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ORIGINAL: naughtynick81
Blah blah blah the same old bigoted crap. When ever the penis claims that it has fantasies that wants fulfilled, 99 percent of the time it's deemed in a negative light as for he just wants a woman to cater for him, he just wants a woman to do things for him, he just wants easy sex. Bad bad chauvinist male.

It just can't be that a man is entitled to have standards in choosing what type of woman he wants. After all, no woman will do the things he seeks unless she likes it too. So with this in the picture, its “give and take” as both parties are enjoying the scenarios.

It's as ridiculous as saying just because a man likes vanilla sex, it’s somehow a one sided perspective that he as a chauvinist male simply wants a woman to cater for him in a one sided scenario. Umm hello? Don't women seek sex too? So that means she only wants a one sided deal too instead of seeking a man who equally wants the scene to take place. She is just a chauvinist too?

It never ceases to amaze me to see how much bias is against a submissive male for having fantasies. This forum cracks me up all the time. The bigotry is rife.

If a submissive woman claims that she has fantasies wanting to be fulfilled , these types of ridiculous accusations hardly gets mentioned as the argument will switch to… "she is a woman living in 2011, she has the right to choose what she wants out of men"

But it seems that a man’s freedom to have standards in choosing a potential partner is more limited as there are more negative accusations thrown at his gender for simply having standards.

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: spankeree

My fantasy is to be with a genuine regular woman, we have a normal relationship in every way but she is dominant and assertive in the bedroom.

This is your fantasy, now you gotta find a woman who has the same fantasy and that could be a problem, because dominance and assertiveness is not a light switch that works only in the bedroom and outside of it she'll fix your dinner in time...

In other words, "I want a regular girlfriend who additionally fulfills ALL my sexual fantasies the way I want them to fulfilled, she should act dominant in the bedroom when it suits me!" That's how it can also be read.

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It seems most women who will participate in something like that do it for other motivations other than for sexual pleasure - for money or tributes, or because they hate men, or because they are sadistic and use a man for those reasons, or are just acting in a porn film.

I know these are generalisations and i don't mean to offend anyone who doesn't fall into these categories.

If you don't mean to offend, then why offend? So anybody who's not behaving like your exact fantasy must have other motivations, that is quite offensive!

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I would love a girl who was kind and gentle and loving but who took the lead - told me to get on my knees, go down on her, wank off as she stood over me fully clothed, spanked me, told me to worship her feet, legs, ass etc etc. she would ride my face, sit on my face, explore my limits with anal play etc etc

You want somebody who's submissive enough to play the dominant for you when it suits you or when you're horny.

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I'm not into pain or serious humiliation or being shouted at or spit on or blackmailed etc etc.

It's fine to have limits, we all have them!

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I'd be interested to know if there are any other men who feel the same and what women on here think???

I'm not a guy but I imagine quite a few guys would love that as a fantasy, most seem to be realistic enough to realize that women don't come with that button and will be dominant on demand.

As a woman, the way you phrase it and it's all about what you want and what she should do to you for your pleasure. I would feel like somebody is using me as porn fantasy if somebody put it to me like you did here.

There's nothing wrong with people trying to please each other in a relationship, but the way you described it it's all about pleasing you, I wouldn't be interested in a relationship where it's all about the other person, that's just me but maybe you'll be lucky and find somebody who'll bend over backwards to please you and pretends to be dominant when it suits you....

ETA: Saw your other post in Introductions:

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I'm a genuine guy living in London, I love to have a naughty girl dress up for me and then go over my knee for a mild playful spanking. I'm not into extreme stuff such as pain and dungeons etc.

I'd also like to explore my submissive side, if you are a hot beautiful woman, i'll kneel for you and worship your feet and legs and ass if you tease and taunt me and maybe force me to masturbate or strip as you spank me............

Get in touch and let's start talking.

Please do not contact me if you are a fake, a spammer, a professional or looking for tributes......

You SHOULD look for a professional since you come with a list she should do and how she should look, since it's all about you, only fair if she gets compensated, or is there anything you can offer apart from giving her the pleasure to be allowed to fulfill your kinks. Maybe you want to try ALT, CM isn't quite the kinky self-service supermarket for guys who don't have anything to offer and only expect!

