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RE: Whats in a name - 9/22/2010 6:29:15 PM

HisEvelyn

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During play it is always "Master". Outside of play, I usually call him Sir, though sometimes when he gives me a specific order, I revert to Master again. In casual moments, 'hon' or 'love' works.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/22/2010 7:15:50 PM

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I call him by his first name, sometimes a nickname that he's had for years and what just about everyone who knows him calls him, and occasionally...douchebag.
Lately my brain thinks of him as bruiser for the simple reason that he likes to punch and bruise me.

Never master or sir or anything along those lines. It just seems absolutely ridiculous to both of us.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/22/2010 8:13:43 PM

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I just call whomever is my partner by their name.

Sometimes I use affectionate terms like honey, babe.

I only use the other words during those specific times that it seems relevant, usually during a scene. But in my relationships titles were not the thing; it was what we were doing that was more important.

No, it does not have that je nais se quois...I have a feeling if I was with you I would mostly be saying Oh my god, oh my god....:)

Or maybe ouch!!!!

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 3:22:20 AM

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you don't have to call me darlin', darlin' but you don't even call me by my name

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 5:54:10 AM

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its a wierd one for me. i can understand why people use Sir and Master but ive never found those titles easy to use. but then again, calling them by their christian name doesnt always feel right either. i suually end up giving them a nickname

for me titles create a distance that i dont like, and im guessing thats part of the point to them. my mums birthday was a couple of weeks ago and she had an old friend to her party who is a Lady by title - i knew her as a kid as Mrs, her title came later. introducing her to people at the party as Lady blah blah created a strange gap between her and the person i was introducing her to.

i dont want to be in a relationship where a title creates a distance so i now tend to avoid people who might insist on it. it might just be my weird associations but i just find Sir and Master a bit of an emotional hurdle.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 7:00:49 AM

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Do any other Dom(mes) take a second glance when a sub that is NOT yours calls you Master or Mistress?

I cant get used to it.

If you dont belong to me, just call me Sir of by my given name. That's cool with me.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 7:04:48 AM

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Do any other Dom(mes) take a second glance when a sub that is NOT yours calls you Master or Mistress?

Of course. How dare they fail to recognize my obvious divinity!

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 7:33:50 AM

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I've always tended to call a partner by a "pet name" or term of endearment. Birth-names seem too formal for me, when in an intimate relationship.

That said, I have, in a past relationship, called the man "Master." He wanted it, and it came naturally.

In my current relationship, he is Daddy. It signifies a whole bunch of stuff for us - dearness, authority, nurturer, protector, loving-hand, and ruler. When in the company of others, such as his daughter, I call him "Mr. Man," "El Senor," or the Spanish version of his birth-name. Or Dear, or Darling, or Love. Sometimes I call him Master; sometimes it just comes out - usually when he's dropping the gauntlet on something. Mostly, though, it's Daddy.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 7:34:57 AM

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Do any other Dom(mes) take a second glance when a sub that is NOT yours calls you Master or Mistress?

I cant get used to it.

If you dont belong to me, just call me Sir of by my given name. That's cool with me.

Absolutely. In fact, I have no problem telling people that doing so is completely incorrect according to leather protocol. If somebody is addressing Me as "Mistress", the very next word had better be some version of My name (either My real first name or Pact). This never an issue when it's not in front of the computer, but many folks who have no experience other than online don't understand the concept.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 8:55:16 AM

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ORIGINAL: AlwaysLisa

Morning,

I'm asking this here, because I would like to hear from those who use the terminology when speaking of themselves, as well as those who use it as a point of address.

When you come to the realization that you have a dominant nature and desire to have someone kneeling at your feet...what word comes to your mind? Are you a master, or a sir? Why?

Is there a difference? How do you view it?

On the flip side, to those doing the kneeling, what is your perception? I realize you address the dominant force in your life in the manner he prefers, I wondered if in your heart/mind there was a difference in what each word means.

First morning of fall, too cold to work outside right now, so some idle thoughts I decided to ask others about.

Lisa

My beloved Companion always referred to me with the term, Master. She chose to call me by this term as she believed me to be masterly thus referred to me with a term that most closely fit my personality, she adamantly claimed. Although I did not expect her to call me any certain term at all, this is how it unfolded.

