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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 12/29/2010 7:16:09 PM

kdsusa7894

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I haven't yet submitted but for me it has to be the person as a whole, the personality and the trust and the knowledge that I would be in a better place if I did. And the teeth, anywhere on the neck...

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 12/30/2010 12:03:52 AM

CherryNeko

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Of course I very much like him as a person, but well... submission alone?

First of all, I have to say I usually submit to whom I really like. You have this feeling, like you really want to fit in, even if you know you already do. It's easier to submit when you can't get tired of that person and the way they interact with you. Also, I find it is a better choice for me to submit and concentrate in order to reach deeper meaning, than just to keep reminding myself not to act submissive, and lose thread of the relationship, and end up frustrated and tired. I am submissive by nature.

Of course, he does not only have to inspire me an 'I want to be with you' feeling. He has to prove he is capable of handling US BOTH. So I really made an effort while thinking it out, and I think it is mainly that when he proves to be in charge, he makes it good for both of us. I can decide not to submit, but then I wouldn't be able to (insert amazing experience here).

Often, he reads me perfectly, so he must pay extreme attention, or how else would he do that...
He provides charming aftercare.
He never annoys me, so he reinforces my need to please him.
He doesn't lie to me.
He is respectful.
He knows our places.
He stops when I ask him to.
He is sincere and open about himself.
He listens if I think he is mistaken.
He has worked to earn my favor: I am certain that if he insists on something I am not convinced about, it will be fine. Why else would he insist?

I want to submit because I know he is the one I can trust with this. He is qualified, in other words. It's going to feel amazing, he will stop if I ask him to, he will give us a good show, and he can handle it. It will be fine.

If not, there wouldn't be a next time. Now that, would be unfortunate for both of us.

(I wrote it trying to be objective, but he's my boyfriend, so... I warn you).

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 12/30/2010 12:06:55 AM

CherryNeko

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Your signature is just... lovely!

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/3/2011 11:29:22 AM

littleone35

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What Makes me want to submit? Master does not just because what he is but for who he is. I was born submissive but he brings it out in me. it is in the tone of his voice tha look in his eyes. It had to be the right man cause i am submissive but i do not submit to just anyone. He brings it out of me more strongly.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/5/2011 7:44:56 PM

kuppykake

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What makes me want to submit....perhaps the same thing that makes one want to dominate. I'm not yet sure exactly what that is, it just is, and I'll accept that throughout my journey.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/8/2011 11:56:49 AM

trueshadow

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A strong, powerful personality in a woman. Oh, also if she is taller, as well as possessing a dominant personality.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/8/2011 12:50:12 PM

onlyfreelycaged

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It's not that I want to submit. It's that when I submit to the right person I feel safe, secure... found. But this only applies to relationships, not casual play.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/9/2011 7:07:04 PM

secretsubnova

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Breath play!!! A hand around my throat, a belt around my throat, a towel around my throat... well you get the point. ;-)

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/10/2011 1:40:24 PM

kalikshama

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the teeth on the back of the neck, mmmmmmmmmmmm

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/12/2011 12:23:45 PM

trusting

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I believe that I submit to my master/husband because he is devoted, caring and respectful of me as a person, not just as a submissive. He appreciates all that I do and makes me feel special.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/12/2011 2:43:32 PM

petmonkey

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A little bit of this:

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

I am submissive the same way I am bisexual. I look at breasts and go "ooo... I want to nibble on those". I look at a man and go "Ooo... I wonder if he'd pull my hair and command me".

And a little bit of that:

quote:

Original: littlewonder

I am a submissive personality. It's who I am but I'm also aware that i can't submit to everyone and everything in life or otherwise I'd be walked all over and taken advantage of so I reign myself in.

Plus a big helping of this:

quote:

ORIGINAL onlyfreelycaged:

It's that when I submit to the right person [and for the right reason] I feel. . . found.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/12/2011 4:10:12 PM

BalletBob

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I love to please the ladies, and make them happy. I feel good when they have as much fun Tying and Gagging me, as I do.

To obey is to please, sub BalletBob

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/12/2011 4:50:41 PM

theshylittleone

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I'm always looking to please... sexually and otherwise. I like knowing I'm making the other person feel good... making them happy with my submission.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/12/2011 5:26:03 PM

hipsterkittyxo

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It's just my personality, but sometimes I get candy. JUST KIDDING. I feel really satisfied and contented.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/12/2011 7:02:32 PM

ThePeripatetic

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It's difficult for me to identify exactly why I feel the need to submit. It seems to be deeply ingrained in how I'm wired emotionally, mentally, and sexually. In my day-to-day, 'vanilla' life I'm very focused, ambitious, competitive, contemplative, and, from time-to-time, prone to getting wound up tight/stressed. Classic Type-A personality.

So it means a lot to me to be able to 'let go of the reins'. It helps me stay balanced. I can't even begin to describe how much it means to me to submit to a strong, perceptive Domme (that I trust). Releasing control, receiving permission to let go of my 'game-face' facade, it feels so damn liberating to me! When that element of impeccable trust is established, I feel safe, sane, healthy. Not to mention that sense of exhilaration and fear I experience when I let go... So intoxicating!!!

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/13/2011 9:36:17 PM

afkarr

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It is not a want, it is a need, one that can only be fulfilled by the right Dom/Master.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/14/2011 12:56:49 PM

Handsomefella26

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The joy I get from serving a strong woman, knowing that I am pleasing her.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 1/16/2011 9:30:23 AM

leadership527

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09
What motivates you? I'm curious please provide me with some insight.

What a curious question. Carol is motivated to submit because I'm way the heck more dominant than her so that's how it works out. I look at her and say "do this" and she does because not doing it would be *wrong*.

What enables that motivation is that she trusts me so she finds no need to put breaks on her kneejerk response of obedience.

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I didn't so much "enslave" Carol as I did "enlove" her. - Me
I want a joyous, loving, respectful relationship where the male is in charge and deserves to be. - DavanKael

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 3/2/2011 10:22:38 PM

Herbabygirl

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Well considering I am dominant in almost every other aspect of my life, being a slave/submissive for one thing is really nice. It's nice not to have to be in control. It's even more amazing that my Master understands this and we have found the perfect balance. Submitting tends to come naturally in most cases. Of course there are exceptions just like any other aspect of life.

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RE: What makes you want to submit? - 3/5/2011 8:05:45 PM

sweetsub1957

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SAMHAIN09

What motivates you? I'm curious please provide me with some insight.

I'm naturally submissive. BUT, just because someone is Dominant, it doesn't mean I will submit to Him/Her. There has to be that chemistry, that click between our personalities, that indescribable something, that causes me to submit to THAT person because it feels so....right. It only feels "right" with the "right PERSON." And when it's with the right person, it's irresistible. And I realize that I probably said a whole lot and didn't explain a single thing. lol

~sweetsub~

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