Regarding your profile:

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I've started to get interested in dominant women, i'd really like to explore this side of my sexuality, i like assertive dominant women who know what they want. I like stockings, CFNM, CMNF, spanking, facesitting, masturbation, mild humiliation, teasing, denial - short term only!

Domiant women DO know what they want, which usually doesn't include the kink of asking you "And how may I dominate you today, Sir?"

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ORIGINAL: DommeKeliDallas

This is EXACTLY how most of the men who reply to me feel...like I am a supermarket.
MOST Dommes...pro or otherwise... don't indulger EVERY perversion...er...uh..."fantasy."

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This is your fantasy, now you gotta find a woman who has the same fantasy and that could be a problem, because dominance and assertiveness is not a light switch that works only in the bedroom and outside of it she'll fix your dinner in time...

In other words, "I want a regular girlfriend who additionally fulfills ALL my sexual fantasies the way I want them to fulfilled, she should act dominant in the bedroom when it suits me!" That's how it can also be read.

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You want somebody who's submissive enough to play the dominant for you when it suits you or when you're horny.


I'd be interested to know if there are any other men who feel the same and what women on here think???

I'm not a guy but I imagine quite a few guys would love that as a fantasy, most seem to be realistic enough to realize that women don't come with that button and will be dominant on demand.

As a woman, the way you phrase it and it's all about what you want and what she should do to you for your pleasure. I would feel like somebody is using me as porn fantasy if somebody put it to me like you did here.


Domiant women DO know what they want, which usually doesn't include the kink of asking you "And how may I dominate you today, Sir?"

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ORIGINAL: SnowRanger

I have no comment here... I just wanted to jump on this one before Theta lock THIS one too!

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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminTheta

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ORIGINAL: SnowRanger

I have no comment here... I just wanted to jump on this one before Theta lock THIS one too!

I may have to keep an eye on you!

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ORIGINAL: tonyfordz

Dude, honestly you just need to fill out as many of the interests as possible when searching for someone & find someone who has as many of the same interests as you do. I have been on this site off & on now for a little over 8 1/2 years going on 9 & its not easy to find your exact match & may even be impossible to some degree. You should seek out a switch if all you want is someone to dom in the bedroom who prefers to dom in the bedroom. I personally dont want it just in the bedroom, but everyone is different. As for the ladies that took offense to his post sounds more like a personal problem to me & if you take it personal that's on you not him as he is only trying to post his thoughts & everyone knows that opinions are like assholes we all have one & have the rights to express them. Give him credit for having the balls to speak up & not dance around what he needed to say...

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ORIGINAL: SnowRanger
To top it all off the Women here are often confronted with a photo of a guys cock or ass. No amount of enthusiam or sincerity can over come those faux pas (can you pluralize that?).

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ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze

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ORIGINAL: tonyfordz

Dude, honestly you just need to fill out as many of the interests as possible when searching for someone & find someone who has as many of the same interests as you do. I have been on this site off & on now for a little over 8 1/2 years going on 9 & its not easy to find your exact match & may even be impossible to some degree. You should seek out a switch if all you want is someone to dom in the bedroom who prefers to dom in the bedroom. I personally dont want it just in the bedroom, but everyone is different. As for the ladies that took offense to his post sounds more like a personal problem to me & if you take it personal that's on you not him as he is only trying to post his thoughts & everyone knows that opinions are like assholes we all have one & have the rights to express them. Give him credit for having the balls to speak up & not dance around what he needed to say...

Well, yeah but I guess I appreciate that approach as much as most women appreciate a guy walking up to them and grunt "Wanna fuck, I'm horny", sorry but not all of us are inflatable and just eager to please a random bloke.

You have to admit that if we are not all into the way he likes to be dommed and when he likes to be dommed or switch on command, we're not "real", he makes it kinda personal so if we take it personal, we're at fault?

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ORIGINAL: SurrenderForMe
To the thread that seems to have hijacked this post, I'm an experienced dominant.  I'm not offended when someone asks something that doesn't appeal to me.  I roll my eyes and move onto another post.

The message boards are supposed to be the place where anyone with any range of experience can go to discuss, question and learn.  So, while people sometimes post what seem stupid questions/answers to some or even all, they should be allowed to ask those questions or post their answers.  If the text you read doesn't appeal to you, ignore it.  If it is offensive, block any posts from that person.  If it breaks all rules of decency, or whatever, report it.   I see this area as the safe zone for being accepted and encouraged to learn and explore.