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What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 7:59:53 AM   
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I have never heard the term used, and yet my mail box is full of those wishing to be my next cuckold.  What the hell is this, anyone know?

Until then,

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 8:18:12 AM   
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Typically in a vanilla relationship a cuck, gets enjoyment out of watching his wife be with other men...They Like these men to be better endowed then themselves and they really like if she has several at one time.
 
Often the cuck boys have a strong desire to preform cleaning services, licking clean the sex juices from both the male and female after copulation.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 8:23:48 AM   
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The defination of a cuckold is: a man whos wife is unfaithful.

But what it is commonly used means more what crouchingtigress said in her posting.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 8:50:34 AM   
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Having just recently gotten out of a cuckold relationship, I can't help but comment on this.
That type of relationship did not work for me (but then seldom has any type of sexual relationship ever worked for me, lol)

I really felt, as the cuckoldress, that I was being used. I felt used by the bulls to get their rocks off. And I felt used by the cuck as a mechanism of their living vicariously through me and the bulls. It didn't make me feel treasured and precious and cared for. It made me feel like I had been diminished to a body that was being used for one person's sexual gratification, and then turning around and being used vicariously to compensate for another person's limitations.

When I realized that at the end of the day I was going to bed feeling more valued as a dual sextoy than an intelligent woman, I ended the cuckolding aspect of the relationship. We're still friends. I did learn more about myself by having entered into it in the first place.  But I think I did the smart thing by ending it. I walked away with no regrets, and proud of myself for having been open to trying it and growing from it.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 8:51:26 AM   
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To Me a cuckold is a male who has developed a bond strong enough with  his Mistress that it can endure anything without harming the core of the relationship.  When a woman cuckolds a male, he is usally consenting  and is aware that she is having sexual relationships with one or more other males.  The cuckold is often present (but not always) when his Mistress/wife is having sex with the third party (called a Bull).    The cuckold is often verbally/physically humiliated during this time, and interaction between Bull and cuckold can exist, but doesn't always.  Usually the cuckold gets his reward by  performing orally on the woman who is cuckolding him, and does so after the Bull has come inside her....  He experiences jealousy, and humiliation in tasting the combined juices of his Mistress and another..  yet  he is content and takes comfort in knowing that she is pleased. 

There are many variations of what exists in a cuckold relationship.. I have  presented one of them.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 9:05:22 AM   
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I see the 'Hot Wives' scenario as described above as something entirely different to a Mistress making a cuckold of her partner/slaves and do wish sites like Collarme would allow for the point of difference when filling out profile checklists. 

The cuckolded relationship is a personal and private dynamic between the Mistress and partner in which she is free to see whom she chooses and when she chooses, while he is denied such freedoms.  He may or may not be present, most likely not, possibly in some other part of the house or at home awaiting her return.  The beauty for the cuckolded partner is that despite all her other lovers...she returns to him ... him who gives himself to her mind, body and soul ... he who has yielded power and possession of self to her wants, desires and needs.  There is power too for him in the knowledge his Mistress is indeed a women in control, she who uses and discards men to get her sexual needs met...he is does not get discarded, ergo he is special and precious to her...he provides for her what no other man can't/don't/won't.

In the 'Hot Wives' scenario, the requirement of a 'bull', ergo a bigger, better, more satisfying lover than the 'husband' who has to watch his/or is told in detail of the 'wife' having sex with another, a 'real man' and the 'husband' ultimately humiliated for his inadequecies, in this instance is moot.   

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 9:14:29 AM   
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Thanks for sharing your insight, I have never had a cuck so it was informative, the reason I never have is because the boys that have approached me with this, are very fetishistic about it.
 
I have learned that when some one is fetishistic about something sexual they enjoy, they sort of tune out every one and everything that does not involve their fetish, hence like you, I run the risk of feeling used.
 
If I  were to meet a cuckboy who was able to meet me emotionally, mentally and spiritually I would be open to allowing him to be my cuck hold, but so far I have not met any like Jasmyn has described. thank you Jasmyn for a great post!

