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A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 3:59:51 PM

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Power over the submissive is not something she consciously gives, power over her is something she makes available to be taken, usually she dose this subconsciously. The good dominant understands this and takes it as it becomes available. Power over her is made available in bits and pieces and not all at once. Think of it as a collection of pieces of string wound up into a ball. This ball of string represents the submissive and from time to time a piece of string comes unraveled and is made available to be pulled off. This piece of string may be available for a short time and never made available again. The good dominant must be able to spot the loose pieces of string and be able to pull them off in a timely manner. As these pieces of string are striped away she may act in a protesting manner and say she wants it back but usually this is an unconscious act of testing the dominant and his resolution to keep the string he acquires. His success in acquiring string is measured by the amount of string he can acquire against the amount of string she has left. If his ball of string is bigger than the ball of string she has left, he has acquired more power over her than she has will to resist. The test of a good dominant is in his ability to spot these pieces of string as they are made available and to see which pieces are unencumbered by other string and can be safely peeled off in a timely fashion and then keep them.

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RE: A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 4:12:40 PM

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I honestly thought this would be a thread about kittens or playful submissives ... *sigh*

But, yes ... The analogy is pretty accurate. I am completely repulsed by dominants who seem to think that because I'm submissive, I'll give over all my secrets at once. It would take a man years to even begin to scratch the surface ... I would think he would relish the challenge, balancing his desire to simply pry me open and peek inside with the need to be patient and let it happen naturally.

My first dominant said it best when he brought me a flower ... Its petals were completely closed but you could see slight hints of the brilliant red and orange hues that it would eventually display. He told me that I was like that flower ... He *could* pull the petals open and see what was inside if he wanted to but it would kill the flower and he'd never get to see it in full bloom and all its glory. Or he could nurture it, give it sunshine, water and a lil miracle gro ...

Our relationship didn't last but his words have stuck with me.

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RE: A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 4:31:51 PM

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As these pieces of string are striped away she may act in a protesting manner and say she wants it back but usually this is an unconscious act of testing the dominant and his resolution to keep the string he acquires. His success in acquiring string is measured by the amount of string he can acquire against the amount of string she has left. If his ball of string is bigger than the ball of string she has left, he has acquired more power over her than she has will to resist.

If I ask for my string back, I really want it back. This seems more like a power stuggle or battle of wills than an exhange of authority where both people get what they want/need.

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RE: A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 5:23:37 PM

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But there are lots of doms who want their slaves to have MORE "string/power" as time goes on- they want them to become more trained, more skilled, better attributes.

Anyway, it's not about power for me, it's about authority. And what you're saying here is just another romanticized/overgeneralistic approaches that you've put in essays several times here now.

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RE: A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 5:27:42 PM

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Sounds to Me like its all the submissive, then when the string is gone its all the Dom, I much prefer:

http://www.collarchat.com/The_Braid_and_the_Knots/m_347997/tm.htm

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RE: A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 5:29:59 PM

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Well I like the way he put it myself. I never really thought of it that way......

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RE: A ball of string. - 5/8/2006 5:34:45 PM

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Substitute authority for power, I have no qualms with that.

And the point is it’s not just taken or given all at once, but over a period of time and if you knew me you’d find I was far from a dewy eyed romantic.

Yes what I write is generalized but it all stems from personal experience of mine, and this approach has worked for me.

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