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Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 12:23:26 PM

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Not just orgasm control - outright deprivation.

I'm playing with someone online who, if she hasn't misbehaved, has gone for about three days without cumming, at my direction. I've had her play here and there, and made her beg me over the phone while doing so. I'm planning on keeping her without orgasm for a few more days still, but I have a couple of questions.

How long have you been kept from climaxing while being occasionally played with or stimulated? Does it reach a point where it becomes painful not being allowed to cum? Or is it a good pain?

RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 12:26:22 PM

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I've gone up to a week before. It has never become downright painful, just... frustrating. But I am an expert in orgasm control, can cum on command even without physical stimulation and can usually hold off on an orgasm indefinitely provided that it's my master who is holding me off. But no, it has never been painful.

That being said, if I get too close and am not given release at the right time, it can either weaken the eventual orgasm or cause me not to be able to have one at all. That is something to consider.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 12:38:03 PM

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How long have you been kept from climaxing while being occasionally played with or stimulated? Does it reach a point where it becomes painful not being allowed to cum? Or is it a good pain?

Greetings,

The intervals altered but at one point I went over eight weeks without release. I won't say that it was painful, I adjusted to it rather well. However, I possessed a distinct measure of agitation and there were instances where the teasing made me cry. It was a certain level of frustration that I couldn't satisfy nor respond to in the manner I'd prefer. Telling him what I really thought was out of the question. So I swallowed it.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 1:30:13 PM

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This is true for many women. If you deny them orgasm then after a certain amount of time they lose any desire. So be careful.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 1:53:35 PM

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Twenty excruciating years. Then I got a divorce.

OP: women don't have a "biological imperative" to orgasm. We're not like men. We can take it or leave it, according to our will. Orgasm denial and deprivation isn't going to work the same for us as it will for men, because of this difference. Its likely to frustate us in the beginning, but it won't be physically painful. The likely result with a woman is that she's going to lose interest in sex, in sex with you- or just in you.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 4:41:54 PM

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After just a few hours of being teased and not allowed to orgasm, I just lose all interest all together and it just no longer matters to me if I cum or not and the likelihood is that i won't be able to cum anymore. I just can't feel stimulation at all after that.

As for not orgasming for a long time without teasing..yeah, I've done that for years lol.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 4:43:37 PM

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OP: women don't have a "biological imperative" to orgasm. We're not like men. We can take it or leave it, according to our will. Orgasm denial and deprivation isn't going to work the same for us as it will for men, because of this difference. Its likely to frustate us in the beginning, but it won't be physically painful. The likely result with a woman is that she's going to lose interest in sex, in sex with you- or just in you.

yeeeeeeeeeeep indeedy
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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 5:43:10 PM

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I stopped sleeping. And then I came in my sleep so that ended that. But the sleep deprivation is a hard limit for me.At least if he wants me in a good mood and able to drive a car.

Beyond that, women will stop being turned on by the man who does this to them. And usually you can't turn us back on again. If put in chastity, we'll ditch the guy and get a pet.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 5:53:38 PM

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You're not an expert on all women every where, so please do not make generalization type statements of what women will do, and won't do, since it's different for all women. Not all women who're played with and denied O's will stop being attracted to the man, or will become unable to beturned on just because that's the case for you.

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I stopped sleeping. And then I came in my sleep so that ended that. But the sleep deprivation is a hard limit for me.At least if he wants me in a good mood and able to drive a car.

Beyond that, women will stop being turned on by the man who does this to them. And usually you can't turn us back on again. If put in chastity, we'll ditch the guy and get a pet.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 6:06:34 PM

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OP: women don't have a "biological imperative" to orgasm. We're not like men. We can take it or leave it, according to our will. Orgasm denial and deprivation isn't going to work the same for us as it will for men, because of this difference. Its likely to frustate us in the beginning, but it won't be physically painful. The likely result with a woman is that she's going to lose interest in sex, in sex with you- or just in you.

yeeeeeeeeeeep indeedy
just requoting for truth. =p

Yep....

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 6:18:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming
OP: women don't have a "biological imperative" to orgasm. We're not like men. We can take it or leave it, according to our will. Orgasm denial and deprivation isn't going to work the same for us as it will for men, because of this difference. Its likely to frustate us in the beginning, but it won't be physically painful. The likely result with a woman is that she's going to lose interest in sex, in sex with you- or just in you.

yeeeeeeeeeeep indeedy
just requoting for truth. =p

Yep....

