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A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 3:28:26 PM

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Well my first question is one I have always been curious about. And I searched back quite a ways to see if there was anything on it. So I decided I would bring it up, and would like to hear your opinions on it.

How do you feel about a sub flinching? Is it something that you enjoy? Or is it something that is looked down upon? Forgive me if this seems like a stupid question but it really is something I want to know.

And my second question I have already looked into a lot and I found some help here and there. But I would like a little more insight on the matter. What is it you look for on a profile? What are things that make you leary about someones profile? From what I have seen so far most people don't want to see nudes, ranting, negativity towards past encounters, and things such as that. And please feel free to have a look at my profile and give me constructive criticism if it needs it.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 4:01:11 PM

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I read a story once about the punisher not permitting flinching..of the other watching. it excited me. for me is like keeping the butt cheeks soft before the stroke. a voluntary action to be done under duress. admirable.
profiles should be sincere with your nature and respectful to the Dominant being presented. One does not charge in, one seduces, one is interested. crrate the chemistry. I liked your profile verfy much but your picture, although I do understand a very real part of your age and our world, creates in me the most devastating feelings of loss as a human race. I think the picture you offer shpuld be that show what one expects to portray according to our own nature, elegantly.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 4:29:07 PM

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The picture is a picture of me playing airsoft. A game very similar to paintball with more focus on military strategy and realism. I deleted it so that way there would be no correlation to me being in the military. I hadn't even thought about it when I put it up there. I hope that clears things up.

Thank you for the help and answering my questions.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 7:21:03 PM

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On flinching. No, I don't prefer it. There are absolutely times that I will tell clip to stand still if his first automatic reaction was to pull back or flinch. Yes, this does test obedience a bit and I expect him to have the fortitude to overcome his natural response.

On the second, I don't think you searched well enough. In fact, there is a section on the question of profiles included in the Frequently Asked Questions section that is at the very top of this forum.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 8:14:32 PM

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On flinching. No, I don't prefer it. There are absolutely times that I will tell clip to stand still if his first automatic reaction was to pull back or flinch. Yes, this does test obedience a bit and I expect him to have the fortitude to overcome his natural response.

On the second, I don't think you searched well enough. In fact, there is a section on the question of profiles included in the Frequently Asked Questions section that is at the very top of this forum.

I generally try not to flinch but I have to admit there are times I absolutely have to fight from doing it. I am sure it gets easier over time though.

I did not think to check the FAQs but now that I know that is where it is at I will definately check it. Thank you for pointing me in the right direction.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 9:08:07 PM

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How do you feel about a sub flinching? Is it something that you enjoy?

Sometimes...yesssss.

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What is it you look for on a profile? What are things that make you leary about someones profile?

Some effort put into it. Ones that are two lines long...doesn't give me much to go on. I look for vanilla things in common.

As for the rest, I look to eliminate someone for being incompatible. As well as the things you mentioned, if they smoke, are anti-Christian, dislike animals, are bisexual, poly, married or involved, or seem to want to be serviced, then I have no interest in them. If a guy has too much money or too much power in his vanilla life, I am also not interested. (If I read the words "loves opera" I also run, lol.) If they need things that are on my hard limit list, I lose interest.

Glad that you decided to speak up in the message boards.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 9:33:18 PM

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How do you feel about a sub flinching? Is it something that you enjoy?

Sometimes...yesssss.

I have a small amount of experience with the topic but as of yet I have never had anyone say wether or not they enjoyed it or didn't like it. I guess I will have to check with the person that is prospecting me in the future just to be sure.

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What is it you look for on a profile? What are things that make you leary about someones profile?

Some effort put into it. Ones that are two lines long...doesn't give me much to go on. I look for vanilla things in common.

As for the rest, I look to eliminate someone for being incompatible. As well as the things you mentioned, if they smoke, are anti-Christian, dislike animals, are bisexual, poly, married or involved, or seem to want to be serviced, then I have no interest in them. If a guy has too much money or too much power in his vanilla life, I am also not interested. (If I read the words "loves opera" I also run, lol.) If they need things that are on my hard limit list, I lose interest.

Glad that you decided to speak up in the message boards.

I originally just had a small tidbit about me and ended it with "feel free to ask any questions you may have" but that seemed sort of lazy on my part. I didn't feel like that was the right way to peek a person's interest of me. That is why I brought the question up and after being pointed in the right direction as to where to find the information I seeked I have already added to what was previously there in hopes of creating a more interesting profile. I just don't want people to assume I am a fake or don't want to put forward the nessacary amount of effortto meeting people.

Thank you for the help and insight on the matters at hand

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 9:38:59 PM

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I love the flinch and when I don't bind them and make them dance! hehe

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 9:55:41 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

I love the flinch and when I don't bind them and make them dance! hehe

I am starting to see that this varies from person to person. It is still a big help to have personal opinions on the subject. Thank you

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Sand paper, alcohol spray, whacka, whacka... alcohol spray, dance, dance, dance... whacka, whacka... alcohol spray, dance, dance, dance...

