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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
Why does the female always have to make nice?

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ORIGINAL: Icarys
Simpler isn't needed..smaller would be nice.
I guess it was the idea that you brought someone else into the mix and you guys had a laugh together that felt dirty to me.
The problem with fences is that they tend to keep you hidden..What's wrong with crying?
Your essentially trading one hurt for another one of a different kind instead of dealing with why some stranger can hurt your feelings.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys
I guess it was the idea that you brought someone else into the mix and you guys had a laugh together that felt dirty to me.

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ORIGINAL: VMLoki

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

So why cant men stop being jerks? How about we stop being bitter, when we get treated with more respect?

Why does the female always have to make nice?

I don't know but I'd consider making sexist comments like such pretty rude and jerk-ish.

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ORIGINAL: Twoshoes

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19
Why does the female always have to make nice?

Why are generalizations so easy to refute? And why do you make so many of them?

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Icarys, I agree, most of the posts haven't been concise. This thread is contains badly presented logical arguments and assumptions about groups of unknown people based on sentiments.

However, you've often restated others' arguments before addressing them, analyzed their presentation and made comments about your own thought process. The need to control the format of this discussion may be distracting your readers from your actual viewpoints.

[Takes off serious hat]
Poise, that wasn't very rude at all - roll-eyes, at best.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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I cannot control the fucked up mental cases with severe personality disorders that run rampant all over the internet. Considering that, I absolutely will NOT hand over control of my emotions, to those fucked up mental cases with severe personality disorders.

I think that's essentially what some are doing by closing down profiles or refusing to answer emails.

Thinking of it from a standpoint of trying to find a mate..This site would suck sincerely if this caught on as the proper way to handle the situation. Hell it's hard enough finding compatible mates as it is for most people. At least that's what i hear all the time.

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However, you've often restated others' arguments before addressing them, analyzed their presentation and made comments about your own thought process. The need to control the format of this discussion may be distracting your readers from your actual viewpoints.

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I've yet to close my profile and I answer almost every rational email I get. I remain open minded to the sanity and sincerity of those that contact me until they prove to be putzes. None of those things requires me to become emotionally invested in nutcases. It is quite simple, until someone gives me a solid reason to engage my emotions, I don't.

I can laugh, exchange pleasantries, have fun, learn, get to know new and interesting people, people I might even want to meet in person. But until I reach a certain point of trusting that person with my emotions, they are not getting anywhere near them. If no one is willing to do the time to get my trust, then it's their problem, not mine.

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Wait....are you referring to the guy who wrote her on an "owned, happily in an LTR, seeking friends only" profile with an explicit suggestion involving shit, piss, bestiality, prostitution and child molestation?

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

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Wait....are you referring to the guy who wrote her on an "owned, happily in an LTR, seeking friends only" profile with an explicit suggestion involving shit, piss, bestiality, prostitution and child molestation?

What are you talking about..and don't call me bub.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

..especially when I see bullshit like she said.

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ORIGINAL: LadyNTrainer

You do want to make friends in your new town, so you start talking with people about stuff you're interested in.  Sports, hiking, news and politics, your favorite hobby, etc.  Whatever actually does interest you.  But almost every single time you try to start a conversation, the guy talking to you totally ignores everything you actually said and propositions you.  Generally he does it in a way that makes it clear that he was not listening to a word you said.  You might have even been talking about how much you love your wife, but the first thing out of his mouth after you finish talking is, "Hi, are you single? I'm single, and I'm interested."  Or you might have been talking about your experiences in Alcoholics Anonymous, but when you get done talking, he asks if you guys can go to a bar for a drink and to get to know each other better.

It is nearly impossible to have a normal human conversation with any of these people you try to relate to.  They ignore everything you say and any overtures of friendship, but they keep trying to talk to you solely for the purpose of getting sex or kinky play.  Nobody wants to talk to you as a person or cares what you have to say.  They ignore everything you actually say, but they ask if you want to date them or have sex with them.  Many of them are not all that explicit in their propositions, but some of them are, and a few get really aggressive and angry when you say no. 

Years of this go by, and this is the standard treatment you get from almost everyone in this town you try to communicate with socially. After awhile, how do you think this would impact you?

It's like...going to a ballroom expecting to dance...but each smiling male who approaches asks for a quick f*** and beating in the back room instead of a dance.  Complete with dick pix and butthole shots with dildos stuck inside to entice me.   

Ah...here comes my next dance partner.

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ORIGINAL: Icarys

I surely don't remember any of that stuff in there..Where is that..I went to look for it.