fakes and phonies

fakes and phonies (Full Version)

All Forums >> [Casual Banter] >> Off the Grid

Message

MWMSeeksBDSMPlay -> fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:44:55 AM)
Why is this site being bombarded with more and more fakes and phonies? Everyday there are new posts from slaves who are in the UK and wanting you to pay for them to come be your slave, and Ghana or some other god-forsaken place! Can't collarme screen these profiles any better! Call me a whiner or what not but it gets discouraging when you see someone from near you who isn't really even in the states or just want you to message them on yahoo so they can add you for some reason(probably to make $$$)

Twoshoes -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:49:37 AM)
quote: I am a married man looking for discreet daytime bondage play! I can see what the problem here is. You are married so you don't have the time or the patience to sift through profiles. I sympathize.

LaTigresse -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:52:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MWMSeeksBDSMPlay Why is this site being bombarded with more and more fakes and phonies? Everyday there are new posts from slaves who are in the UK and wanting you to pay for them to come be your slave, and Ghana or some other god-forsaken place! Can't collarme screen these profiles any better! Call me a whiner or what not but it gets discouraging when you see someone from near you who isn't really even in the states or just want you to message them on yahoo so they can add you for some reason(probably to make $$$) Bless your heart.

MWMSeeksBDSMPlay -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:55:28 AM)
what does being married have to do with anything, There are profiles listing their home close to my home and yet they are out of the states. that's where my beef is. My being married is another concern all on it's own, i get told not interested by 90% of the legitimate profiles because I'm married and my wige doesn't participate! Sure i can go pay a prostitute for B&D sex but why should I, just because my wife isn't into it! Why do people have to be so hung up on someone looking outside their marriage for sexual satisfaction if their spouse isn't satisfying their needs!

angelikaJ -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:56:25 AM)
Fakes and phonies... here?! What an outrage! I'm going to ask for my membership fee to be refunded immediately. (To the OP, perhaps you should try that too.)

stef -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:57:51 AM)
Perhaps you should try your luck on ashleymadison.com instead. That site is full of folks looking for some "discreet daytime" encounters. ~stef

MWMSeeksBDSMPlay -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 8:58:08 AM)
LOL, very funny, even Craig's list got rid of the prostitutes! they'll be coming here next, oh wait they already are!

SubPet715 -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:03:42 AM)
Speech #23 Nah you aren't worth that speech so let me start off by saying this, from what I know this site is the best out there. It is run by volunteers who do not have the time to sift through the thousands of profiles and delete those they suspect of being fraudulent. You're a grown man, you should be able to tell if someone is trying to sell you snake oil and if you can't then don't be on the internet. As for what you want...you basically want to cheat on your wife. Don't if, and, but, or try to explain it away you want to cheat on your wife and despite your preconceived notions about the bdsm community as a whole we're adverse to little things like that. Also you haven't even been with this site for a month yet and you find it okay to pop up on the boards and complain about phonies...damn...i'm through playing around with people like you who just want to cheat and get their rocks off.

BlackRoses666 -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:03:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MWMSeeksBDSMPlay Why is this site being bombarded with more and more fakes and phonies? Everyday there are new posts from slaves who are in the UK and wanting you to pay for them to come be your slave, and Ghana or some other god-forsaken place! Can't collarme screen these profiles any better! Call me a whiner or what not but it gets discouraging when you see someone from near you who isn't really even in the states or just want you to message them on yahoo so they can add you for some reason(probably to make $$$) I know what you mean, even i'm pissed off at all of this, i get looaaads of subs/slaves/doms after me, yet there all fakes,liars,want to make money or just...nuts! and also half of these fakes don't even LOOK AT YOUR PROFILE...that really does piss me off the most.

LaTigresse -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:04:08 AM)
Just like the cheap ass 'Johns' come here looking for thrills, outside their marriage, they don't have to pay for.

stef -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:06:39 AM)
I had better hit Costco and pick up a pallet of Kleenex. It looks like we're going to be running out soon. ~stef

MWMSeeksBDSMPlay -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:08:19 AM)
I am in no way condemning pro dominatrix's, just saying why should someone have to resort to them when there are so many others into the scene available who don't charge! Just because they are married and looking outside the marriage! I knew as soon as I made this post there would be people posting just to toss disrespect and judgment out to make themselves feel more important than they really are!

