respects that the only person I want to see chained to him, well, is me:))
Respectfully,
Sultry

PS. Any advice would be awesome:))



Maybe because men, at least the ones I know, don't run around taking a bunch of pictures of each other so the only decent ones of themselves that they have are with other people.

I don't see the big deal here, I really don't. It's just a picture. If you find him attractive and you like what is written, just friggin' ask why. I'm more curious about why people are jumping completely judge strangers so poorly by calling them insane. I've sent pictures of myself with others, whom I knew wouldn't mind, because it was a great picture that really expressed my personality. That theirs happened to be BDSM-themed doesn't really bug me.

Now, if it was basically porn, I'd be put off. Not because it's him and another girl but because I don't like to be randomly sent porn. If it's him and another girl posing at a BDSM event, maybe a flogging or something, or a nice shot of fireplay (which can look really fucking awesome) I really don't care.

So far, no one has given me shit for sending pictures with other people in them. Maybe it's because I have tits and not a dick.




realwhiteknight -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 11:23:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer
Because a picture is worth a thousand words. We men will jump through hoops to woo a woman. If we get it in our heads that the only way to impress you is to prove we are experienced at tying people to crosses, then voila.. we will produce a picture of ourselves tying someone to cross.

Of course there is also the added element of planting the seed in your mind ... "see .. this could be you".


While I understand this, it doesn't work that way for a woman. So the question turns out to be more of why do men use tactics for getting a woman that aren't based on what women respond to? Why do men persist in looking at things through the eye of the pursuer (themselves) and not the prey (women)? If a man isn't looking for another man I'd say he'd do better and be more successful if he'd think more of what entices a woman...not himself.


I completely support what both porcelaine and lizi said on this. Many men don't seem to have the interest or capacity to understand what we are thinking or feeling, and then get awfully upset when we don't respond to their inefficient tactics.




thishereboi -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 11:29:41 AM)

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ORIGINAL: wandersalone

I don't know which makes me [8|] more, the ones with photos of them with other women or the ones where you only see the hair or a disembodied arm or what must have been a past lover. My all time favourites though are when it is their wedding photo that they have cropped [:D]


I am thinking I wouldn't mind seeing hair or an arm. But that could be because when I logged on here the last time, I saw some chicks ass as she was fucking her boy. I blocked her before but she keeps popping up. Makes me wonder what people are thinking when they do their main photos.




thishereboi -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 11:35:10 AM)

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: SoulPiercer
Because a picture is worth a thousand words. We men will jump through hoops to woo a woman. If we get it in our heads that the only way to impress you is to prove we are experienced at tying people to crosses, then voila.. we will produce a picture of ourselves tying someone to cross.

Of course there is also the added element of planting the seed in your mind ... "see .. this could be you".


While I understand this, it doesn't work that way for a woman. So the question turns out to be more of why do men use tactics for getting a woman that aren't based on what women respond to? Why do men persist in looking at things through the eye of the pursuer (themselves) and not the prey (women)? If a man isn't looking for another man I'd say he'd do better and be more successful if he'd think more of what entices a woman...not himself.


The problem with that is, not all women want the same thing. I would much rather have a pic sent to me of a guy tying someone up than some of the pics I have gotten on here.




interlocutor -> RE: Why do Doms...???? (7/26/2010 11:42:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: southernsultry
Question of the day...why do Doms send photos of themselves with other submissives? (Chained,  roped, masked..etc...?) Is that for their benefit or mine? I honestly hope to find a Dom that respects that the only person I want to see chained to him, well, is me:))
Respectfully,
Sultry
PS. Any advice would be awesome:))



So from the answers so far, it seems like maybe the dominant types that read/post in the forums might not be the ones to ask. Personally I don't send pics of me with other people. Also it seems like the submissive women here have a fair bit of experience on the receiving end though.

One reason might be the, oft stated preference by submissives for an "experienced" dom.




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