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lally2 -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 3:13:27 AM)

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youre internal conflict is that youre fantasy profile will never make you happy.




sirsholly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 3:24:03 AM)

I cant shake the feeling that you are topping from the bottom...wanting things your way and manipulating this dude into believing you are what you say you are.

I think slavery is a fantasy for you, but it is a fantasy you want to control...which is why you get pissy when required to do what you do not want to do. When the pissiness wears off you suck up because you do not want the fantasy to end.

It is working for you because your time together is so infrequent. And you are using him until you are done with school.



came4U -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 3:40:16 AM)

since the subject of fantasy came up, about that:

there are reasons that corporations do not want employees working from home...because of likelihood the employee would be sitting around in pajamas all day and between mails and calls they would be watching The Doctors and picking their toe jam to compare it to their belly button lint. These activities are not what your resume likely implied as your innate and awesome ability to 'multi-task'. Fantasy job indeed.

Relationships similarly take work---and presence (of some sort, eventually).  It is a phone and e-mail relationship, it can be what you want, when you want it--a fantasy. If even THAT is difficult, maybe you might want to reconsider not only the person you chose but your ability to keep up a charade of  'effort-consistency' for that person and all that goes with that. Even the most disobedient employee/sub can gather the energy to at least make it seem like one is earning the paycheque. If not, maybe they need to be pulled into the office/boss's lap for an update on policy and supervision procedure.  Now THAT is reality. The lint/jam pickin' has to stop.


*chews her toenail off and spits it across the room :)



sirsholly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:25:14 AM)

Hey...anyone wanna see my belly button lint?


it's cute and fuzzy....


unlike those toenails Came4U is hocking out....



ImaginativeWhims -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:27:11 AM)


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ORIGINAL: sirsholly

I cant shake the feeling that you are topping from the bottom...wanting things your way and manipulating this dude into believing you are what you say you are.


This. So much this.



LaTigresse -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:32:41 AM)

On the flip side of that though.........more the fool him if he doesn't realize it.

The reality is that they are both getting something out of it even if it appears to be one big clusterfuck ( and I think the second part of that word is really what it is alllllllllllll about for him) of a relationship.

He is getting his needs met and so is she.

It may not be what anyone of us reading about it would want, but the reality is, who the hell cares! It's not OUR clusterfuck, it is theirs. They are the ones living the fantasy. They are the ones that have to deal with the stark difference between fantasy and reality. They are the ones that will have to deal with the eventual fall out.

We just get to watch, in whatever way she comes and tells us all about it, and laugh. Happy as hell it is not OUR reality.



sirsholly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:45:16 AM)

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We just get to watch, in whatever way she comes and tells us all about it, and laugh
Hey LadyT...wanna see my lint while yer waitin'?


LaT?



Ooooooo Teeeeeeeeeee???????



came4U -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:49:17 AM)

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They are the ones that have to deal with the stark difference between fantasy and reality. They are the ones that will have to deal with the eventual fall out.


good point, which leads me to another question:

Is the pain and drama brought about from such 'fantasies' real or are they part of the fantasy and more easily dismissed to move on to the next fantasy? Isn't that half the fun of a fantasy---being able to have auto-biographical dilemmas written into one's life 'script' in order to train oneself for a future of REAL events?  OR is this like playing tea party with your dolls and having the power to manipulate events so that Raggedy Ann imaginatively burps rudely and you can play out a role of  'astonished bystander' which causes Anny to have a timeout?

Either way, eventually a person is going to have to be able to function sanely and suitably in a real relationship (or in restaurant).  It is that or live a perpetual life of fantasy-land without ever having to cook, pour or burn yourself on the forever-imaginary tea. 

Fantasy is useful for two things--teaching/anticipating a skill or to avoid practice of learning/using a skill.  When there is no line crossed in either direction--a person remains stagnant. What a waste.

quote:

Hey...anyone wanna see my belly button lint?


it's cute and fuzzy....


unlike those toenails Came4U is hocking out....


HA!   but is it imaginary lint? Cuz I know for sure when my toenail hit the ground it made a sound. Therefore, I'm giving myself a raise.





LaTigresse -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:49:53 AM)

I'll see your lint and raise you a dog hair dust bunny.



sirsholly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 4:55:15 AM)

sees your dog hair dust bunny and raises with a puked up hairball [:)]



came4U -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 5:01:06 AM)

I'm not sure whether I should call Molly Maid, or mail some Q-tips.

but I do know that if you put lint (dryer preferably--belly stuff is optional) in egg carton, drip candle wax (the cheap stuff, not the good kink candles) on the blobs of lint that they make good portable firestarters.



sirsholly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 5:06:53 AM)

cool idea!

i put it outside for the birds in the winter. they use it to insulate their nests.



came4U -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 6:15:08 AM)

quote:

cool idea!

i put it outside for the birds in the winter. they use it to insulate their nests.


why don't you be ever more kind...and let em nest in yer belly button :P  you meanie!!



lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 8:24:57 AM)

Ya... i joined when i was really young because i knew about the lifestyle and wanted to talk to people and learn. i even admitted it. Yeah......that makes me SUCH BS!!


Instead of bashing on a younger person you guys should be helping them out. Just saying.
Anyways, yes i was underage when i joined. i am 19 now..... plenty of people do stupid things when 16.

And, i am not fucking around. And, i can assure you it's not just fantasy. i have to work hard at being a good slave. Follow high protocol, training, learning to be obedient and everything He wants. This lifestyle isn't all fun and games, it takes hard work sometimes. Which is why real emotions are attached. Please don't bash me when i have real emotions attached to something which means a lot to me.


i don't use cm to find people, just the forums, so i apologize if i didn't update my cm profile every week of my life. Didn't know it'd piss so many people off and i'd be a liar and a fake because of it!!

Also it's a shame to assume and point fingers when you know nothing. I've had plenty people message me and i come back with the response i am owned, but thanks anyways. Lay off people, it's getting old.



LaTigresse -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 8:57:24 AM)

If you quit behaving like a lying, impetuous, petulant child lacking any bit of common sense, people will no longer treat you as such.

And THAT is the sort of help I give younger people in my life. You are too far away to get the warm cookies that often go with it.



subtlebutterfly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 9:01:49 AM)

Did somebody say COOKIES???????????????????????????????????

I want a cookie..can I get a cookie? I'll be good[sm=angel.gif]



LaTigresse -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 9:18:12 AM)

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ORIGINAL: subtlebutterfly

Did somebody say COOKIES???????????????????????????????????

I want a cookie..can I get a cookie? I'll be good[sm=angel.gif]


Remember these?


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subtlebutterfly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 9:21:06 AM)

I GOTSSSSSS A COOKIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

You're da best[sm=hearts.gif][sm=cute.gif]



lilmisssubmiss -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 9:37:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

If you quit behaving like a lying, impetuous, petulant child lacking any bit of common sense, people will no longer treat you as such.

And THAT is the sort of help I give younger people in my life. You are too far away to get the warm cookies that often go with it.



i have never lied on here except about my age which i came clean about.

But, i get accused of lying whenever. Call me immature? How you guys act towards me is pretty pathetic and immature.



subtlebutterfly -> RE: Internal conflict? (2/10/2011 9:44:22 AM)

Maybe the explanation is that the OP is simply lacking the mental maturity to engage in a relationship, be it bdsm or vanilla at this point.[8|]
Just a thought.[:-]



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