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Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 5:12:45 PM

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I will be serving Mistress Cinthia known as (collarworthy) on this site, starting in July. I really love this woman and I want to serve her for the rest of my life. We have agreed that even if she is a switch, I will always be her slave and I will never be permitted to dominate her. My Mistress is however very worried that my presence in her home might drive away dominant males from wanting to dominate her in bed. She really loves to be treated like a whore in the bedroom as states her profile and she does not want to lose this exciting real time bedroom action.

Will my presence interfere with her sex life?

Will alpha males still want to abuse my Mistress knowing she owns a slave?

We are both new to this, so all the advice can only help us.

Urantiam

RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 5:16:28 PM

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Just my opinion? It won't matter to many longtime lifestylers. In fact, I've heard of dominants who especially enjoy topping other tops.

Congratulation on your new service. Best of luck.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 5:16:49 PM

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If you are both new I do NOT recommend a live in relationship until you two have your heads together and the dust settles--IMHEO, this is too much way too fast for newbies--

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 5:22:25 PM

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You get that feeling a well, MH? I got it too, but will admit that there is a chance it will work out perfectly fine... but being a gambling man, it's not a chance that I would place a wager on...

Ah well, it's their choice to make, and their problems to deal with if it fails... either way it goes, I, somehow, have complete faith that we'll hear about it... *chuckling softly*

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 5:46:41 PM

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When I glanced at your Mistress' profile, it looks like she is seeking several subs to serve her in her home. If she is seeking additional subs, I am guessing that your presence alone is not going to be that much of a concern when it comes to dominant males.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 5:57:36 PM

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Have you met and spent time together real time?

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 6:14:47 PM

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quote:

My Mistress is however very worried that my presence in her home might drive away dominant males from wanting to dominate her in bed. She really loves to be treated like a whore in the bedroom as states her profile and she does not want to lose this exciting real time bedroom action.

Will my presence interfere with her sex life?

Will alpha males still want to abuse my Mistress knowing she owns a slave?

We are both new to this, so all the advice can only help us.

Man... I can't believe you're saying this. Why let these other dudes have all the fun? Are you not capable of filling that role? Do you not want to? As a fellow poster and friend of mine would say : Maybe its time to grow a ''sac''.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 6:39:37 PM

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quote:

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If you are both new I do NOT recommend a live in relationship until you two have your heads together and the dust settles--IMHEO, this is too much way too fast for newbies--

I'll second this advice.

I'll add that in my experience multiple partner work out best when added one at a time and slowly so that each pairing and each new person can settle in.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 6:42:33 PM

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Oh my, just read both profiles and thinks sooner rather than later.

urantiam I have the same question for you that Proprietrix has asked; have you had the opportunity to meet in real time, chat, get to know one another before moving in? I think that should be more of a concern than whether your Mistress will get her leg over a bit of rough (as that is usually readily available).

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 6:57:49 PM

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To answer your question, no Mistress Cinthia and me did not meet yet!

Urantiam

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 7:13:46 PM

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Perhaps you should ask the Dominants who are considering using her?

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 8:09:20 PM

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To answer your question, no Mistress Cinthia and me did not meet yet!

Urantiam

Well I wish you both the very best of luck and much happiness when you do get together.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 9:15:54 PM

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To answer your question, no Mistress Cinthia and me did not meet yet!

Urantiam

i'm sorry, maybe i'm missing something here. You haven't met this woman but you love her?????? i strongly recommend you slow WAY down and think.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 9:23:59 PM

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They haven't met yet, and not more than 4 days ago, the boy was trolling for Dommes on here....I received emails from him. LOL

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 9:28:15 PM

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Just make sure she's not a fruitcake and that you are thinking with your head, not your dick. You might also want to explore how your heart feels about sharing. Will you feel compersion or jealously? Is your Mistress together enough to manage a poly situation? This shit is complicated, and its not for the faint of heart.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 9:47:13 PM

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Lady Angel.

It says in my new profile that I have been in contact with other dommes. I also thank them for the time they have given me. But the decision of becoming Mistress Cynthia's property was not mine, but hers. I had to wait to know if she wanted slaves in her life. Last week her profile said she was a sub and she will always be one in the bedroom. So! When I offered to be her slave, she said she had to think about the concept.

There is no dishonesty on my part.
I love this woman with all my heart.

urantiam

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 9:52:41 PM

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Just make sure she's not a fruitcake...

It takes fruits and nuts to make a good cake, cloudboy. As long as you don't leave your cake out in the rain...

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 9:55:46 PM

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Lady Angel.

It says in my new profile that I have been in contact with other dommes. I also thank them for the time they have given me. But the decision of becoming Mistress Cynthia's property was not mine, but hers. I had to wait to know if she wanted slaves in her life. Last week her profile said she was a sub and she will always be one in the bedroom. So! When I offered to be her slave, she said she had to think about the concept.

There is no dishonesty on my part.
I love this woman with all my heart.

urantiam

Crikey .... I really hope this works out for you ... but you know, in my limited experience - it is hard enough to find a vanilla relationship that works like clockwork ... let alone a D/s relationship. I can totally understand why people spend a lifetime looking for a Parner (feels like I have - it's been 25 years). Some never find it. In looking in the D/s world you are already cutting down your pool of suitable mates considerably....

I have been lucky. My second Domme is now my life partner. I wish you that same luck - sincerely I do.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 10:10:03 PM

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Lady Angel.

It says in my new profile that I have been in contact with other dommes. I also thank them for the time they have given me. But the decision of becoming Mistress Cynthia's property was not mine, but hers. I had to wait to know if she wanted slaves in her life. Last week her profile said she was a sub and she will always be one in the bedroom. So! When I offered to be her slave, she said she had to think about the concept.

There is no dishonesty on my part.
I love this woman with all my heart.

In small ways, big ideas come. To be a slave is not a light measure. It is a part of your very nature. It is what you feel with every breathe you take. Every step you make is part of your devotion, to your submission. It takes strength to give of yourself in this way. It is not a game, but a way of life. Love is a vanilla word. Because you will give in ways that no other can. Because it is the very nature that defines you.
???? Love? Think again.

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RE: Mistress is worried - 5/7/2006 10:20:43 PM

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It sounds like a lot of confusion is going on here and this is a recipe for disaster. Mistress thought she was submissive last week, now she has decided wants slaves but to be dommed by other Doms in bed. However, in another thread you state she is setting up a harem of slaves and wants you to be the alpha.

She has only begun to figure out who she is, and she is bringing all sorts of others in the mix, and you appear to be the one caught in the crossfire. You have concerns how the other Doms will see you, and you have concerns how the other slaves will see you. Seems to me Miss Cinthia has some work to do - on herself, first.

If I understand this correctly, she has not met you in person but wants you to live with her...and she thought she was a sub until last week, but now wants a harem of slaves, with you the alpha, only she will submit to others as well. And last week you were open to other Dommes because you didn't know if you would be owned by her.

No offense, but it sounds like a mess.

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