Atropos19
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The thing that really takes me aback about this whole debate, is the hostility I sense from some posters. Being an overweight man, I'm accustomed to a certain degree of contempt, scorn, dismissal, etc. But anger? Is there something about me (and others) being fat that actually pisses people off? Or is it just when we dare to stand up and challenge others' assumptions that the claws come out? Take juju's statement about "eating as many candy bars as you like and never breaking a sweat" (and this is in no way intended as a personal attack, I'm just using this quote as a case in point): I don't sit around eating candy all the time, and I don't know of any overweight person that does. Now maybe she was just joking, but even if so, I have to wonder how much truth is lurking below the surface there. Is this really the image she (and others) have of people like me? You know, I was watching a movie the other day (a cinematic masterpiece by the name of "Gamer," starring Gerard Butler of "This... Is... SPAR-TUH!!!" fame). In this film is a scene of (and yes, even I can admit it) a disgustingly fat man, sitting alone in a dark room, looking greasy and covered with sweat, eating a pair of syrup-soaked waffles with his bare hands. Is that really what people think we do? I can't count the number of times I've watched a movie or TV show that featured an overweight person sitting down to eat with other people... the other people are never eating, while the overweight man has ten plates spread out in front of him. I can't speak for anyone else, but I've never in my life eaten ten plates of anything at a sitting, nor even half that many, much less had them all spread out before me at the same time. (The fat man also usually wears a bib that is comically too small for him... don't ask me what that's about). I see something like that, and I think... really? Is this what people imagine when they see me walking down the street? I'm heavyset. That's the way it is. Does that mean I'm not fit to be a good boyfriend, a good Domme, or a good... anything, except perhaps a personal trainer? I don't think so, at least no more than any number of other unhealthy or self-destructive habits. Others, of course, are free to think differently. I do want to address one more thing... this issue that I supposedly think that I'm "entitled" to have women that I'm attracted to, be attracted to me. I said that? Seriously? No. What I said was, I resent people dismissing me out of hand because of my weight, whether romantically, socially, or in any other context. I think I (and most others) deserve better. Is that really so threatening? Yet somehow this is interpreted as me believing that I'm entitled to have nubile damsels falling at my feet. I just don't understand how people think, sometimes. *shakes head*
< Message edited by Atropos19 -- 12/5/2010 11:12:12 PM >
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