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Farido -> Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:02:42 PM)

Hello everyone. I am a dom/master man and have been enjoying this life style with sub and slave women for a couple of years. All of them where pretty pre-educated or experienced. It was fun but not long term.

I recently posted an ad somewhere looking for a true sub/slave for 24/7 long-term-commitment. One of the responses was very interesting and I want to stick to that girl but need your kind help.

She is 19 and virgin. Never had a boyfriend and openly asked me to show her the way and teach her to be my sub. We agreed to keep our new relationship on online-chatting (and on the phones) until she feels safe and comfortable enough to meet in person (after my permission of course).  We have been together for a few weeks now doing Q&As and she is very obedient so far in committing to our chatting on time and answering all my questions.


Now I need your help of how to take it a step further (still online and on the phone) in starting giving her Assignments and Tasks to do while incorporating the teaching element in between.


Your help and guidance will be greatly appreciated. Again my friends, it is about starting online Assignments and Tasks until I can say that she is really my obedient sub enough to meet in person. She is very sexual but still at the "careful stage" due to lack of knowledge and training. I'm talking here about ending with a full sub/dom 24/7  commitment.


Thank you so much in advance.








AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:14:40 PM)

How you are going to teach her when neither of you know each other well to meet in person? My humble opinion - get her to get involved in her local community so that she can find people who will know all of her, not just what she projects through the Internet. Even if she isn't doing it deliberately, people can come across quite differently.

ETA: Plus that way she exposed to the knowledge of multiple ways instead of "the" way. Always a good thing to know the many different ways something can be done, in my opinion, be it painting, writing, mechanics or our lifestyles.



Farido -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:24:42 PM)

Thanks for the reply. I agree with you on "ways" rather than "the way".. but when you start new school education with a 1st grade child you can't give him/her more than one way to start with until he/she feels they like it and likes you as a teacher. If you succeed in that then you can go stages with the students into other ways, one at a time to understand and digest it, and so on.

So for me now it is like I am with a first time school student who must like his/her teacher so he/she can like the topic before we go on higher grades.

You can throw a 1st grade student into a high school part,, can you?





Farido -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:27:04 PM)

sorry for the typo.

The last line should read as:

"You can't throw a 1st grade student into a high school party and ask him/her to ask and learn,, can you?




AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:36:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Farido

sorry for the typo.

The last line should read as:

"You can't throw a 1st grade student into a high school party and ask him/her to ask and learn,, can you?




Asking someone to go to a munch is in no way comparable to taking an elementary school child and throwing them into high school, let alone a party. I have yet to attend an open invite kink event that didn't have people there to explain everything to newcomers and make them feel comfortable and at ease.

The fact that you think encouraging them to get active and meet other people would be such a thing is a red flag to me in general and in particular you as a teacher to a newcomer. Let's be clear - not everyone is comfy with events. But this is someone you haven't even met. Have you even sent her over to the forums to read and talk to others or do you just want this 19 year old virgin (why that is even relevant I don't know) to get all her info from you?



tazzygirl -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:43:15 PM)

19 and a virgin?



Farido -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:44:02 PM)

Thank you once more for the effort.

My main point where I need help is still:
((( Can you help in designing  beginner Assignments and Tasks for a new online submissive wannabe (under training) ?)))) 






AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:45:14 PM)

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

19 and a virgin?


I didn't get rid of mine till then. [:)]



tazzygirl -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:45:38 PM)

She just did. A munch is a perfect assignment.



tazzygirl -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:46:56 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

19 and a virgin?


I didn't get rid of mine till then. [:)]



Didnt say it wasnt possible... lol



AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:47:15 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Farido

Thank you once more for the effort.

My main point where I need help is still:
((( Can you help in designing  beginner Assignments and Tasks for a new online submissive wannabe (under training) ?)))) 






Task her with going to the munch.
Assign her reading two sub v. slave threads from start to finish and write an essay on the main points of the debate.
Task her with getting in touch with the local community, finding her local groups on Fetlife and posting an intro.
Assign her finding out the rules, protocols and standards of behavior of her local play clubs - if they have social areas, etc.

Seriously, this isn't hard. Why don't you task her with getting out and learning? And, for that matter, why do you keep insulting her by calling her a wannabe? What kind of teacher are you?



Lockit -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:50:06 PM)

You lost me at chatting for a few weeks, true sub, wannabe and giving her Assignments and Tasks to do while incorporating the teaching element in between.

I'd want to teach you a thing or two before I let you at a virgin 19 year old. Don't ask why... you won't like my answers.





AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:50:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Didnt say it wasnt possible... lol


I did try... Just the stupid boys either didn't turn me on or weren't willing to go get a condom! *le sigh* Silly high school boys...



Kana -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:52:21 PM)

McFly, McFly



tazzygirl -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:53:33 PM)

I lost mine at 13... and we were together for 4 years.

Its just that i often see girls saying that... 19 and a virgin. Many i have discovered through time were "technical" virgins, or 40ish year old bored housewives.



AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:54:53 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

McFly, McFly


I'd have gone for Marty if he'd pinned me against the wall. [:D]



tazzygirl -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:55:48 PM)

ooooooo pinned against the wall, hands molding.... stop that AS!



AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 10:57:34 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Its just that i often see girls saying that... 19 and a virgin. Many i have discovered through time were "technical" virgins, or 40ish year old bored housewives.


*laughs* Yeah, I see that too. Though in my case it was quite true. I never gave head till after I got rid of my virginity, I gave one guy a crappy, nervous handjob once in the dark beforehand and never really saw a penis otherwise though I did get a boyfriend off through his clothes several times. I dunno how un-virgin that made me. [:D]

Edited cause I fucking hate the phrase "lost my virginity" and am determined to stop using it. I didn't misplace the damn thing, I know exactly where it went!



Lockit -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 11:01:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

McFly, McFly


I'd have gone for Marty if he'd pinned me against the wall. [:D]



What? Time travel wasn't good enough for you? Picky woman! lol



AquaticSub -> RE: Masters please help. Training fresh young sub-wannabe (12/13/2010 11:03:51 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

ooooooo pinned against the wall, hands molding.... stop that AS!


Mmmm.... Ok, now I'm going to what I wanted to have happen in high school. Shoved up against the lockers after school, "The Power of Love" playing somehow in the background while he goes for the hem of one of those itty-bitty skirts I loved so much back then...

Tazzy, sweetie, I love you but I'm not stopping this train of thought anytime soon. [:D]



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