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WolfyMontgomery -> RE: The rise of teens and 20 something on here (10/18/2010 8:12:58 PM)
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ORIGINAL: daddysprop247
so, if there is any downside to the abundance of younger folks entering the lifestyle, it would be that...a whole lot more kink, and a whole lot less everyday living and being.
I wouldn't say that necessarily. Most of the young people (including me, har har) I've met who are interested in the lifestyle are just that - interested in the lifestyle. Heck, in the two years that I've been submissive and then slave to Master, we've focused almost entirely on the relationship between the two of us and how we live - he still doesn't like using some toys or bondage rope unless we're in public dungeons, because he wants an overseer there to make sure he's doing it right, because he's used them so little in kinky play that he's uncomfortable trusting himself with those implements yet.
In fact, in most play parties Master and I have been to that are purely about the kink, we always feel awkward because we're always the youngest ones there lol!
To the OP:
Hmm... I guess since I'm 21 I can't possibly know what I really want. I suppose I should just drop my slave act and make Master (oh, who's also wrong too, since he's only 24) be my vanilla boyfriend until I'm thirty... Har har har.
Okay... sarcasm aside, it doesn't take a specific age to decide whether or not someone really knows what they want or not. All it takes is a sense of self, a bit of maturity, a willingness to learn and KEEP learning, and enough common sense to know that even though things change you know what makes you feel good and are honest with your feelings. I have seen people much younger than me show more maturity and a sense of self than my own father, who's 55.
Granted, there are plenty of "Master" boys out there that I have no choice but to laugh at because they expect respect just because they had that title, but there are plenty of "Master" men out there who do the same thing. In fact, I've always thought that the older ones (not all older ones, just the ones that apply to this example of name-pastey "I'm this kiss my feet" types) are much worse and more annoying, because they try to use the "I'm older than you so what I say goes" card without giving a good reason beyond that for why I should listen to them.
My 24 year old Master is called Master because I felt he deserved the title. We worked together and learned about each other and built up our relationship over the course of two years, went from experimenting to living as Dom and sub to living as Master and slave. We learned with each other and learned what we were comfortable with and what made us happy, and as each step gave us more joy, we went deeper and deeper into our M/s relationship. So yeah, I don't think I'm wrong for calling him Master, and I don't think I'm wrong for calling myself a slave, because I've grown into it and live it.
Pulling the "age" card has always only succeeded in killing any and all respect for you almost instantly, because age does not denote maturity or wisdom. It suggests, but if they can't show that they are mature or wise (like the only reason why I'm apparently wrong is not backed up by any proof but just because they're "older and know better") then I won't think of them as such.
There are many older people though that Master and I totally respect because they HAVE shown us that they are mature and wise and have so much to teach us. And I have never heard ANY of them pull the "age" card to win an argument, not once (okay... once, but that was because he was trying to get an 11 year old to see common sense, who refused to see said common sense lol). They give people the facts that they know, they share their experience for why they think a person is wrong, they share the knowledge they know. It's these people that I look up to, respect, and learn from the most, because they just have that much more to teach.
It also tends to be those sorts of people that are the most supportive of young people in the lifestyle, I've found. Maybe because it means that many more people TO teach and share their experiences with. (And you all know who you are, those of you that are on collarme and are reading this post) ;)
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