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 9:21:42 AM   
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Jasmyn
quote:

I see the 'Hot Wives' scenario as described above as something entirely different to a Mistress making a cuckold of her partner/slaves and do wish sites like Collarme would allow for the point of difference when filling out profile checklists.

The cuckolded relationship is a personal and private dynamic between the Mistress and partner in which she is free to see whom she chooses and when she chooses, while he is denied such freedoms. He may or may not be present, most likely not, possibly in some other part of the house or at home awaiting her return. The beauty for the cuckolded partner is that despite all her other lovers...she returns to him ... him who gives himself to her mind, body and soul ... he who has yielded power and possession of self to her wants, desires and needs. There is power too for him in the knowledge his Mistress is indeed a women in control, she who uses and discards men to get her sexual needs met...he is does not get discarded, ergo he is special and precious to her...he provides for her what no other man can't/don't/won't.

In the 'Hot Wives' scenario, the requirement of a 'bull', ergo a bigger, better, more satisfying lover than the 'husband' who has to watch his/or is told in detail of the 'wife' having sex with another, a 'real man' and the 'husband' ultimately humiliated for his inadequecies, in this instance is moot.


I view cuckolding like you do Jasmyn. I have and have had cuckolds. I only have ONE. that's the only male in my life that's not replacable by any means. it's a special connection because they give you ultimate freedom while you give them ultimate denial.
my cuckold gets me ready for dates, he takes me shopping to have sexy things to wear when i go out, sometimes he will drive me and my boyfriend on our dates while he waits in the car (or if i'm in a really good mood i'll let him sit at a table across from us and eat alone.. although i still order for him).. he bathes me, pretty much everything. he's my alpha slave and is the one that is with me most (or 24/7).. often they will marry their mistress if she so chooses.

in a Goddess/slave relationship a cuckold is the Mistress' personal attendant- sort of like a chambermaid.

in a hot wife scenario like you described.. oftentimes it's the husband/cuck that wants to see his wife get fucked by bulls. and i do prefer Bull lovers i must admit.. i'm very dominant so it takes an even more aggressive dominant lover to have me sexually. that hot wife scenario is totally different than the sort of cuckolding practiced in BDSM. often that's their only kink and no other form of D/s comes into play.

in that case yes.. the woman would be the pawn.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 9:31:00 AM   
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Nice description.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 9:40:44 AM   
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Dear Mistresses,

I am just in awe at the knowledge here. I feel like I've been living under a rock when it comes to these subjects. Thank you all for your wisdom and fr taking the time to share.

Until then,

Nina

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 10:28:49 AM   
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quote:


EbonyFtshGoddess:
i'm very dominant so it takes an even more aggressive dominant lover to have me sexually.


I imagined a lioness, aggressively wanton, getting impregnated then discarding the male as inconsequential when I read that yum yum.  I love aggressive sex, but the way I see it the only requirements for aggression, are to procreate and to protect/provide … aggression at any other time is pointless and not conducive to harmony of self or others.   Hence enjoying sub men.
 
Nina your welcome
 
Proprietrix it was exactly that objectification of women in the ‘Hot Wives’ fantasy that isn’t allowed for in a d/s mistress/slave relationship. Namely that it implied a woman needed ‘real man’ to ‘get off’.  Below is a post on one idea of cuckolding and my response to it from a thread sometime ago.  It pretty much sums up experiences like yours and why HW from my point of view, in the scenario described, is polls apart from cuckolding. 
 
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“Forcing a man to watch while you make his wife come as you're fucking her like a whore is just one of life's visceral thrills. Making him clean her off afterwards is even better.” 

