ProlificNeeds
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*FR* It sounds like often times your 'dominance' was based on not the rapport built up with someone over time but seated on the image of yourself you presented up front. That strong, confident, unwavering sort of image. When they image is not fool proof and indeed, it does HAVE to come down inside a relationship, you find yourself wondering what your dominance is based on as a foundation? Maybe I'm reading wrong into what you've said but this is how it came across to me. A lot of times we put up a facade of oruselves, or just keep certain parts of ourselves back from the public eye, some parts of us remain private, as it should be. When you let someone into those private parts of your life, and yourself, things change. You can't treat or react to them the same way you would the common public bystandard. Instead, learn to accept you are falliable, not so serious, and you don't have to be that 'image' all the time for your sub. If you were 'too perfect' how could she connect and relate to you as a human being? she is flawed, so are we all. Being sad, uncertain, dorky, whatever, it's all part of the humanc ondition. Instead build your D/s relationship with her upon the trust you both build up over time, and realize that emotions can enrich your D/s exchanges, not hinder them. Also, tell her if she laughs at you again you'll beat her ass raw!
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