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lizi -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 11:09:41 AM)
Ok, I'm speaking for my kind Sir but I feel that I can give an accurate answer to this question on his behalf. He loves it when I take pictures of myself with the cam and send them to him on the computer. I do the whole thing- hair, makeup, gloves, matching outfit, jewelry, etc. We both have an strong interest in arty type things so the little details I plan for each session are important and actually it's what means to the most to him. He sees the effort I've put into pleasing him and it therefore pleases him greatly. It doesn't take that much time to do it. Get your stuff on and try out things in front of the cam. Unusual views or poses, cropping, using props, vary the light...whatever you can think of. He prefers artful shots with some skin but not explicit nudity. For him it's not about the gynecological shot, it's about making him want to see more. The cool thing is I'm in front of my own cam, I know what I look like and what I ahem, might like to hide, so I pose in ways that make me feel beautiful instead of in ways that emphasize my flaws. I then send these pictures one or two at a time throughout the day with little messages..thinking of you, can't wait till you get home, hit this (just kidding), etc. He is very touched I'd go out of my way to do something that is meant strictly for his eyes only, and I love it that he reacts so positively to my offering...win win. I've got an awesome idea for Christmas that I'm going to try to do this next week involving red velvet gloves, a large roll of wide velvet ribbon, sparkly rhinestone earrings, shiny red lipstick, a string of pearls, and I'd like to try to throw up a colored backdrop of some kind. I'm tired of my bed looking the same in the background. For a future session I found a red brocade oriental top with a cut out over the top of the breasts that I'm going to use with a pencil skirt and a spiky hair style...you get the idea. I enjoy finding creative ways to put a 'collar' on my neck in these pictures with various types and textures of ribbon or other found objects. The props you use can represent things meaningful to the both of you. This is a lot of fun, try it [:)]

DesFIP -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 2:10:42 PM)
He likes a homemade apple pie. And freshly baked cookies. I need to make biscotti, speaking of which. We're out. The point being that he likes having his favorite things. Which means me sorting his socks for him, and picking up the dirty ones because if I waited for him to do it, he'd need to buy new ones every week. A cup of tea when he comes in from working outside, or a glass of cold water. It isn't the big things that stand out, it's doing the small ones, day after day so he doesn't have to.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 3:46:41 PM)
When I was married, my routine at night was set up his coffee so it was ready when he woke up (he usually woke up at 4 am to do blueprints before even going to work.) His clothes were pressed and laid out for him shoes and socks included(he was color blind) and while he ate out he still had a lunch prepared because he worked 14+ hour days. Meals were arranged around his preferences and work schedule and ready to be served when he came home. Kids knew to give him hugs when he came home and then "down time" to relax. Bills were prepared, checks written out, but the date due and amount written in pencil on the back of the stamped envelope because he made the decisions what was paid and when, it was just ready to be mailed once he gave the ok. These were just some of the things that were done, because it made his life easier, and that was my 'job'. I even took Belly Dancing lessons. Went to classes at the church on how to be a good wife. That was just in my vanilla marriage. I guess I should have been doing it all naked for it to qualify as D/s [:D]

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 3:53:05 PM)
What my best friend did for her husband after she lost a lot of weight. She went and had some very risque pictures taken, then she had them hidden in the middle of his favorite bathroom reading material as a surprise. He loved them! Of course, he went and beat up the photographer and got the negatives (true story) but he loved the pictures.