I accepted her referring to me as "Master" & always made certain that my actions were indicative of the term, lest disgrace would had befallen our relationship, which was nothing I cared to invoke. Each time she would call to me with her silken voice, “Master“ another filament was woven into our bond of Love that endured throughout our relationship unto the day she passed.

Names and terms hold memories, IMO. But then I am of Gaelic Irish roots & our family name holds great meaning among my family and others I know and have known for generations.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 9:08:00 AM

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My girl calls me by many different names. Everything from Owner to just my nickname. When I first started in BDSM I thought of names like Owner, Master, and Sir were kind of funny but I have come to enjoy knowing that my girl feels that way about me. I could care less about a title though so long as I can have the girl I want she could call me by my name all the time and I wouldn't mind.

On another note Sir does still bother me a bit. I grew up in the South where Sir was reserved for your dad and just about anyone that age or older. Hearing it sometimes makes me look around and be like "Sir who?"

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 9:19:31 AM

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I always have a chuckle when someone in a business (bank teller or receptionist etc) refers to me as "Sir" and even ask if they are spelling it SIR or CUR....

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 12:23:51 PM

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Typically, I am addressed as "Ma'am", "Madame", or "M'Lady" by our servants around the house. We had one older gentleman, some 40 years my senior, who would always address me as "Miss" with utter respect. He was a darling, an impeccable butler, and his minor deviation from my usual protocol in terms of address never bothered me in the least. With that being said, I am -very- protocol-driven, and as such, no servant in our household would refer to me by casual (first) name, unless they were indicating me as "Dame Calla" in a conversation with someone else or announcing me upon my entering the house. The only other exception would be when I am in ritual circle, and am addressed according to the title and name I use in those circumstances.

Our situation is heavily hierarchical and structured, so I suppose that, for me or mine, if I were to use the established vernacular, I would be "Mistress" rather than "Domme".

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 12:29:34 PM

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What is in a name? Power is in a name. If I say that I want to be called Master or Sir, whichever I tell a submissive or slave, is my preference but that he/she obeys is an example of that power. One a deeper level, if a Dominant calls their submissive or slave by whichever name he/she has decided on, does it do something to the submissive or slave? Does it put them in a different frame of mind, a different space? When a Submissive or Slave hears their Dominant's name does it have an emotional impact? Does it calm them down? Bring them comfort? How about arousal? Power is in a name.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 2:19:37 PM

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Here on the boards, and even in normal life, many people call me Miss Rosie, as it is my stage name, and in my unique town, it is indicative of how people would have referred to me 125 years ago.

So for daily use, calling me Rosie works for just anyone, Miss Rosie for someone who wishes to show me respect or when I'm in my "character" or for my sub when just interacting in a normal way. Mistress is reserved for those lovely, special times when a higher level of respect and a deeper level of interaction is being shown such as during a scene.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/23/2010 2:36:49 PM

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For me, "Master" implies ownership or a M/s relationship, so that title is used only by my slave. Calling me "Master" when I don't own you is about the same as calling me "honey" if we aren't in a romantic relationship - I'll look at you funny and wonder what's wrong with you. In all other cases "Sir" (a D/s title) does quite nicely. I'm a firm believer in general respect for others, so I appreciate the use of "sir" (a term of respect with no D/s meaning) and frequently use it with others both inside and outside of the community.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/24/2010 7:39:00 AM

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Calling me "Master" when I don't own you is about the same as calling me "honey" if we aren't in a romantic relationship

*chuckles* Honey, you've clearly never lived in the South. *grins* We call -everyone- "honey"! *lol* Even the trash collector and the homeless person who bunks under the I-10 on-ramp.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/24/2010 7:41:16 AM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWCMhL5qxlE

what a fuckin' gash, huh?

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/24/2010 7:56:04 AM

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If I'm close to someone, then either Master or Sir is fine, otherwise it's a bit corny for strange to address you that way.

Just don't call me Shirley.

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RE: Whats in a name - 9/24/2010 9:10:31 AM

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I call him by his first name, sometimes a nickname that he's had for years and what just about everyone who knows him calls him, and occasionally...douchebag.
Lately my brain thinks of him as bruiser for the simple reason that he likes to punch and bruise me.

Never master or sir or anything along those lines. It just seems absolutely ridiculous to both of us.

I would really enjoy watching Shore lay you out with a single punch.

When we met that was my first inclination, but I thought I might be overstepping some sort of an archaic bdsm protocolly thing.

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