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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 8:53:16 AM

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i will say for a nilla partner, i agree, i've told gal friends "marry a man for good sex, you can get mental stimulation in the workplace." If you're monogomous, going outside for the sex part is not part of the game plan, so cover what you need most at the house first. Or go poly and cover what you will where you will.

But if it's nilla sex you're looking for, even nilla sex with a kink, BDSM site is the wrong place. If you just want kinky S&M + sex, don't look for Dommes or Doms, look for "Female Top" or "Male Top", which implies play-action, NOT service. Domme , Dom, Master, Mistress all imply some level of service and mental power exchange beyond physical realm.

Your problem is you've been barking up the wrong tree, applying for service jobs when you don't have the skills or interest in those jobs.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/8/2006 11:34:12 AM

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I am so sorry for you nick,I think your not understading what many have tried to share with you,instead you keep repeating the same information..have you bothered to read male submissives adds or male slaves adds on here? many have no interest in sex,do you know this? infact, many want to be chastised(another fetish) do you intend to call these males names,who have a very opposite need than what yours is?? As another person mentioned,you are a bottom,thats clear,so your in need of a top,which is a 'play' dynamic,not an on going continuous Ds relationship,which is fine,just stop knocking others kinks ,once you graduate to being a kinkster who respects all forms of this lifestyle,even if its not what your into,then maybe you will attract what you need,until then,you will just be a horny boy who thinks bdsm = sex,it costs nothing to learn from your elders my friend

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/9/2006 5:28:02 PM

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submissives adds or male slaves adds on here? many have no interest in sex,do you know this? infact, many want to be chastised(another fetish)
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Excuse me, I think you missed the part in this thread about where all men know that if they tell the trueth about what hey are actually after, they loose.

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MichMasochist wrote:

These lessons are:
1) Lie about what you're really after. If you use honesty you loose automatically.

And as his last line puts it:

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So we "sit up", roll over, and play dead. Just to give the woman a bone. :P

Honey child all men lie. Didn't your moma ever tell you that?

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/9/2006 6:01:25 PM

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Michael, I mean this as a compliment, you are an interesting example of someone who believes in female superiority. I find your views worthy of study.

This question of men vs women in sexual desire and control is a good one. Since, I'm 50 now, looking back, I will tell you that the desire/control aspect changes considerably at about age 35. Men, all of a sudden, are in control. Be prepared.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 4:53:24 PM

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Getting one? If I was desperate enought to settle for one of the 40 - 400 club. That is over 40 years old and, or, over 400 hundred. The under thirties and under crowd always wants tribute because their pro. And I wasn't looking for a (insert noun here) in leather.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 7:19:57 PM

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what does 'go toss off' mean? this was way back in the beginning of the thread

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 7:43:35 PM

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then again, some men just don't get it about women, men think it's all about sex...period. (well, sex and televised sports...LOL)

Ummm actually this sounds good to me too *g* and i'm definately female

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 7:53:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: kisshou

what does 'go toss off' mean? this was way back in the beginning of the thread.

Courtesy of Wikipedia....

an allied irish (ireland)

a date with palmela handerson

archibold reillying it

audition the finger puppets

bang one off, bang one out

bash the bishop

bat

'bating away

beat off

beat your beef

beat the meat, beat one's meat

bono is a giant douche

burp the worm

chafe the yard (dated - this term is used in early colonial-era Puritan legal documents)

choke the chicken (US)

chuff (UK)

clean the cheese off the George Foreman Grill

consult Professor Hans Jerkov

coping with being a male

crank one off/out

crying yourself to sleep

dating Miss Michigan

deploying the troops

do a number three

do the five finger shuffle

double clicking the mouse

entertain oneself

fap, fapping

feeding the ducks

fifty flick fun

firing off knuckle children

fist your mister

five knuckle shuffle

flog the dolphin

flog the log (Australian)

fly solo

fucking Palm and her five sisters

full knuckle shuffle

going to town on yourself ('Friends SE10 Outakes')

gurk

ham shank this is rhyming slang for wank, see below.