Jaybeee -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 5:36:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss take a cooking class learn to give a massage make him a quilt write him a story put together a play c.d. of good music rent a sexy video and practice various scenes give a dramatic reading change the oil in his car plant and care for a lilac bush take a pottery class and make him a coffee mug learn several ways to tie a tie make home made ice cream get him tickets to his favorite team - learn about it and accompany him beat his pants off at poker prepare and serve a traditional Victorian meal paint a picture for him have discreet yet erotic photos of you taken donate to his favorite charity - time, talent, and money laugh at his jokes ... just off the top of my head... Slave-girl, most of the above suggestions are quite a good start, but you must tailor them to your Master. For example, what flavour is his fave ice cream? Does he think much of charity at all? Does he mind you messing with his car, and if so, is he ok with you getting the oil changed at a mechanics? A few from myself; Offer to cut my toe/fingernails; List+memorise my favourite beers/wines/spirits; Learn to type, if you don't already know, it will make it quicker for you to note what he wants; Ask him what his darkest fantasies are, and be prepared to fulfil them; Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; Suggest kneeling to him in public areas, say when you're out having Saturday morning coffee with him; giving him ideas on dominating you is very pleasing to us, do it as often as he permits; Drop him emails from time to time detailing what you love about being his slave. Being WILLING to serve is the most important part, and you already have that; now you need to find out about him. Don't be afraid to approach him, pen and paper visibly at hand, and ask him if now is a good time to write down all those projects you could do for him, or later. A good Master rewards initiative I would dispense with the lilac bush, however, that seems to me more like what the above slave wants for herself, not the Master.

Xiansjade -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 5:56:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance What my best friend did for her husband after she lost a lot of weight. She went and had some very risque pictures taken, then she had them hidden in the middle of his favorite bathroom reading material as a surprise. He loved them! Of course, he went and beat up the photographer and got the negatives (true story) but he loved the pictures. i would love to do this, and W/we will be in Hawaii for about a month and a half, where being topless on the beach is legal. Perhaps some good shots can be had when i am tan, and not a hideous pasty color!

Xiansjade -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 5:59:10 PM)
Thank Y/you all for the wonderful suggestions, and i will try all of them. Master will hopefully see me Sunday, and i will ask Him about more then if possible. i am thankful for Y/your help, and please have a blessed holiday season! ~jade

sunshinemiss -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 7:04:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jaybeee quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss take a cooking class learn to give a massage make him a quilt write him a story put together a play c.d. of good music rent a sexy video and practice various scenes give a dramatic reading change the oil in his car plant and care for a lilac bush take a pottery class and make him a coffee mug learn several ways to tie a tie make home made ice cream get him tickets to his favorite team - learn about it and accompany him beat his pants off at poker prepare and serve a traditional Victorian meal paint a picture for him have discreet yet erotic photos of you taken donate to his favorite charity - time, talent, and money laugh at his jokes ... just off the top of my head... Slave-girl, most of the above suggestions are quite a good start, but you must tailor them to your Master. For example, what flavour is his fave ice cream? Does he think much of charity at all? Does he mind you messing with his car, and if so, is he ok with you getting the oil changed at a mechanics? A few from myself; Offer to cut my toe/fingernails; List+memorise my favourite beers/wines/spirits; Learn to type, if you don't already know, it will make it quicker for you to note what he wants; Ask him what his darkest fantasies are, and be prepared to fulfil them; Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; Suggest kneeling to him in public areas, say when you're out having Saturday morning coffee with him; giving him ideas on dominating you is very pleasing to us, do it as often as he permits; Drop him emails from time to time detailing what you love about being his slave. Being WILLING to serve is the most important part, and you already have that; now you need to find out about him. Don't be afraid to approach him, pen and paper visibly at hand, and ask him if now is a good time to write down all those projects you could do for him, or later. A good Master rewards initiative I would dispense with the lilac bush, however, that seems to me more like what the above slave wants for herself, not the Master. Jaybee, I'm not a slave. I'd appreciate if you used my name. It is sunshine or sunshinemiss. Every suggestion I came up with is from a man I've been involved with or one of my friends has. In case you weren't aware, there are actually men who enjoy gardening. Not every "good master" rewards initiative. And you would seriously subject other people to your kink? When I'm at Starbucks, I sure don't want to see some fool kneeling and looking at the floor while I'm having my cup of java. Neither does my mother, or my friend, or the Starbucks personnel. Have a problem with presumptions there, don't you? Jade - the most important thing... don't leave your brain at the door. Seriously. sunshine

KatyLied -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 7:58:41 PM)
quote: Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; rolls eyes