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 7:25:17 PM

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How long have you been kept from climaxing while being occasionally played with or stimulated? Does it reach a point where it becomes painful not being allowed to cum? Or is it a good pain?

How long? Dude I was married for 10 years.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 9:09:56 PM

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The longer I go without an orgasm the easier it is for me. I can lose interest quickly.. now if I am teased and denied, it is painful for me and I get very very agitated and upset. I will beg forever and if told No and its a definate no I know I would get pissed... but thats just me, I am also a spoiled girl when it comes to orgasms.. my Daddy isn't interested in Orgasm control or deprivation.. if I want the control part and want to beg for it I have to tell him what I want but he doesn't get anything out of it. He likes to please me just as I like to please him...

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 10:09:16 PM

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for me if you bring me too close and deny me several times I get a strong pain in my ovary areas that puts me in tears. Its like period cramping but much much much worse.

So my mind to protect my body from that awful pain will not after the third time being close with out orgasm allow me to orgasm again for a couple of days...

As for the side effects I get cranky, my fuse gets shorter, and if its done often i find myself someone who will make me cum and say good bye...

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/10/2011 10:19:57 PM

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OP: women don't have a "biological imperative" to orgasm. We're not like men. We can take it or leave it, according to our will. Orgasm denial and deprivation isn't going to work the same for us as it will for men, because of this difference. Its likely to frustate us in the beginning, but it won't be physically painful. The likely result with a woman is that she's going to lose interest in sex, in sex with you- or just in you.

Mostly the same on this side of testostorone, fwiw.

If I've gone a while without release, I tend to just not think of sex as often. It's still there, but muted. I also tend to lose interest in lovers if I'm not reaching orgasm. Also, getting the motor started again takes longer and spews 2-cycle oil mixed with gasoline all over the place.

That said, blue balls are very unpleasant. very.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/11/2011 3:17:54 AM

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I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 41. I never knew I hadn't had one. I could cum, but an orgasm wasn't something I thought I was missing out on. Now, to be controlled or denied is just plain unfair as far as I'm concerned. I went 29 yrs total without the damn things, I figure I'm due for quite a number of them now. Just MHO.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/11/2011 9:09:57 AM

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I didn't have my first orgasm until I was 41. I never knew I hadn't had one. I could cum, but an orgasm wasn't something I thought I was missing out on. Now, to be controlled or denied is just plain unfair as far as I'm concerned. I went 29 yrs total without the damn things, I figure I'm due for quite a number of them now. Just MHO.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/11/2011 10:03:33 AM

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^^^^^ yup, same for me. And how would the Doms like to have their orgasms controlled or denied? Methinks it wouldn't go over too well.

"No, bad Dom, you can't come, now don't make me get out the newspaper and smack you on the nose!!!!!

Aaaaaaaaaaaand I think Dom would make this a HARD LIMIT and said sub should ruuuun for the hills cuz there'd be DANGER and possibly, nope, probably lots of this

and this

and this

and this

and this

!!!!!

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/11/2011 10:18:38 AM

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Teasing during fun time is one thing, but denying too often, especially when you are right there on the edge...uh, no way.

Like the other women said, if you go too long, the orgasm is truncated or doesn't happen at all.

Worse, if you annoy me by trying that too often or you wait too long, I am no longer interested in you.

The object of sex is to have an orgasm, for me at least and if I am not having a fabulous time, then no one is going to.

And I have always been mystified by the whole concept of orgasm denial. Here is a secret: the more you make a woman scream in orgasm, the more she will do for you and be into you.

Seems logical to me.

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RE: Orgasm Deprivation - how long? - 3/11/2011 10:31:26 AM

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OK, to give a serious answer, in my experience the girls are right. Continuous teasing does lead to shutting down of desire. This applies to both genders. Now if this is that particular person's kink it may work differently. I only use it when we are to be apart for a few days...masturbate almost to release every day for the few days we are apart...so she is hot and bothered when we get together. But as anything other than an occasional game...no. Women can cum and cum and cum...and I enjoy helping them do that...its one of the many wonderful things about women. I don't care how many times a girl of mine orgasms...the more the merrier. Being with me is supposed to be sexually thrilling...not frustrating.

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