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Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/20/2011 4:06:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CaringandReal quote: ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4 quote: ORIGINAL: CaringandReal I am confused, or perhaps I'm being naive again. If you have the Obedience (particularly the sort with the capital O), doesn't the hot kinky sex naturally follow? Not always the case... and yes, it might seem puzzling. Indeed. Do you mean by this you have the RL meeting and she isn't hot enough to fuck? That's the only scenario I can think of. Let me toss a few things out there for you to think about (1) Limits which is not directly coupled with obedience (2) If they are into or not into the activity in question. There's a difference if somebody enjoys the Hell of the same thing or not. It's actually more intense with somebody into the same shit. Just cause somebody is doing it, does not mean they are really into it. There are some not so kinky subs that are very obedient. Ummmmm... face slapping for instance... some it actually turns them on without question... others it has the opposite effect.. and for some it's a limit. Again, this has very little to do with pure obedience.

CaringandReal -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/20/2011 4:29:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4 Let me toss a few things out there for you to think about (1) Limits which is not directly coupled with obedience (2) If they are into or not into the activity in question. There's a difference if somebody enjoys the Hell of the same thing or not. It's actually more intense with somebody into the same shit. Just cause somebody is doing it, does not mean they are really into it. There are some not so kinky subs that are very obedient. Ummmmm... face slapping for instance... some it actually turns them on without question... others it has the opposite effect.. and for some it's a limit. Again, this has very little to do with pure obedience. I think I see what you're saying but let me try repeating in other words to be sure. Would the following be accurate? Limits trump obedience or make it moot /irrelevant around the area of the limit and an act like face-slapping is more or less gratifiying/hot to you depending upon the slapee's reaction to it? To me, deep obedience is very kinky in and of itself and intimately connected with hot sex. I never imagined a situation (probably becuase I don't "date" other submissives and thus lack exposure) in which the two emotional sets would be discoupled. But it makes sense that this would be so in some people.

osf -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/20/2011 4:30:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4 quote: ORIGINAL: CaringandReal quote: ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4 quote: ORIGINAL: CaringandReal I am confused, or perhaps I'm being naive again. If you have the Obedience (particularly the sort with the capital O), doesn't the hot kinky sex naturally follow? Not always the case... and yes, it might seem puzzling. Indeed. Do you mean by this you have the RL meeting and she isn't hot enough to fuck? That's the only scenario I can think of. Let me toss a few things out there for you to think about (1) Limits which is not directly coupled with obedience (2) If they are into or not into the activity in question. There's a difference if somebody enjoys the Hell of the same thing or not. It's actually more intense with somebody into the same shit. Just cause somebody is doing it, does not mean they are really into it. There are some not so kinky subs that are very obedient. Ummmmm... face slapping for instance... some it actually turns them on without question... others it has the opposite effect.. and for some it's a limit. Again, this has very little to do with pure obedience. some will do anything required of them to keep the structured relationship, the structure being necessary to their sense well being, their anchor to reality this is the type I prefer

CaringandReal -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/20/2011 4:33:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RapierFugue Strange as it may seem, it's perfectly possible for some of us to meet someone plenty "hot enough to fuck", and who is Obedient, but with whom we don’t click, or where there's no spark. It sounds even weirder now I see it written, but there you are :) Obviously I don't "date" enough (laughing, to put it mildly). I think I understand what you're saying about the mysteries of chemistry, though. I imagine I would run across this sort of thing, too, if I got out more.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 10:34:12 AM)
For the most part wants are specific to an individual. General concepts such as obedience and honestly should be an understood given. Think most people would agree that things go much deeper in reality.

sexyred1 -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 10:43:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RapierFugue quote: ORIGINAL: CaringandReal Do you mean by this you have the RL meeting and she isn't hot enough to fuck? That's the only scenario I can think of. Strange as it may seem, it's perfectly possible for some of us to meet someone plenty "hot enough to fuck", and who is Obedient, but with whom we don’t click, or where there's no spark. It sounds even weirder now I see it written, but there you are :) That is not weird at all; I meet men who are hot as hell but if they do not have the type of communication style I like or we don't have the same things in common, what good are they? Nothing about chemistry and compatibility is written in stone, or assumptions.

RapierFugue -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:12:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 That is not weird at all I was using a subtle form of self-mocking sarcasm. As in: "You mean I'm not entirely driven by my cock?! I demand a recount!" :) My fave line on male penis-led decision making was a Tony Parsons line: "Having a penis is like being handcuffed to the village idiot" :)

tazzygirl -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:27:32 AM)
You mean all men dont want dinner and a blow job when they get home? (not necessarily in that order... heh)

mnottertail -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:29:59 AM)
seems to me they can be done simultaneously, if you are a clever girl.

tazzygirl -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:31:21 AM)
Isnt that what the top of my head is for? [:D]

RapierFugue -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:52:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Isnt that what the top of my head is for? [:D] It'd get seriously weird if you mixed the two up though.

tazzygirl -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:57:51 AM)
Depends ... is snowballing on your list of hard limits?

RapierFugue -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 11:59:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Depends ... is snowballing on your list of hard limits? Oh no I love snowballing! Who doesn't? That wonderful moment when you throw it and then ... SPLAT! Snow all over them. Smashing! ;)

tazzygirl -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 12:00:38 PM)
Yeah... ill mark that as a hard limit for you!

RapierFugue -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/21/2011 12:07:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Yeah... ill mark that as a hard limit for you! ;) Oddly though, I do like a good snog* afterwards. But only post- her swallowing. *I accidentally typed "song" instead first time of asking, and only realised at the last moment. It might have led to some rather puzzled responses.

roland23 -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/27/2011 10:54:01 AM)
Call me old-fashioned(and you can because I'm an old guy), but I am looking for a submissive . One who is interested in exploring the many aspects of BDSM. We can negotiate later.

tazzygirl -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/27/2011 11:47:14 AM)
Hey RF!!!!!!!!!!! http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snowballing Just helpin, ya know! [:D][;)]

RapierFugue -> RE: What does a Master want? (1/27/2011 11:53:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tazzygirl Hey RF!!!!!!!!!!! http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=snowballing Just helpin, ya know! [:D][;)] Oh FFS you numpty, of course I know what it means - I would have thought my previous replies made that obvious :)

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