WolfyMontgomery -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 8:51:47 PM)
quote: KatyLied quote: Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; rolls eyes I was thinking that too. When Master's pissed, he wants me to meet his eye, so that I can know exactly what's going on in his head and how serious he is. Feet don't tell you that as well. That's one of those things that is unique between the individuals in the relationship - not a universal. Different Masters like things differently - never good to assume. One good Master might like the slave to think of new things and do them, another good Master would call that "topping from the bottom", and still others just prefer to have their slaves micro-managed and don't like surprises. Proactive slaves or those who take initiative can be good, but it's always good to talk to him about it first. OH. And Xiansjade - if you're worried about being pale and that being a turn off... I'm pale as sin yet with the proper lighting I look like a soft milky vampiress. Sexy as I am pale: it's a sin to be this hawt ;P Don't let your lighter complexion get in the way of that sorta thing. After all, you're pale and he loves you now - he'd probably like any pictures you gave him, snow white or black as pitch (body paint is sexy too).

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/3/2010 9:10:41 PM)
We think its is really sexy, even if the slave isn't in a sexual relationship with Us, to whisper, "Please hurt it, Ma'am". :-) Master Fire Side note: Not all Masters are male... and not all slaves are female.

Jaybeee -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 1:33:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss quote: ORIGINAL: Jaybeee quote: ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss take a cooking class learn to give a massage make him a quilt write him a story put together a play c.d. of good music rent a sexy video and practice various scenes give a dramatic reading change the oil in his car plant and care for a lilac bush take a pottery class and make him a coffee mug learn several ways to tie a tie make home made ice cream get him tickets to his favorite team - learn about it and accompany him beat his pants off at poker prepare and serve a traditional Victorian meal paint a picture for him have discreet yet erotic photos of you taken donate to his favorite charity - time, talent, and money laugh at his jokes ... just off the top of my head... Slave-girl, most of the above suggestions are quite a good start, but you must tailor them to your Master. For example, what flavour is his fave ice cream? Does he think much of charity at all? Does he mind you messing with his car, and if so, is he ok with you getting the oil changed at a mechanics? A few from myself; Offer to cut my toe/fingernails; List+memorise my favourite beers/wines/spirits; Learn to type, if you don't already know, it will make it quicker for you to note what he wants; Ask him what his darkest fantasies are, and be prepared to fulfil them; Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; Suggest kneeling to him in public areas, say when you're out having Saturday morning coffee with him; giving him ideas on dominating you is very pleasing to us, do it as often as he permits; Drop him emails from time to time detailing what you love about being his slave. Being WILLING to serve is the most important part, and you already have that; now you need to find out about him. Don't be afraid to approach him, pen and paper visibly at hand, and ask him if now is a good time to write down all those projects you could do for him, or later. A good Master rewards initiative I would dispense with the lilac bush, however, that seems to me more like what the above slave wants for herself, not the Master. Jaybee, I'm not a slave. I'd appreciate if you used my name. It is sunshine or sunshinemiss. Every suggestion I came up with is from a man I've been involved with or one of my friends has. In case you weren't aware, there are actually men who enjoy gardening. Not every "good master" rewards initiative. And you would seriously subject other people to your kink? When I'm at Starbucks, I sure don't want to see some fool kneeling and looking at the floor while I'm having my cup of java. Neither does my mother, or my friend, or the Starbucks personnel. Have a problem with presumptions there, don't you? No I don't. You do. You presume I'm going to give a flying fuck what a bunch of housewives think.

allthatjaz -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 3:23:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I heard there's this trick a woman can do with a golf ball that men find rather fascinating, although I imagine it takes lots of practice to 'spit' one out at any great distance. Thats one of my old party tricks but its pingpong balls! They are much lighter and don't kill the Dom when they hit him[:D]

