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Rochsub2009 -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/15/2010 7:58:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella

If a man told me he'd had 75 sexual partners I'd lose interest unless the vast majority of those partners happened when he was younger and he's adamant he's changed his ways.



Only 75?  Are there really guys who have been with so few women?  [;)]




LadyPact -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/15/2010 8:03:36 PM)

Now that the answers have been put on the thread, would you mind linking the source for the data?




DomImus -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/15/2010 8:29:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Elisabella
If a man told me he'd had 75 sexual partners I'd lose interest unless the vast majority of those partners happened when he was younger and he's adamant he's changed his ways.


Like as in that he is no longer interested in sex? I get it that bragging about it is a problem for folks. Depending on his age and how long he has been sexually active 75 isn't an astronomical figure. High side, sure and definitely pulling the average up but for a guy who has been sexually active for 30 years (let's say) that wouldn't even be three a year. If these encounters weren't on the side during committed relationships where's the foul? Or is that the assumption?






Elisabella -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/15/2010 9:53:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: DomImus

quote:

ORIGINAL: Elisabella
If a man told me he'd had 75 sexual partners I'd lose interest unless the vast majority of those partners happened when he was younger and he's adamant he's changed his ways.


Like as in that he is no longer interested in sex? I get it that bragging about it is a problem for folks. Depending on his age and how long he has been sexually active 75 isn't an astronomical figure. High side, sure and definitely pulling the average up but for a guy who has been sexually active for 30 years (let's say) that wouldn't even be three a year. If these encounters weren't on the side during committed relationships where's the foul? Or is that the assumption?





Well I'm 27...and I really wouldn't consider being in a relationship with someone more than 10 years older than me so at the most...37 years old, sexually active for 20 years, which would mean approximately 4 people per year.

Which breaks down to a new relationship every 3 months. Alternatively, if he did have any long-term relationships (lasting years) the figures would be even more skewed for the rest of that time.

Obviously I'm married now, but the few years leading up to meeting my husband I was definitely sizing guys up in terms of their LTR/marriage potential and if the math says "new girl every 3 months" I'd be very wary of getting emotionally invested.




leadership527 -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/15/2010 10:26:02 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
Now that the answers have been put on the thread, would you mind linking the source for the data?
Working on it LP. I'm struggling with some of the references because some of the really good data came from a series on the science channel and I'm trying to get the old episodes, review them, and get the relevant names/references.




GreedyTop -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/15/2010 10:38:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

a) Do you believe men, on the average, have more sexual partners over a lifetime than women?  No.

b) Do you believe that men are more likely to be unfaithful than women?  Yes.

c) Do you think a male's status/income is a significant driver in "attractiveness"?  No.

d) Do you believe (in broad brush strokes) that women select for "personality" while men select for "beauty"?  Yes.

e) Do you believe men are more likely than women to deceive in order to increase their chances?  Yes.

Thanks

You're welcome.



This.




couldbemage -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/16/2010 11:32:59 PM)

OMFG

How could the average number of partners possibly be different for men and women?

This is so damn depressing.




BentUnit -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/16/2010 11:54:51 PM)

Asking for how many partners a person has is just setting yourself up for heartbreak.
Either they are going to be truthful, in which case your going to be turned off.
OR
They lie just to save your feelings.

Either way it's really none of your damned business (and in the poorest possible taste to ask) so long as they give a full and current disclosure of their disease status.

I happen to like an experienced partner because quite frankly I've done my bit for educating the sexually clueless.
And quite frankly a partners "experience" is evident once it starts to get down to the nitty gritty. There simply isn't a need to ask.

To answer the actual question..

I believe, from my own personal experience, that women have it easier than men when it comes to dating.




ranja -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/17/2010 2:28:24 AM)

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ORIGINAL: leadership527

OK, I've been doing research recently and I have a few questions to see what people here generally believe. Note, all of these questions are only relevant to the straight community... this is about males and females mating. I have no idea what, if any, differences in the data would show up for the gay & lesbian communities. I'd also ask that you not go google answers here... I'm looking for what you accept as truth.

a) Do you believe men, on the average, have more sexual partners over a lifetime than women?
b) Do you believe that men are more likely to be unfaithful than women?
c) Do you think a male's status/income is a significant driver in "attractiveness"?
d) Do you believe (in broad brush strokes) that women select for "personality" while men select for "beauty"?
e) Do you believe men are more likely than women to deceive in order to increase their chances?

Thanks


sowhat do we get from this tread?
That most women think that they are more honerable and have less partners than the men... which is of course not true at all... so the data shows that most women are a bit ignorant and devious?

i would have answered no to all... but have to admit that i was impressed by my Husbands ability to make a good living for Himself.




gungadin09 -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/17/2010 10:17:13 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ranja

sowhat do we get from this tread?
That most women think that they are more honerable and have less partners than the men... which is of course not true at all... so the data shows that most women are a bit ignorant and devious?



i don't think it's that women are ignorant and devious. i think people are ignorant and devious, regardless of gender. i just think it's a survey that encouraged more women than men to reply. i think you could do another survey, a different one, and get as many men to prove that they are ignorant and devious. Hey, we're all ignorant and devious. Cheers!

pam




peacefulplace -> RE: Of men and women... the dating game (9/17/2010 4:20:40 PM)

Despite the stats that Jeff posted (links pending), I've found some posts quite illuminating when people have commented on the reasons why they answer as they do so here goes:
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ORIGINAL: leadership527

a) Do you believe men, on the average, have more sexual partners over a lifetime than women? Yes, I do, but not by that much. I do believe that women are more likely to lie about the number of partners they have had in order to not be thought of as a "slut," but I also believe that some men over report the number of women they've had sex with in order to be thought of as a "stud." In speaking with my gay friends, men definitely have had more sexual partners than lesbians, but again, only my experience.
b) Do you believe that men are more likely to be unfaithful than women? Most definitely, mostly because, although once female friends of mine have decided to "settle down," they actually do, whereas some of the men most definitely have not.
c) Do you think a male's status/income is a significant driver in "attractiveness"?
For me, and for all of the women I know who have their own incomes, a male's status and income is not a SIGNIFICANT driver. However, nobody I know is messing with a broke man, so to speak.
d) Do you believe (in broad brush strokes) that women select for "personality" while men select for "beauty"?
Actually, no. The men I know select for attractive submissiveness. If it fits with typical standards of beauty, then fine. If not, so be it. On the other hand, women are under much more pressure to be "sexy" now than they ever have at any point in my lifetime.
e) Do you believe men are more likely than women to deceive in order to increase their chances?
Not really. As someone said earlier, deception is a trait of all humans. It only takes different forms. I consider breast implants to be a deception to increase a woman's chances with men, for example.




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