hand to gland combat

hand job

hand relief

hand-to-gland combat

have a date with Mrs. Michigan (Michigan's Lower Peninsula resembles a hand)

have a GARY (Lineker)

have a hand shandy

have a mastie

have a pull

have a talk with James Lipton

have a wank (British)

hob your knob

impregnate ya' belly-button

interrogate the suspect (US)

jack off (US)

Jeremy Shank,Arthur Rank (rhymes with wank)(Brit.)

jerk off (US)

jerkin' the Gherkin

jostling the elder

keep my sausage hostage

killing a kitten

killing Tony Danza

knock one (right) off

Leo's one-inch-punch

let poor Willy know he's still wanted

mbate (pronounced Em-Bate)

paw off

playing the skin flute

pleasure oneself

pleasure the sphincter

play pocket pool / pocket billards (UK)

polish the pole/rocket/trumpet/rifle/pewter/one-eyed gopher

pop your weasel

pounding your pud

pud whacker

pull oneself, pull oneself off

putting the kleenex kids through college

pwn the noob (Internet)

rattlesnake shake (Fleetwood Mac song)

result of seeing little miss 11

rope the rat (US)

roughing the suspect

rub one off

rub one ogre

rub one out

rub the head of the vicar (UK)

run off a batch

self-pollution

service yourself

shake hands with Benjamin Franklin

shake hands with the cyclops

shaking hands with the one eyed milk man

shake hands with the unemployed

shaking white coconuts from the veiny tree

shoot some knuckle babies

snap a tune

spank (it)

spend time with Jill, {refering to the back of the right hand)

squeeze the lever

squeezing the eclair

stay in with Patsy Palmer and her five sisters, or Rosy Palm and her five daughters

stroke the chook

stroke the spaff-stick

strumming the one string banjo

take care of oneself

taking your monkey for a walk

taking Captain Picard up to warp speed

toss off, toss oneself off

thank the maker

throttling the joystick ("US")

tickle the trout

tug

tug the trouser meat

wank, wank off (British)

whack off

wanker

wango tango

wrestle the one-eyed monster

yabadabadoo

yank the chain

Bustin Horizontals

Choke the Smurf

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 8:21:11 PM

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Someone who would get aroused in taking advantage over me in that certain way. Thats what gets me off.

Okay, I was trying to wade through this whole thread before replying but this I had to say something to (and while I do have sympathy to an extent for nick, this has been the funniest board I've read in a while).

nick, as you say, women can have sex at the snap of a finger. Women can have pretty much any kind of sex they want if they put a little effort out. Hence, like anything you can have whenever you want, you become picky about it. Now you want a woman who gets off on getting you off. You're looking in the wrong pile, mate! What you should be doing is looking at the submissive women! Now before you go off at me about your kink, let me say this. Most of your kink seems to be physically oriented, to get you off. I know many a submissive who wields a mean flogger and I know a number of dominants that like pain play. They get off on it. They simply tell their submissives to do what they want!

Domina's are domina's because they like to be in control. They may not get off on it sexually (do you get off on jumping out of airplanes sexually or for the thrill of it?) but they do get a big power rush. The more you fight them over control, the more they will gleefully deny you what you want.

Even tops tend to often play non sexually. BDSM isn't the best place to get casual sex. In fact, in my experience it's one of the worst places because most people here are more interested in their kink (whatever that might be) than sex. Female submissives are much more likely to be into sexual activities with their dominants than Femdoms are with their boys. Again, it's a power thing. You say Femdoms treat their pussies like gold. Of course they do! They are into POWER. The power to give and the power to deny. The boys that serve them are also into power. The power to receive or not, depending on her whims.

