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baybeegirl -> is it weird... (9/2/2010 1:58:01 PM)

Every year, around my birthday, i want to just have this huge (like...10-15 guy) gang rape fantasy come true. i've thought about posting ads on like craigslist, and everything, but then, i never do. my Master knows that i think about this, and isn't adverse to it...

but is it weird? like...mentally insane? And would it be very stupid to go through with?

thanks for taking the time




poise -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:00:52 PM)

That depends....are you a leap year baby?




crazyml -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:01:59 PM)

Hmm... I try really hard not to judge (well, I make a vague effort), but I've got to say - having gang rape fantasies is one thing (and not that uncommon), having a serious intention to set one up does make my "nutter" detector go off. I'd also say, that if your master isn't averse to you advertising to be raped by a group of strangers then I'd be wondering how much he cares for your welfare.

That said - it's your kink, if you're happy that you understand the risks (medical, legal, emotional) then go girl - fill your boots!




baybeegirl -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:03:51 PM)

lol, i just want to do it once, and nope, i have a birthday every year. 




crazyml -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:12:02 PM)

But seriously and without wishing to sound like yer Pa -- if you did decide to go ahead..



Would you be happy to have unprotected sex with these people?

Would you want an agreed safe-word or get-out clause?

How much violence are you prepared to accept?

Will your master be present?




baybeegirl -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:14:57 PM)

I would definitely have condoms. I dunno about the safe word...I worry that it will feel too fake if I can stop it at any time, or that if I stopped it, I'd be a tease for promising guys something I didn't ultimately deliver. I dunno on the violence part, and probably not...he tends to be jealous, but only if he's present. 




crazyml -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:17:38 PM)

Well, my old-fuddy-duddy advice would be to keep it in the "fantasy" section...

But, provided you and your master are sure that you have considered the consequences, a boring old git like me isn't going to stop you!




Zevar -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:34:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: baybeegirl

Every year, around my birthday, i want to just have this huge (like...10-15 guy) gang rape fantasy come true. i've thought about posting ads on like craigslist, and everything, but then, i never do. my Master knows that i think about this, and isn't adverse to it...

but is it weird? like...mentally insane? And would it be very stupid to go through with?

thanks for taking the time


Weirdly insane in the sense that you appear to be lacking reasonable thought thus showing a complete lack of reason or foresight i.e.: not fully considering the dynamics involved if you were to act this fantasy out. Fantasy is not always transferable in a pragmatic manner. AND yes, foolish would aptly define acting upon this fantasy, but then I am not your Master. However if I were, I would relentlessly forbid this sort of fantasy regardless of your every year birthday wishes. After all what is mine I refuse to subject to the potential of realistic irreparable harm.

Take care!




peacefulplace -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 2:37:33 PM)

This is a common fantasy. I know I've entertained the thought. However, I've always intended for it to remain a fantasy because, besides the fact that Sir does not share, nor do I really want to be shared, there are too many "What ifs?" involved. If you found your would-be fantasy rapists on something like craigslist, how can you ensure that one isn't a psycho who actually will rape you or, worse yet, someone who could bring a weapon and bad intentions? What if one of the participants manages to take photos and/or video to then blackmail you or just post on random websites? What if, once things start, it is too much for you physically and/or psychologically? You aren't weird at all, in my opinion, but I'd be really, really cautious about this.




DarkSteven -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 3:09:51 PM)

If your Master's up to it, he might be able to blindfold you and simulate it. Much safer.




mstrjx -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 3:50:26 PM)

Why does everyone make it easy for me?

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml
fill your boots!

Come on everybody, sing it with me.....

I don't think it would be her boots getting filled this time around.

At any rate, fantasy, reality, pish posh. Let's start with the obvious. The basic difference between your fantasy 'vision' and, say, a gang bang, is the fear factor. Having said that, answer these questions....

Would you want to participate in a gang bang? (Ignore the safety considerations. It's really not germane to the question.) How many more people than 1?

If not, would you still want to (in reality) go through with your fantasy in reality? If so, then you REQUIRE the fear factor, or the bondage/helplessness involved.

If the answer becomes 'no' to both questions, then your fantasy will always remain so. Is that better? It's not up for me to decide, or even advise for or against. I'm just pointing out issues.

Jeff




itsmeinLV -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 7:24:00 PM)

Whatever you do, just BE SAFE!




DesFIP -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 7:26:02 PM)

If there are ten other men there, then your master won't be able to protect you if the others choose not to wear condoms. You would need two minimum big men to forcefully drag them away and shove them out the door. That's men who are not participating but just watching out for you. Two is the minimum I've seen suggested and four is more like it.