Twoshoes -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:15:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MWMSeeksBDSMPlay what does being married have to do with anything, There are profiles listing their home close to my home and yet they are out of the states. that's where my beef is. My being married is another concern all on it's own, i get told not interested by 90% of the legitimate profiles because I'm married and my wige doesn't participate! Sure i can go pay a prostitute for B&D sex but why should I, just because my wife isn't into it! Why do people have to be so hung up on someone looking outside their marriage for sexual satisfaction if their spouse isn't satisfying their needs! Cause your message basically reads: "I don't want to be bothered much. Can this happen easier? [:(]" So I decided to try to figure out why you are such an entitled and impatient fuck. You're right, that has nothing to do with being married at all. However, that's the excuse you're using, so I restated it. Then I sarcastically made fun of you for using that as your excuse. I'm not saying you should be miserable. If you got divorced first or talked your wife into it, perhaps you'd have enough time and motivation to look for someone. But let's be realistic, even you clearly know your attitude has nothing to do with your marriage. Your profile isn't looking for an actual person, it's all about your desires and your convenience. Who are you trying to attract here? Your fantasies (aka desires + convenience)? Women aren't your fantasies. (Sorry, I'm a bit high on the fruit juice this morning. I'll try to be polite next "fakes" thread.)

angelikaJ -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:21:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MWMSeeksBDSMPlay I am in no way condemning pro dominatrix's, just saying why should someone have to resort to them when there are so many others into the scene available who don't charge! Just because they are married and looking outside the marriage! I knew as soon as I made this post there would be people posting just to toss disrespect and judgment out to make themselves feel more important than they really are! The reason why married and seeking outside without the spouse's knowledge pisses so many people off is because they value honesty in their relationships. Your values are different, but you shouldn't expect a free pass from people who believe differently than you do. As for finding real people, there are plently of real people. I can honestly say, I did not meet any fakes here. You just need to be willing to put in the time to actually get to know people as people and not be in a rush to fill the hole you are missing. aJ who is happily owned

LadyPact -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:22:52 AM)
I think there are two things you are going to have to accept. One is that a number of folks who really enjoy participating in BDSM aren't going to be interested in playing with someone who is unable to be honest with their spouse. Just because someone is kinky doesn't mean they don't have any standards for the people they are willing to meet and play with. We aren't any different than any other part of society when it comes to areas such as cheating. Some people won't want anything to do with that and you're just going to have to accept that. As for the number of profiles that are pay for play, they wouldn't be here if there weren't men exactly willing to do just that. If they weren't making any money at it, they would be using other avenues for advertising. For example, since so many folks interested in BDSM won't play with married people who are sneaking around, there are married men out there who resort to that because, other than paying somebody, nobody is willing to engage with them. Paying for someone's time is the only way for them. It's an idea that you may have to get used to.

stef -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:26:29 AM)
Brilliant. He just emailed me and complained that ashleymadison.com was too expensive. ~stef

AquaticSub -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:29:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MWMSeeksBDSMPlay I am in no way condemning pro dominatrix's, just saying why should someone have to resort to them when there are so many others into the scene available who don't charge! Just because they are married and looking outside the marriage! I knew as soon as I made this post there would be people posting just to toss disrespect and judgment out to make themselves feel more important than they really are! So basically... you are bitching because you don't feel you should have to "resort" to paying for play because you deserve a slice of the free play pie. Well, the truth of that matter is that you don't. The people around you have to want to play with you. I have played, do play and will play with married people. I don't charge (usually, there has been an incident or two where I did a goods exchange) but if I can't confirm that the spouse is ok with them playing with me... I'm simply not interested. Now I play very casually at BDSM events so it's entirely possible that I've played with someone who was married and I didn't know it. But since you are saying discreet, I get the idea that you aren't going to these events. Basically, it's the law of supply and demand. There are a lot of men out there in your exact situation. So the few people who are interested in playing with you for free have their pick of the litter. That leaves everyone else either without play or paying for it. It's not anyone's fault actually. If the pros and pay-for-play folks went away, you'd be in the same boat. Only without the option of any play.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:30:31 AM)
Okay. I did not read the OP's profile, because that thirty seconds of my life would be too valuable. Here, we have GROUPS that are dedicated to bondage. JUST BONDAGE. Folks get together, have snackies, learn various rigging techniques from experts, and practice on each other. ROPE!! Lots of it! Super fun, no one cares who is married to whom, because hey, it's JUST BONDAGE. That might not fit the bill if you are looking for say, FUCKING with your rope... but given the increased populariity of shibari, etc, I think that you should google, or use that... informedconsent.com (?) site that they have in the UK. That is, if you are interested in BONDAGE.

AquaticSub -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:31:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef Brilliant. He just emailed me and complained that ashleymadison.com was too expensive. ~stef Just out of curiousity, how much is it? I know some dating sites can be pricey.

Arpig -> RE: fakes and phonies (9/13/2010 9:34:50 AM)
And just what do you expect to accomplish with this whiny thread?

Page: [1] 2 3 4 5 next > >>

Collarchat.com © 2024

Terms of Service

0.1865234