Are they spoiled? OMG what a silly question! ALL dominants are spoiled. Do you think I get sex just because I want it? Do you think I can NOT have sex just because I don't want to? Sexual control is power. Dominants know this. Femdoms really know this, and yes, they DO enjoy depriving a male submissive of his erotic pleasure. Usually both get off on it or a boy simply doesn't serve that kind of domme. Master has a boy now that is asking for training and Master has said there will be no sex because he's not into boys. This boy says he accepts that and he is happy enough to learn the OTHER parts of the BDSM lifestyle. Under those conditions Master is open to working with him. But it is the boy's choice if he wants to serve under those conditions. If he follows through with it, Master will see to it that he learns skills that may help him attract another dominant, male or female.

It is always your choice whether you want to serve a Femdom as she wants. But don't expect her to serve YOU. Tisn't in the nature of the beast. If you're a good boy she might reward you. But if she's a no sex domme you better find that out before bothering to go further because she isn't likely to change that no matter how well you serve her.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 8:32:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: MichMasochist
Getting one? If I was desperate enought to settle for one of the 40 - 400 club. That is over 40 years old and, or, over 400 hundred. The under thirties and under crowd always wants tribute because their pro. And I wasn't looking for a (insert noun here) in leather

In trying to demean women who are over fourty and of whatever weight you are also implying to me, but I could be wrong in interpreting, that those women are the only ones who would possibly be interested in a "winner" like yourself (I wonder what the ladies here would say); you are also clearly saying you lack the money and or the charm to attract a lady under 40. M

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/10/2006 8:44:08 PM

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You know it goes the same way for any cute TS. I know I can get any guy I want with a little effort if I want them, so I really don't go after them on-line. Now women who are willing to admit they like pre-op TS's now that is pretty rare.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/11/2006 1:05:38 AM

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naughtynick, I'm not trying to be combative here, but you apparently have no idea what My typical day is like...

I have two sub/slaves in my home. One (the female) works from 8-5 M-F. The male works part time, and does lawn, home, and auto maintenance. Now "I" do the majority of the housework, and my beloveds pitch in when necessary. We work as a family, period.

What I find amusing about this thread is this: I get five to ten emails a day from male sub/slaves who want to be domestics, or sissy maids. For a large number of the male submissive population, their kink IS housework. I must admit, when time for spring cleaning comes around, I have been known to make use of their services, but not remotely because I "need" to. I find it rather exhausting sometimes to stand there and give step by step instructions, when I could do it in half the time and "right the first time". LOL

I realize it's frustrating to be a male sub on a site like this. There are so many aspects to BDSM, so many fetishes, so many agendas and goals. But to discredit someone else's reasons for this lifestyle OR for this site is simply rude.

I truly hope that you didn't mean to sound rude when you posted this thread, and I look forward to dialogue with you in the future if you wish it.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/11/2006 1:13:17 AM

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Most women are all talk and no action. BDSM seems to be more about the man doing house work for them than the sexual side of things. What a waste of space.

Sweetie, you offer to do my housework for me, and I'll consider switching.

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/11/2006 1:46:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: Wulfchyld

Um… this is a fetish site not a sex site. So what you need to look at is the fetishes in the profile. If sexual fetishes are listed… bingo! You might get some action.

What is it with this separation of fetish and sex? Fetish does not exclude sex. It does not implicitly include it either.
I personally enjoy practicing many " fetish " activities while My cock or other body portions may be in some orifice of My partner. They do combine quite nicely. It can also give you a very direct and intimate connection to the physical reactions of your mate as you " fetish " upon them.

Who the hell thinks they are the fetish/sex God that made this rule? And why follow it?

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/11/2006 1:57:51 AM

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There is freedom and there are rules
If outside the box is what you set your heart on
There are wise men and there are fools
And outside their box a bigger carton

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RE: When it comes to sex - 5/11/2006 2:02:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: becca333

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ORIGINAL: naughtynick

Most women are all talk and no action. BDSM seems to be more about the man doing house work for them than the sexual side of things. What a waste of space.

Sweetie, you offer to do my housework for me, and I'll consider switching.