 Although it makes for a hot scene and its a fantasy of many I kind of find the idea of whoring myself on my back to fulfill someone else's visual fantasy a bit boring. It makes me want to question this notion a lot of men have that to be included in the cuckold equation the woman must be a screaming banshee in ecstasy begging for more of his big hot member because either God or fate has landed her with a worthless peewee matchstick between the legs and she's on heat from lack of sexual satisfaction and will beg and whore for the first decent cock offered to her. Not saying that this isn't a fantasy of cuckolding, but I kind of see it as two male (?) driven fantasies ... the cuckolds and men who enjoy playing the stud or bull...and it leaves me wondering where me and my desire to cuckold someone fits in? 

What I find hot is the 'stud' or 'bull' isn't doing the cuckolding...I am. I am in control of both of them (cuck and stud)...he is a means to an end and if it wasn't him it could easily be anyone else, and if he doesn't service me well or too my desire he'll end up in the predicament the cuckold is in.


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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 11:15:38 AM   
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I imagined a lioness, aggressively wanton, getting impregnated then discarding the male as inconsequential when I read that yum yum. I love aggressive sex, but the way I see it the only requirements for aggression, are to procreate and to protect/provide … aggression at any other time is pointless and not conducive to harmony of self or others. Hence enjoying sub men.




that's why i don't bed my slaves. why the hell would i want to hump a man that is LESS sexually dominant and agressive than me. it's just nature.. it's just darwinian. in sex (even in male on bottom sex).. it is still HE that is penetrating ME.. when i strapon fuck one of my slaves..lol they aren't saying they're fucking me.. it's OBVIOUS who's getting it. if i'm going to have sex with a man, and OBVIOUSLY i'd be the fuckee not the fucker.. then yes.. he better be a Real Man sexually- more dominant than me. so in that reason i like bull males.

lol but that's about it.

my slaves are my companions.

my Bulls are just a fuck. everyone gets what they want and everyone is happy. i have my  Bulls for a nice rough rubber fuck and then i have my slaves to rub my feet and paint my toenails..

it's the best of both worlds..




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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 12:32:41 PM   
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It should be pointed out that cuckolding can be, or not, related to the type of female dominance discussed here. An empowered and dominant female may prefer to be "used" by multiple males, in a variety of ways. Thats her choice and if its her call it doesnt lessen her or her role in bed or in life. All women have vastly more control then many give themselves credit for or utilize.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 12:55:49 PM   
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if you're refering to the "hot wife" scenario.. it's cuckolding none the less.. however like i said before.. more often than not it's the wife being encouraged by the male to take lovers.

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An empowered and dominant female may prefer to be "used" by multiple males, in a variety of ways.Thats her choice and if its her call it doesnt lessen her or her role in bed or in life.


i dont see where i implied that she can't. i said:

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in a hot wife scenario like you described.. oftentimes it's the husband/cuck that wants to see his wife get fucked by bulls.


oftentimes implies that more often than not from the cuckolding relationships where the female has other lovers.. usually from my experience it's the husband initiating it. it's like a swinging couple with a twist. but it's still cuckolding. a woman becomes a pawn when she's doing it for the cuckold's enjoyment.. and instead of her own.





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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 3:20:09 PM   
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I've noticed that too.  USUALLY, being cuckolded is the male's idea.

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ORIGINAL: EbonyFtshGoddess

however like i said before.. more often than not it's the wife being encouraged by the male to take lovers.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 3:40:58 PM   
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I really enjoy cuckolding. It's a fetish that I savor and when I have a cuckolding scene planned I look forward to it for days in advance. Everyone does it differently, of course, here's my particular brand...

I have a date planned on Saturday, a romantic evening with a new lover. I call the cuckold
and inform him that on Saturday night I would like a very romantic evening, I tell him what restaurant I want to have dinner in and what time. I also give him the name and phone number of the man (for purposes of simplicity he will be called "the man" from here on out) I will be seeing that evening. The cuck will call the restaurant and make the reservation, I have had cucks that have gotten intricate with this step and had requested a special table, flowers or extra candles. The cuck will then call the man and inform him of my specific taste in flowers, and ask if there's anything he can do to help him prepare for the date (clean his car, purchase the flowers, etc...)

