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New to being a Master - 3/25/2004 9:33:45 PM

LordKarea

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hey i'm new to being a master, and i'd like to know a few pointers at what to do,.. and how to find and get a slave/submissive,.. so if you could, please respond, my email is [email protected] just email me your responses please,..

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RE: New to being a Master - 3/25/2004 10:14:25 PM

Arykus

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The best pointer I might give for "What to do" is simply to be very genuine and direct in presenting youself - a submissive must needs study your personality, mannerisms, everything about you when she wants to learn how best to serve...misrepresenting any part of yourself leads to dissatisfaction on both parts.

As to how to find a girl...it's more or less the same as a bar scene: Just talk to them.

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RE: New to being a Master - 3/25/2004 11:48:06 PM

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Welcome to the collarme message board, enjoy!

If you desire responses e-mailed, it may be better to join some of the yahoo message groups that are BDSM related. This message board is interactive, as members will reply here in this thread you started. You may be able to set your board preferences to recieve e-mail notification of replys to your post/thread.

I encourage you to read previous posts... there's an abundance of commentary, topics, Q&A, advice, information sources, etc available throughout this message board. Please visit often and read other threads and responses to them, ask specific questions, offer opinion, and enjoy your newfound lifestyle community here... with lots of nice helpful folks and thoughtful input from each side of the dynamic.

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RE: New to being a Master - 3/26/2004 6:30:53 PM

Leonidas

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I got a chuckle out of your post, because it betrays a misconception that is so very common among newcommers, and folks who have been around a while as well.

Master is a role, like Father, Brother, Boss, Husband, etc. Saying that you are a new master looking for a slave is like saying you're a new father looking for a mother for his children. What you are right now, from your description, is a man who has recongnized that he might have dominant tendencies. I am leaping to the conclusion (which may be false) that because you described yourself as a "master" that what you want is some kind of power exchange relationship, and not simply to play with a willing submissive or masochist.

If my assumption is correct, then my advice to you is both advice that you won't want to hear, and probably advice that will go against the grain of everything else that you will hear. The last thing that you want to do right now is go slave hunting. Invest some time in foming good opinions about what it means to be the kind of man who can successfully take life of someone else into your hands. How good is your mastery of yourself? Do you generally take control of things in your life, and achieve the things that you set out to do? Are you generally seen as an "alpha" type by those around you? In other words, do you find that others very often look to you for leadership? Are you a man of honor? By this I mean do you have a code of conduct that you adhere to come hell or high water? Do you keep your word and commitments? Finally, is there really room in your life for a woman who will be devoted to serving you? No girlfriends, spouses, or significant others lurking in the shadows? If you can't answer yes to these questions honestly, work on it. Place yourself in the company of men who exhibit these character traits, and learn from them. Then, and only then, go looking for a slave or submissive to call your own.

Take care of yourself,

Leonidas

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RE: New to being a Master - 3/27/2004 9:56:14 PM

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RE: New to being a Master - 3/27/2004 11:01:46 PM

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Dread, do you have anything to say or anything of value to contribute to these threads? I don't see the point of all these posts that contain nothing more than an emoticon. Are you trying to collect more stars or something? AFAIK, it's not a contest to make the most posts....

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