Owlet -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 4:14:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jaybeee Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; Suggest kneeling to him in public areas, say when you're out having Saturday morning coffee with him; giving him ideas on dominating you is very pleasing to us, do it as often as he permits Pfffft. I think my Master would be quite upset if I insisted on public displays of our private rituals. We often fantasize about what it might be like, in a different world, to have him walk me about town on my leash. But to actually do something like that? No, thanks. I won't be shoving my personal preferences down other peoples throats unasked. I'm not going to cause a child to have to ask their parent what the hell that crazy woman is doing crawling around on all fours like a puppy. [:D] If I upset him in public I might certainly take a meek stance and attitude, and there would certainly be kneeling and groveling at home. But until consensual slavery is legalized (lulz), or at least mainstreamed, this sort of thing should be left to the realm of fantasy.

sunshinemiss -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 5:10:48 AM)
I always appreciate when jackasses put a big flashing neon sign over their heads that says "I'm a jackass." It makes things so easy. Thank you.

KatyLied -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 5:52:34 AM)
slavegirl housewife, please kneel for those rude remarks, and do not meet my eyes. [:D]

RapierFugue -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 5:53:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: allthatjaz quote: ORIGINAL: WinsomeDefiance I heard there's this trick a woman can do with a golf ball that men find rather fascinating, although I imagine it takes lots of practice to 'spit' one out at any great distance. Thats one of my old party tricks but its pingpong balls! They are much lighter and don't kill the Dom when they hit him[:D] lol! Fore! [;)]

Jaybeee -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 5:58:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Owlet quote: ORIGINAL: Jaybeee Whenever he seems in any way dissatisfied/angry/upset etc with you, KNEEL IMMEDIATELY, regardless of location/circumstance, and look up at him only when ordered to do so; Suggest kneeling to him in public areas, say when you're out having Saturday morning coffee with him; giving him ideas on dominating you is very pleasing to us, do it as often as he permits Pfffft. I think my Master would be quite upset if I insisted on public displays of our private rituals. We often fantasize about what it might be like, in a different world, to have him walk me about town on my leash. But to actually do something like that? No, thanks. I won't be shoving my personal preferences down other peoples throats unasked. I'm not going to cause a child to have to ask their parent what the hell that crazy woman is doing crawling around on all fours like a puppy. [:D] If I upset him in public I might certainly take a meek stance and attitude, and there would certainly be kneeling and groveling at home. But until consensual slavery is legalized (lulz), or at least mainstreamed, this sort of thing should be left to the realm of fantasy. Your Master has his own unique set of likes/dislikes in his dominion, and I respect that in any man. But with that vanilla attitude, you wouldn't ever even be considered to become a slave of MINE, and that's the difference between he and I, and no slur whatsoever on the man. Tell him I said it was interesting chatting with his slave.

masterlink65 -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 6:13:28 AM)
That is simple,,,,,, a slave just has to do what i say. Not just in the bedroom, servitude and loyalty 100%.

kyraofMists -> RE: Kind Sirs, what Are Your favorite ways to be served? (12/4/2010 6:15:12 AM)
quote: Kindest gentle Sirs Ok this made me laugh and please do not take offense jade as it is a recent joke in our house. There is nothing 'gentle' about my Lord; he is a sadistic asshole that takes great pleasure in not being gentle. A couple nights ago, after he gives me permission to sleep with him, he tells me that he received an email from someone with a nick with the word 'gentle' in it asking for his advice and ideas. I laughed and laughed; I must have laughed for twenty minutes over the idea of someone mistaking him for 'gentle'. Then when Alandra came to be and we told her, I laughed some more. His favorite thing, is for Alandra and I to be true to who we are; which could be laughing at the ridiculous notion that he is gentle. All three of us have a very sarcastic sense of humour and bringing laughter to our lives is something the three of us enjoy. One of his favorite things to do is to turn to one of us and say "I don't like her". The is his version of "I love you". This morning as he was walking out the door, he says to me "I don't like her", referring to Alandra because she had made some smart ass comment. As I shut the door, Alandra is there beaming and says "I just got an 'I love you'" My suggestion... be who you are and allow life to be fun. Knight's Kyra

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