On Saturday, the cuck will come to my home and prepare me for a special evening. Whether he does these things himself or pays for and accompanies me to a salon to have them done depends on my assessment of his skill level, but I have a mani/pedi and massage as well as having my hair done. He will help me bathe, shave/wax as the case may be, dress and apply makeup as well. He will greet the man at the door, take his coat, offer him a refreshment and then announce to me that my date has arrived. Once we have left for the evening, the cuck will then prepare my bedroom for our return. He lights candles, turns on music, dims the lights, changes the sheets on the bed, puts out flowers and flower petals, massage oils, and condoms. He prepares a plate of fresh fruit and an ice bucket with bottled water. He will then prepare a mat by the side of the bed and lying on the mat will be a blindfold, gates of hell, and hand cuffs. Lastly, he kneels by the door and awaits my return.

When we enter he stands and takes our coats. He follows us to the living room and offers drinks. Kneels by the entrance to the room, and waits for any orders. When we retire to the bedroom he follows us and takes his place kneeling on the mat by the bed he puts himself into the gates of hell and waits for orders. Depending on the comfort level of the man, I will use the cuck as a fluffer for the man. This may be before or after he's blindfolded. Or I might not use the blindfold. I cuff the cuck and have him kneel on the mat while we fuck. He listens and maybe is allowed to watch. He is exposed to my sexuality, witnessing the intensity and seeing/hearing my gratification without being allowed to experience or feel it. He is a part of it without being able to touch, cause or effect it. Verbal humiliation is especially effective when used at this very heated point. When finished he cleans the both of us up, and offers us the refreshments he's set out. When I give him the word he then assists the man in dressing and escorts him to the door. He will then return to the bedroom and if I'm still awake then he will kneel on his mat and we will discuss the evening. If I'm sleeping he'll curl up on his mat and sleep.

In my experience it's about my ability and desire to flaunt my sexuality, tease, deny and humiliate the cuck. It's also about his inferiority and inability to please me sexually. The many layers of humiliation are evident. It has the ability to be a very powerful scene, and can have an exreme effect on a cuck that you have a strong emotional bond with.





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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 4:36:09 PM   
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This is all great infomation but do any of you make the cuck get the bull ready like a fluffer in a porn  movie

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 4:47:59 PM   
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quote:

I've noticed that too. USUALLY, being cuckolded is the male's idea.


i agree.. i was telling my cuckold candidate some of my past cuckolding experiences. and he was shocked to find out that some men actually approach me for me to like have a *fuck quota*.. or like many random sex partners.. which is simply not the way my sex life works.

there are definitely several cuckolding paths.. the hot wife path (typically the husbands choosing and the wife like either does it because she wants to or because she doesn't want him straying or some convoluted bullshit)..

there is the Mistress/slave path.. the way i go.. where the cuckold is more of a companion typically (but not always).. like a personal attendant of sorta that also does the cleaning and yes, fluffing if required, of her male lovers.. he doesnt have to be there or not.. but with the hot wife scenario.. typically the husband wants to see his white wife with black bulls and definitely in front of him. a cuckolded slave doesn't put stipulations or limitations on the sort of lovers that his mistress takes.

then there is the *vanilla* version of cuckolding.. where the woman just makes it clear that she is going to do what she wants and he better accept it or lose her. rather than lose her entirely he just accepts it... there is little to no bdsm in this sort of involvement.. or it's something that's mutually agreed upon in the beginning


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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 4:56:00 PM   
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ahhhh finally cuckolding categorized.  and so so so true.  my husband is my cuck but he is more of a tweener of the categories.  Was his idea but he likes his with some bdsm on the side.

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RE: What is cuckold? - 4/24/2006 5:07:22 PM   
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although i have one question:  i've seen some cuckold sites where there is some SERIOUS hardcore bdsm involvment and the woman claim these men are thier husbands.  Doesn't it kind of negate the "caring loving" aspect of the normal relationship or cause murky situations?

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