Obviously no drugs or alcohol but how do you make sure they weren't using before they showed up at your door? And it is not suggested that you do this at home in case one of them decides that since you wanted him to rape you once, you're now available any time. Get a hotel room. Get two with connecting doors so you have a clean room to go into after. 




SubPet715 -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 8:44:45 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

If your Master's up to it, he might be able to blindfold you and simulate it. Much safer.


Pretty genius idea there, because if it is a fantasy couldn't it remain in the realm of fantasy?

Just like other fantasies are best simulated and not acted upon like incest or rape.




Shadow-tiger -> RE: is it weird... (9/2/2010 9:16:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: baybeegirl

Every year, around my birthday, i want to just have this huge (like...10-15 guy) gang rape fantasy come true. i've thought about posting ads on like craigslist, and everything, but then, i never do. my Master knows that i think about this, and isn't adverse to it...

but is it weird? like...mentally insane? And would it be very stupid to go through with?

Fairly common fantasy. The trick is that who fantasy vs reality mess, as has been mentioned a bit. Now if you happen to know ten to fifteen guys who you and your Master are good friends with, can get them interested while trusting your Master to do right by you, and yanno, the whole precautions thing.. It's doable, in theory.

Whether or not it's actually practical, or a good idea is debatable though. You have those who flat out refuse to think anything but bad could come from this. Those who think it's doable, maybe even enjoyable, as long as you take precautions to keep it from going too far. Up to those who'd probably say 'just go hire ten male hookers who are up for a gang bang.'

In the end you need to do right by you, and take the precautions you feel necessary if you really want to try. The funny part of that type of fantasy is pure logistics. Finding the right guys, a place and time to get them all together, a way to make it more than just a gang bang. It could actually be really damned hot if you can figure all that out. I think for the average couple it's going to stay in the realm of fantasy though.




jujubeeMB -> RE: is it weird... (9/3/2010 4:36:49 AM)

I don't want to sound like a total drag, but this is such a bad idea. As someone with rape fantasies, gang bang fantasies, no-safeword tendencies and a very vivid imagination, I understand where you're coming from. But you are just leaving way too many things up to chance here, and you could very well walk away from the experience with major psychological and physical trauma.

If you really, really want to do this - and not just leave it in the absolutely wonderful, preferable land of pure fantasy - I would suggest you start a lot smaller. Put together something with just your Master and 2-3 other guys that you know and trust. Don't make it a force fantasy thing, just see if you can handle having that much sex [:)] If you can, and you enjoyed it, and your Master had no issues with it, keep that base and start screening and adding individuals who are comfortable being one of multiple guys but who are very, very sane and would pass as a good play partner in ordinary circumstances. Build up like it's a workout - do a new session with more people every couple of months, or something. Get STD/STI test results from all of them, and as someone else recommended, get two big, strong guys to just look out for you should things get out of control. Also, you need a safeword. You don't have to use it, but not wanting to disappoint all the guys that came to screw you isn't a good enough reason to put yourself in physical and psychological peril. You shouldn't be playing with anyone who would want to fuck you after you were in so much distress you had to stop the action.

I don't really know what I'm talking about, but that's my advice if you insist on doing it. I have said before, however, that I would never do something with multiple guys because it will come back to bite you in the ass. You have to assume that every relative, employer and future boyfriend/Master will know about it, because you can't keep that kind of information private. There's also how you'll feel the next day, and the days after that - these things can sound so sexy in our brains but the cold reality of them is something else entirely.




BonesFromAsh -> RE: is it weird... (9/3/2010 4:56:33 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: crazyml
Will your master be present?



quote:

ORIGINAL: baybeegirl
probably not...he tends to be jealous, but only if he's present.



Just a thought OP...if your master is too jealous to be present during this fantasy scene of yours, how do you think he'll handle it after all is said and done? Will he be okay with the fact that you had sex, forced or not, with all these men because you wanted the experience, not because of actual rape?




Twoshoes -> RE: is it weird... (9/3/2010 5:10:16 AM)

Anymore than 2 guys and it becomes an uncontrolled and undesirable mess in my mind.




Nineveh -> RE: is it weird... (9/3/2010 6:30:56 AM)

I think it might be a better idea to find guys that you know and trust to act this out with, rather than strangers.




SubPet715 -> RE: is it weird... (9/3/2010 7:35:24 AM)

I missed that part, he tends to be jealous. Then why would you want to do something that causes him grief?

Twoshoes also had it right any more than 2 men it usually requires a city planner to step in and make sure things go smoothly.




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