I think I would be dancing too

I haven't yet heard of anyone using alcohol spray. That is a new one for me.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 9:56:13 PM

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As Monty Python sez, We are all individuals!
And we all have different hard limits: I run towards someone who likes opera, who is a polite alpha in his vanilla life, and doesn't live with animals.
But most of us aren't interested in anyone who's married/involved, bi-, does drugs, or is just looking for a sexual experience. Here's a test:
if you're thinking more of what a Domme can do for you rather than of what you can do for her, you're on the wrong track.
Good luck.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/15/2010 10:17:14 PM

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As Monty Python sez, We are all individuals!
And we all have different hard limits: I run towards someone who likes opera, who is a polite alpha in his vanilla life, and doesn't live with animals.
But most of us aren't interested in anyone who's married/involved, bi-, does drugs, or is just looking for a sexual experience. Here's a test:
if you're thinking more of what a Domme can do for you rather than of what you can do for her, you're on the wrong track.
Good luck.

I will have had four years to have thought about this lifestyle next Saturday. That is when I actually accepted the fact that I was submissive rather than try to hide it. I can assure you that I am not in this for what a Domme can do for me. But rather the opposite. "What can I do for a Domme?" It is something that I enjoy doing all the way to my core. I am not here for sex. I am here for a learning experience and a chance to better myself.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 3:42:18 PM

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On your profile, you state you are a active person. It should read you are an active person. LOL! Also your tag line says he's gettint better. Pretty sure it should read he's getting better. Yes, some of us are grammar nazi's too.

Unlike an above poster, I actually like bi boys. No point in missing out on half the fun just because a Domme doesn't like it. There are others that will, couples included. (Not saying you are, just sayin'.)

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 4:55:25 PM

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The instinct to flinch never goes away...it is always there. It is very hard to control at times if you know what is coming and even harder if you don't know. If no flinching is demanded get used to fighting the urge.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 9:44:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: Ladynslave

On your profile, you state you are a active person. It should read you are an active person. LOL! Also your tag line says he's gettint better. Pretty sure it should read he's getting better. Yes, some of us are grammar nazi's too.

Unlike an above poster, I actually like bi boys. No point in missing out on half the fun just because a Domme doesn't like it. There are others that will, couples included. (Not saying you are, just sayin'.)

Thank you for pointing out those mistakes. They have all been corrected now. I am using my phone most of the time so being that it is small I tend to miss errors occasionally. Well the "you are AN active person" that was my fault and not that of me overlooking things. But hey... I am not perfect. I do try to do things to the best of my ability though.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 9:54:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: Steponme73

The instinct to flinch never goes away...it is always there. It is very hard to control at times if you know what is coming and even harder if you don't know. If no flinching is demanded get used to fighting the urge.

Well it is probably best to be discussed with the person administering at the time since it seems that it varies from person to person

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 10:33:08 PM

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But most of us aren't interested in anyone who's married/involved, bi-, does drugs, or is just looking for a sexual experience.

I'll pass on the drug users or casual sluts. If I don't know where he's been dipping his cone, I'm not taking any licks off it.

But bi and poly is a big plus for me, and very nearly a requirement before I'll date someone. I can be flexible on those things, but my strong preference is for bisexual men who are already comfortable with or actively practicing poly. Being married or having an existing relationship is absolutely fine with me as long as I get along well with their other partners and there is no drama. The main criteria is if the relationship will be sexual in any way, I do feel the need to know and trust their other partners in terms of safer sex practices. Even if the relationship is not sexual, I want to meet their other partner(s) socially and establish basic lines of communication to help forestall potential drama and to be able to directly learn and respect their boundaries.

Married and cheating though, no fuckin' way. That's just pathetic. If you're lying to her, then you're lying to me, and I will never believe a word you say. So don't bother saying anything; I'm not listening.

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Here's a test: if you're thinking more of what a Domme can do for you rather than of what you can do for her, you're on the wrong track.

Oh so true! Good advice.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 11:06:29 PM

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Yes, phone posting makes it harder. But hopefully the fixes will help you find the Domme of your dreams.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/17/2010 11:43:06 PM

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ORIGINAL: Ladynslave

Yes, phone posting makes it harder. But hopefully the fixes will help you find the Domme of your dreams.

Thank you for the help and the encouragement

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 4:01:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: Vex

Well my first question is one I have always been curious about. And I searched back quite a ways to see if there was anything on it. So I decided I would bring it up, and would like to hear your opinions on it.

How do you feel about a sub flinching? Is it something that you enjoy? Or is it something that is looked down upon? Forgive me if this seems like a stupid question but it really is something I want to know.

And my second question I have already looked into a lot and I found some help here and there. But I would like a little more insight on the matter. What is it you look for on a profile? What are things that make you leary about someones profile? From what I have seen so far most people don't want to see nudes, ranting, negativity towards past encounters, and things such as that. And please feel free to have a look at my profile and give me constructive criticism if it needs it.

Flinching is a different kind of opportunity to mess with the girl's head.

Pass on the second question.... lol

Focus.

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RE: A couple of questions. - 8/18/2010 7:05:02 AM

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One time I was being cropped. The Mistress wanted me to be completely still and silent. I found that ridiculous. Something is hurting me quite a lot, yet I should not have any reaction to it whatsoever...verbal or physical? Impossible.

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